There is a classic line in "Witch House Rush":
Growing up is a deal, and we all exchange the courage to grow up with simple innocence and untrained whiteness.
Growth is an eternal topic, anyone will grow, everyone's growth experience is different, but we will always encounter the same problems and troubles. Growing up, Heart of Atlantis is a movie worth watching.
The film is based on Stephen King's novel of the same name, and in the eyes of many, Stephen King's works may be pure horror and horror, but this film is completely different from his previous style, telling a warm story about growth and emotion.
The boy in the film, Bobby, lost his father at a very young age and spent six years of uneventful childhood alone with his mother in a small town. But with the appearance of tenant Ted, his life has undergone a huge transformation, and Ted, who has the ability to read minds, not only gives Bobby fatherly love, but also teaches him how to grow.
<h1>01 Growing up is about learning to be brave and overcome fear</h1>
The former Bobby was a very timid child, and he did not even have the courage to chase the newspaper in his hand when he was snatched away by the bad boy Harry. Once, on the way home with his little friend Carol, he was suddenly surrounded by Harry and others, who had no power to fight back, but fortunately Ted passed by at that time, alleviating the "crisis".
Later, during his time with Ted, Bobby gradually learned to be brave and became strong.
Due to the constant appearance of the Man in Black, Ted had to choose to leave, and on the day he left, sensing that Carol was in danger, he asked Bobby to look for her, and when Bobby found Carol, her arm dislocated and she lay on the ground in pain unable to move.
Bobby, who encountered this situation for the first time, was frightened, but instead of running away, he comforted Carol while carrying her out of the valley with his small body, and finally carried Carol home with strong perseverance.
That time, he learned to be strong.
Due to his mother's leak, Ted eventually failed to escape the hunt of the Man in Black, and Bobby also had a big fight with his mother, because he was sad and sad, so he often ran to the valley alone, once he was about to go home, but happened to be stopped by Harry, facing the tall Harry, this time he did not flinch, but overcame his fear, snatched the stick from Harry's hand, and beat him to the ground.
That time, he learned to be brave.
No one is born brave, we are all through step by step efforts, overcome fear, and gradually make their hearts stronger. Sometimes, the things that make you afraid are not as terrible as you think, the real fear comes from your heart, and only by daring to face your heart can you overcome your fear and become brave.
<h1>02 Growth is about recognizing human nature and learning to be tolerant</h1>
Tor Jefferson once said:
Everyone lives for their own good and is selfish.
Bobby's mother in the film is like this, as a mother, she is selfish and mean enough to buy expensive clothes for herself with the money she earns, rather than buying a small gift for her birthday son.
Whenever Bobby talked about wanting to buy a beloved bike, she would always prevaricate her son for various reasons; when Bobby wanted to ask her for some money to go to the amusement park with Carol, she just threw a sentence: "Use your own savings to buy a bicycle." ”
The author of the book "The Selfish Gene" once analyzed human beings this way:
We are all survival machines—robots as means of delivery whose programs are blindly programmed in order to preserve the selfish elements of the so-called genes forever.
From this point of view, Bobby is willing to read the newspaper for Ted to buy a bicycle, Bobby's mother buys a lot of clothes for beauty, Harry apologizes to Bobby in order to keep his secrets, Ted lets Bobby put a sentry for him to escape the hunt of the Man in Black, and the Man in Black hunts down Ted for his own interests, all of which are the manifestations of people living for their own interests.
From a biological point of view, such an analysis is not unreasonable, but it is too rational and ruthless, and I always believe that there is still something emotional between people and people.
Bobby's mother will worry about her son who ran away from home in danger, Ted will worry that Bobby, who is collecting money for himself, will be in danger, Bobby will cry because Ted was taken away by the Man in Black, and everything behind this is derived from emotion, from love.
Born as human beings, we cannot be perfect, the weaknesses of human nature are inevitable, and the existence of growth is to teach us how to recognize human nature, and in the process of getting along with others, learn to understand, tolerate and forgive.
<h1>03 Growth is learning to accept loss</h1>
The days with Ted, for Bobby, were undoubtedly the best of his life. This wonderful experience was like the light of Atlantis, opening a window into a wonderful world for Bobby's heart. But the beauty is coming to an end, and Teddy is leaving.
When Bobby first asked him, "If the Man in Black starts driving around here and codes start to appear on the poles, do you have to leave too?" ”
Ted replied, "Yes, that situation is no longer safe for me, and it is not enough to have good wishes." ”
When Bobby asked Ted again, "When are you leaving?" Can we meet again? ”
Ted replied, "No, good wishes are not enough." ”
Bobby always wanted to keep Ted, but Ted eventually left.
After all, people have to grow, and growth means loss. The Taiwanese writer Liu Yong said:
Growing up is a beautiful pain.
It is beautiful because it has hurt, and it is unforgettable because it has been lost.
It's a process that each of us can't avoid, but losing isn't just about losing, it also means we're gaining something, such as knowledge, experience, courage.
As Sanmao said:
Growth is a kind of transformation, the loss of the old, necessarily because of the new, this is fairness.
In fact, each of us has encountered our own "Ted" in our lives, he may be a person, perhaps a thing, perhaps a book, perhaps an experience, let us in a moment inadvertently, become another self.