To grow fast, you need to have a double-self mindset. What is Dual Self Thinking? It is that you must always have another you in your mind, this you are independent of your body, and you should look at it from a third perspective

To grow fast, you need to have a double-self mindset.

What is Dual Self Thinking? It is that you must always have another you in your mind, this you are independent of your body, using a third perspective to observe your thoughts and words and deeds, and reporting to you what it observes, and will also ask you questions, but not judge. The choice is still on you first.

For example, when many people are angry, they feel that their minds are blank, and what others say cannot be listened to at all, they feel that they must vent out, or they will explode, and at that time they feel that they are no longer themselves, because they cannot control their behavior at all. People are in the mood and are easily overwhelmed by emotions, because there is only one choice and no other way.

And at this point, if someone says to you, wait a minute, I remind you that you are in an angry mood right now. You may suddenly feel relieved. And this person can't be someone else, because someone tells you that you can't listen, it can only be yourself. Only by telling yourself will you not arouse greater emotions and you will be able to listen to them. This is the other you in your head, an objective, rational, emotionless you. When it intervenes, your emotions may be instantly halved and your behavior becomes controllable. It's like a scruffy you look in the mirror, you will be surprised first, it turns out that I am like this, and then you will immediately sort out your image.

Howard Max, the founder of Oak Capital, divides his thinking into two layers: "the first layer of thinking me" is an ordinary me, thinking like others; "the second layer of thinking I" is the superior me, to take into account the opinions of everyone in the first layer, and even to carry out completely opposite reverse thinking.

Fitzgerald says that being able to act normally while maintaining two diametrically opposed ideas is a sign of first-rate wisdom. Many people do not understand this sentence, how can there be two diametrically opposed concepts? Isn't that a contradiction? In fact, it is reasonable for you to understand it in your double-self thinking. The first me, the ordinary me, has a point of view, while the second I observe and think about why do I have this point of view?

For example, if you are walking on the street and a stranger comes across from you and scolds you, what is your first reaction? You must be very angry and want to scold him. This you are the first you, but at this time, if the other you, say to you, why would you want to scold back? You feel humiliated. Why do you feel humiliated? Because he said it wrong, what he said wasn't right is his business, does it have anything to do with you? If you think like this, you may not only not scold him, but instead want to smile at him and say, you are right.

And those who do not have self-thinking, their brains are always a tendon, thinking that only their own views are correct, others are wrong, there is only one way to do things, that is, according to their own right methods, and can only see their own methods, nothing else. That's Charlie. Munger said that people who only have a hammer in their hands look like all problems are nails. For them, it's not that they have decades of experience, but that one experience has been used for decades.

The essence of double-self thinking is to let yourself have one more person in your heart, let him talk to himself, repeatedly discuss, and test the correctness of his thinking. When you are proficient in using the dual-self thinking, your growth is like a tiger.

———— Feng Zixiong