If you have just entered a new company and see strange colleagues around you, are you a little worried? How to quickly get acquainted with these people and better integrate into the new company, the new team?
Instead of learning advanced techniques, here are a few ways to get you off the hook quickly:
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Think about yourself in an unfamiliar environment, such as a university or a former company, who are the most familiar people? Who do you have the best relationship with?
If nothing else, it should be the following:
The quickest familiar person should be: the person closest to your seat, or the colleague who has the most contact at work.
The best relationship is maintained: the fellow of the colleagues, people who are similar to your personality, "smell the same", and have the same hobbies
These are actually the two basic principles of human nature: the principle of laziness and the principle of narcissism
The principle of laziness: Simply put, everyone is more willing to contact people within reach.
People are lazy, then the most you can contact is actually the colleagues near the workstation, the most contact with the personnel administration at work, the direct leaders of the department, the colleagues in the same work area, and certainly not the colleagues who are separated by several floors.
Narcissistic principle: People like to get along with people who are similar to themselves, or have common interests, experiences or characteristics, the most common is fellow countrymen, classmates, or people in the same position, or have the same hobbies, such as reading books and listening to music. Because there are many similarities, it is easier to communicate and easier to quickly contact and form relationships.
After analyzing the above content, you have actually found that human instincts are already guiding you how to quickly integrate into unfamiliar groups and societies, and you can grasp 2 principles: the principle of laziness (contact with the nearest person) and the principle of narcissism (developing relationships with similar people).
This is due to human nature, do not need you to deliberately do anything, so you actually do not need to learn any advanced communication skills, you are already good at it, just how to remove the stones that may appear and master certain skills, we will answer for you below.
Basic principles of communication
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="14" > second, to break the misunderstanding of self-perception in interpersonal communication</h1>
As mentioned above, you are actually very good at interacting with strangers, but many times it does not go well, it is some differences in self-perception, the following is a few points for you:
1, I don't have to take the initiative to talk to others:
Many people who are not very good at communication will find it very difficult to talk to strangers, so they will find an excuse to comfort themselves that I do not need to take the initiative to talk to people. But please think differently, a strange colleague, take the initiative to say hello to you, release kindness to you, will you hate this person? In fact, people do not have a bad impression because of the active and appropriate greetings of others.
For a group of newcomers, you should take the initiative to greet others, rather than waiting for others to take the initiative to greet you.
2, talking to strangers is terrible:
Many people will find it terrible to talk to a stranger, but this fear can be said specifically, and there are not too many reasons, probably such as, I will not talk about bad people hate me and so on. Deep inside, what you are afraid of is not how you will be perceived by others when you speak, but the result of your instinctive fear of the unknown, simply put, what you are worried about is that you do not know the reaction of the other party after you take the initiative to speak. But as mentioned above, most people's kind greetings to strangers will not be rejected, empathy, you assume that it is an old man in the workplace, you will be unhappy in the face of the sincere greetings of new employees, hate this person?
3, I am not good at communication, nor do I like to talk to strangers:
Lao Zhang's view has always been that there is no dislike, only not good at. A Mai Ba, who goes to KTV to sing, definitely likes to sing, because he is good at it and can express himself. A person who draws a special cow well must also like to paint, otherwise he will not be able to paint exquisite paintings.
If you encounter a similar self-persuasion, when I am not good at and do not like, try to say the opposite: I do not like mainly because I am not good at, if I am good at it I will inevitably like. Because communicating with strangers is a skill, you can quickly integrate into the group, that's an ability.
So to break a few misunderstandings of self-perception, to understand that you should take the initiative to communicate with people, there is nothing terrible about communicating with people, you are good at communication, you will like to communicate. Communication is a skill-based matter. Here are a few simple tips.
There are tricks to chatting
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="48" >3.1, timing of communication</h1>
(1) Choose the noon or afternoon pre-work time: at this time, everyone is less busy, the overall is more relaxed, it is easier to communicate, and it will not bring the mood of work to private communication because of busy work.
(2) Choose to be in the company gathering occasion, the main purpose of this moment is to socialize, relatively speaking, the atmosphere is more relaxed, and the desire to communicate and perform between colleagues is also stronger.
(3) When communication is needed at work, not all communication needs to be formally greeted to express themselves, sometimes through the work itself, you can also quickly generate relationships, such as when dealing with certain things, exchange views and opinions with strange colleagues, so that they realize that your ability and charm are also very suitable.
Communication skills
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="49" >3.2, looking for common topics to communicate</h1>
As mentioned above, the "narcissistic principle" has told us that it is important to communicate with people and choose common ground, and in communication with strangers and colleagues, it is necessary to quickly find common ground and similarities in order to better promote communication.
(1) Talk about your own background: such as where people are, where you went to college, what are your hobbies
Most of the new people's self-introduction, are will say, I am **, I am ** people, I graduated from the ** university ** major, usually like **, such a purpose is actually to quickly let others find common ground with you.
(2) Talk about some of the characteristics of the other party: for example, where did you buy your clothes? Your water glass looks good, your **** is OK. People like others to pay attention to themselves, talk about some of each other's things, you can quickly find the topic of the entry, but do not have nothing to say, people use the company's unified distribution of items, you have to be embarrassed to blow his things are good to drop the grade.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="47" >3.3, ask for help in moderation</h1>
Most people have the desire to express themselves, properly seek some basic help, let people show their ability, is a small skill to increase familiarity, which needs to be paid attention to: "moderation" principle, do not brainlessly put simple problems that do not work for help, others will think you are too stupid, do not come up to take some very complicated things to seek help, others are not familiar with you, and will not spend too much energy to help you.
Asking for help in moderation has helped you in things that others can do and can do, and you can thank you according to this appropriate, so that soon everyone will become familiar with each other.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="50" >3.4, good at using tools</h1>
Men's pockets with cigarettes, women's pockets with a pack of tissues or gum are simple tricks to use these small items to quickly draw emotions closer among colleagues. Through these things, you can quickly eliminate the strangeness and make everyone familiar.
Regarding communication skills and methods in the workplace, I will share them with you in a follow-up article. #Workplace Dry Goods##Communication##职场 #
I am Lao Zhang, ten years of professionals, ten years of entrepreneurial history. To share with you the knowledge that an adult should and must have in the workplace: personal learning skills, wealth asset appreciation programs, etc.; continuous evolution and refinement, keep learning progress, and pay attention to my rapid growth together.