There are many people who are not worthy of Jiang Ge, and have made friends like Liu Xin (Liu Nuanxi), who blocked their friends and were killed when their lives were in danger. If this can still be understood, after the incident, instead of being grateful and giving sympathy and comfort to the relatives of the deceased, it is inhumane to provoke them with inappropriate words and further aggravate the pain of others.
So I'm reflecting on the question, what kind of people should we be friends with? Confucius once had three types of classic beneficial friends and lossy friends, "friends are straight, friendly forgiveness, friends are more heard, beneficial; friends are easy to break, friendly and soft, friendly and gentle, friendly and gentle, loss." "It means honest, responsible, knowledgeable friends, and more contacts." And those who are flattered, inconsistent and rhetorical, try to stay away.
We live in this world, everyone needs friends, otherwise it is all about the interaction of interests, which will inevitably make people feel lonely. So I think that friends are first and foremost an equal relationship, and if you are aware of the inequality with each other and are still willing to associate, it means that you are asking for each other, not making friends, because you are the other party's horseman. So I respect those who always emphasize how awesome they are, and I look away from them, who don't know anyone, what to wear.
Secondly, the self-esteem between friends generally does not have to be too strong, people with too strong self-esteem are often too sensitive, and it is common for girlfriends to gag between dead parties and pat each other on the bricks. If you don't have some friends like this, how tired are you every day? The nerves between friends should be larger, and maintain a blunt feeling in order to go long together.
Secondly, friends will definitely help each other keep secrets, private gatherings, WeChat group chats, absolutely not outside, otherwise whose life is opened to the outside world to watch, it is really difficult to explain, after all, there is a context for chatting between friends. But any friend who can't keep your secret must immediately remove the good friend list immediately, because you have no idea when you will be sold.
In the end, friends should not be the object of making cheap money from each other, for example, someone said to me: For the sake of our friends, can you let me make some cheap? I said did you have any misunderstanding about your friend? Friends should be the ones you help him get more out of.
If you always want to make a profit from your friends, why don't you start a business and hire some employees? Or you go to a relationship and be a scumbag. How to help friends earn more profits, this is my unswerving sense of mission to my friends. Therefore, people like Lao Luo who sell goods in the name of making a friend, the ghost believes that he regards you as a friend.
You said that making a friend is still so troublesome, so what is the use of friends? I have really summed up this, really good friends, in fact, have four kinds of value, Confucius called me an insider.
The value of the first kind of friend is the healing value, that is, no matter what happens to them, someone can talk to them, and the other party will always listen patiently, and the key is to respond. No matter how scarred you are by society, you have a harbor to go to, and friends are waiting there to heal your wounds. After talking to them, you feel much better, which is called healing value.
The value of the second kind of friend is the guiding value, the friend will always stand in your position to help you think of a way, without selfishness to help you come up with advice, and to help you solve the problem as their mission. You go to apply, you fall out of love, you're bullied, and they can always stand by and remind you what to do, rather than allowing you to make decisions emotionally.
The value of the third kind of friend is the value of sharing, that is to say, when you want to share any news or opinion, you can always find friends at the first time, everyone gossips and eats melons together, and gets bored together. It really can't work, you can also meme bucket map, bucket half a day is not boring, it can be said that this must be a good friend who can go through a lifetime, because it is difficult for both mouths to do this.
The value of the fourth type of friend is the value of companionship, if you are bored or want to eat hot pot, you can always find them to accompany you, no matter when, when you need companionship, they will always appear within their ability. Friends are your refuge to some extent, this shelter is always closed, you just show up and start business, this is the value of companionship.
The value of these four kinds of friends, if you can do one, you can become a friend, if you can do two, you are a dead party, if you can do three, you can make friends, if you can do four, I think you can consider getting married.
