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My name is Tiffany and I'm from the United States. He received a good education from an early age, his family was rich, and after graduating from college, he came to China to become a foreign teacher.
In China, I met a man who moved me, his name was Cai Xiaohua, a security guard at the school where I worked. Under my constant pursuit, he finally agreed to be with me, and finally married and formed a happy family, and gave birth to a cute mixed-race baby.
But our love story is not smooth sailing, and there are many ups and downs.
After coming to China from the United States, I fell deeply in love with China. Although everything here is very different from the United States, Chinese is very kind and simple, and the city is constantly evolving.
One day, as usual, I went to work at the school and suddenly saw a security guard at the school gate, and his face with a sunny smile immediately touched my heart.
I found myself in love with the security guard, a feeling I later learned, in Chinese parlance, called love at first sight.
And he is my later husband Cai Xiaohua, a rural native of Henan.
I had never met him before, thinking it must have been recruited by the school.
In our America, if you like someone, you have to say it boldly. But at that time, my Chinese was not good, and Chinese was very shy, and the way of expressing emotions was also very conservative, and if I was like an American, I would probably scare him.
Moreover, I don't know Xiaohua yet, what if he already has a girlfriend, what if he is already married?
So I could only silently pass him by every day when I went to work, and then say to him with Chinese, "Hello." ”
Every time, he would smile very brightly and say to me enthusiastically, "Hello." ”
Finally, one day, I plucked up the courage and prepared to take the initiative to talk. But hooking up always has to be a little strategic, so I thought of a way to learn Chinese as a reason.
Xiaohua was very enthusiastic, and he agreed to teach me English.
In this process, the two of us are like children doing games, every day you draw I guess.
He kept his promise very well, and after promising me, although he was only a beginner Chinese, he couldn't understand English, and he didn't know how to teach others to learn Chinese, but he racked his brains and looked for a way.
Later, he found the old newspaper, and every day he would circle out the Chinese characters on it, one by one, and then keep comparing and making gestures to explain to me.
No matter how I asked him, he would be very patient, over and over again. At that time, although I didn't understand much, I was very happy to be with him every day.
I can also see that he is a very responsible and good man.
At that time, Xiaohua, I only regarded me as a friend. However, the distance between us was narrowed little by little, and the feelings quickly warmed up.
My feelings for him are getting deeper and deeper, and the two of them are also very tacit. Although he couldn't understand what I was saying, he could understand it immediately with just a few gestures.
So the two of us talked about nothing, and I decided to confess and say my love for him.
One day I found him and wanted to say it, but after all, it was a girl, somewhat shy. He saw the way I wanted to talk and stopped, and thought I was in some trouble.
I saw him like this, so I plucked up the courage and said the words "I love you."
When he heard it, he was stunned at first. I could tell that my words startled him, which made it hard for him to accept for a moment, so I thought he didn't like me.
Later, I learned that for Chinese, marriage sometimes emphasizes the right door, and there is also a kind of responsibility. They will take into account the financial situation and whether they can take care of each other.
Xiaohua comes from a poor rural area in China and is a very simple Chinese youth.
At that time, he came to work in a big city like Guangzhou, and his idea was very simple, that is, to find a job and work hard to earn money, and then improve the life of his family.
For him, he never considered falling in love when the financial conditions were not met. I never thought of falling in love with a foreign girl like me.
Moreover, considering my financial situation, he has some inferiority in his heart. Because in his view, he was just an ordinary university security guard, with no economic ability and no social status, and his education was not high, just a junior high school graduate.
So he didn't think he deserved me.
But none of this seems to me to be a problem, and it is enough for me to like him.
And he thinks like this, but also makes me feel that he is a responsible man, in the face of feelings, he thinks more about responsibility, which undoubtedly gives me a sense of security.
He didn't promise me, and when I went to work later, I couldn't see him at the school gate. When I went to the school to ask, I learned that he had taken a month's leave from his unit and gone to Yunnan to visit his relatives.
At that time, he wanted me to calm down, after all, feelings are not children's plays, and they need to be carefully considered.
He thought that after a while he would come back, we could, as usual, just be a pair of close friends.
But he didn't make me back down. Instead, my feelings for him grew day by day, and I didn't bother him, but waited at school for him to come back.
Every day when I think of him, I write all my thoughts into my diary, day after day, and wait until a month later, when he returns.
I showed him the diary I had written, and I wanted him to understand that my liking for him was not a whim, but a genuine love.
After seeing my diary, although he could not fully understand it, he was deeply moved, so he accepted my confession.
The two of us finally came together.
In the days of social interaction, we are very happy and sweet. Usually, we go to the park together and eat at a restaurant.
With his company, I was very happy. After all, I am far away in China, and my hometown is thousands of miles away, and it is he who makes me feel the warmth of home.
Something interesting also happened during this time.
I remember once, we went to eat at a Western restaurant, and I carefully dressed up, high heels with a cheongsam unique to China.
He was dressed very ordinary, even wearing only a pair of slippers.
When we walked into the high-end Western restaurant, many people pointed out to us, because our dress was too different, and he felt very sorry. But in my opinion, that's the side of his candor, and I don't care about that.
What others think is their right and freedom, but it cannot affect the feelings between us.
However, the relationship between us is very good, but after all, the background of life is very different, and the cultural difference is very large.
Therefore, there will be a lot of friction, the most common of which is to eat. I usually only eat Western food such as sandwiches, and I am not very accustomed to Chinese food.
He likes to eat Chinese food, especially noodles.
So every time I went out to dinner, finding a suitable restaurant became a problem, and I quarreled several times.
It was all little things, but once he left me.
At that time, I had some problems with my body, and my parents knew about it, so that I could receive better treatment and take better care of me, so they let me temporarily return to the United States to recuperate.
But what they don't know is that in China I can still get good treatment, and here, I am no longer alone, with Xiaohua around, he will also do his best to take care of me.
But after I told him this, within a few days, he actually submitted his resignation and went back to his hometown.
He left this time, not because he was troublesome, but because he, like my parents, thought that I could only get better treatment if I returned to the United States, so he wanted to force me to go back in this way.
When he did this, his heart was also painful.
There is a lyric in China: Choose to let go for love. Isn't a good Chinese man like this the best person to stay with for a lifetime?
So a month later, I called him and told him about a very important decision for me.
I hope to marry him, start a family, have a healthy and lovely baby, and work together for a lifetime.
It may seem to others that we are not suitable for each other, and even some people will be very surprised. But love knows no borders, and as long as I love him, why can't I be together?
So marrying him, growing old with a white head, is my greatest wish.
And Xiaohua is also very brave this time, he is no longer inferior, ready to face the ups and downs of the future with me.
So I'm ready to introduce him to my parents.
Although Xiao Hua was a little worried in his heart, in Chinese terms, after all, this time he was going to see his future "father-in-law and mother-in-law", and he must have been a little worried.
For example, my parents will not resent his conditions, will they oppose the affairs between us.
But his worries were superfluous because I had already told my parents about me and him.
They said: As long as I like it, it is good to find a Chinese son-in-law.
In the process of videotaping with my parents, I can see that my parents are very fond of Xiaohua.
My mom also told me that he now knows why I chose to be with Xiaohua because he is really very handsome.
The support of my parents made me extremely happy, which showed that our marriage was half successful, and Xiaohua did not immediately agree to my request to get married.
He planned to let me go to his hometown to see him first, then meet his family, and then let me decide.
A few days later, I got off the plane, and Xiaohua walked into the flower shop for the first time, waiting for me at the airport in order to buy a bouquet of flowers.
I could tell he was very excited and nervous.
And I couldn't help but get nervous, because my Chinese was not good, and I didn't know what to say or do when I met his parents. His parents wouldn't like me.
Xiaohua on the side also kept comforting me, although the road was very bumpy, but I calmed down.
As long as he holds my hand, what else is there to worry about?
Unexpectedly, I just arrived in their village and immediately caused a sensation.
Later, Xiaohua told me that for their poor little mountain village, I was like a fairy falling from the sky.
After all, in their village, there are usually few daughters-in-law from other places, but I am a beautiful girl from the United States, which is a rare thing.
So the whole village gathered around the entrance of the village and looked at the two of us.
But I was no different from them, and they looked around me like this, which made me feel very uneasy.
When Xiaohua saw me like this, he took me back to the city, where we went to the mall and ate. He wanted me to calm down, and he tentatively asked me what I was thinking.
Although my heart was worried, it was because too many people were watching. And the idea that I wanted to marry him didn't change, and I didn't mind his family conditions.
Receiving my affirmative answer, Xiao Hua's heart also let go.
Later, we went to Xiaohua's house, and I met his father, and I also saw his sister, and my cute little nephew. The family was very welcoming to me and the trip was very enjoyable for me.
Now that both parents are willing, it is natural to get married, but Xiaohua has delayed proposing to me, which is bad for me.
Although there is no such tradition in China, in the United States, marriage proposals are sometimes even more important than weddings.
But Mu Ne Xiaohua just can't see my thoughts, even if he took me to buy a wedding ring, he still can't think of this matter, so I can only keep hinting to him, fortunately, Xiao Hua's "elm head" has finally opened up.
And he was also very romantic, took me to a sunflower field, and then got down on one knee and proposed to me.
I was speechless with excitement. Finally, after so much, we are going to enter the palace of marriage.
In order to commemorate this happy and sweet one, when I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get my marriage license, I put on my favorite Chinese white cheongsam.
In order to let us get more blessings, Xiaohua chose to hold a wedding in his hometown that combines Chinese and Western. This wedding is special and lively.
On that day, the village was even more lively than the New Year, and several people from the village came to witness our wedding.
Outside, firecrackers rang out, and people gathered in the courtyard, eating wedding feasts and sending blessings.
During this period, there are many other parts of our wedding, which are local customs, such as picking up money from a basin of water. They told me that this meant that I would be the "head of the family" in the future, and Xiaohua would have to take care of me with all her heart.
There are also worships to heaven and earth, giving tea to Xiaohua's elders and recognizing relatives, and so on.
Since it is a combination of East and West, then the exchange ring is also indispensable.
Although my parents could not come to China at that time, they also sent us deep blessings through video calls.
Everything seemed to me to be perfect and happy.
After that, it was indeed as said at the wedding, I was the "head of the family", and Xiaohua was very kind to me. Although after getting married, Xiaohua was not yet able to buy a house, when I got married, I did not ask for a bride price. But it has no impact on our lives.
And the birth of our adorable mixed-race baby also brought us more joy.
My wish came true and it was perfect.
After that, I believe that our family will continue to live happily ever after.
And Xiaohua and I will also be like the vows we made at the wedding: the hand of the son and the son will grow old, and support each other to complete this life.