Married people, the other party uses "love" to keep you, if you believe you lose?

Why do extramarital affairs occur?

Many people have reflected on the problem that after getting married for a long time, there will be a feeling that the freshness is lost, including the original passions are no longer there. And at this time, a person suddenly appeared, let himself feel the warmth and novelty of a long time, which will make you feel that this is love, and this person is his true love. But is this really love? Does the love of an extramarital affair really have true love? The answer is definitely not.

In other words, if it is true love, both men and women should be responsible for each other, and both parties should talk about love in the case that both parties are single, if one or both parties are married. It can only be said that this is the state of derailment, is stealing! The biggest problem with cheating is not breaking the contract, if one of the parties in the marriage really wants to separate the relationship and meets a true love, the other party can end the current relationship in a decent way. However, most people sometimes want to cheat because they have no feelings and no careful care in marriage. It is when the third party has a warm feeling that it is love, but he still cares about the relationship of this marriage and wants to maintain it. In the midst of such conflicts, there will be betrayals, lies, and many, many suspicions.

When we find out that such a situation arises, in fact, the trust in the marriage relationship has been destroyed, and the motivation of both parties to maintain the current marriage relationship is sometimes insufficient. Next, I will tell you about a case I once took over: two people are college classmates who have been together for more than 10 years. In fact, it is also a green plum bamboo horse, but the two people have been working and working in their lives, and they have always encountered many problems when working. These problems are not solved at work, but the problems at work are brought to the family, resulting in two people constantly quarreling over work matters. However, the work of two people is still different, and the accumulation of this emotion will lead to the continuous fragmentation of the intimate relationship between the two people, and the two people do not know why they have come to this step.

One day, the wife found a WeChat chat with another person on the man's mobile phone. Then the lady and her husband kept arguing because the two of them had children. Therefore, for the sake of the child's good, the mother took a step back, but the harm to the mother was very great. Does she really want her husband's explanation? No, no matter what his husband said, the wife said: I was desperate during that time! The following words are: Then cheat? Is that why you don't want a face? Therefore, the man's way of dealing with it can only be not to speak, but the wife asks over and over again. This situation believes that not only this couple is so, after the betrayal, many people will have a lot of problems, produce a lot of emotions, behind this emotion is actually the indifference and blandness in the marriage.

So, I've summarized the following points that I hope will help you deal with infidelity.

01 Learn to protect yourself

When a woman cheats, the quality of the partner is very important and is more exclusive, with only one object of extramarital affair at the same time period. And a man cheats on the number of partners, he may not only have a small three, a small four, a small five, and a small six. Therefore, as the party that has been derailed, we must protect ourselves. Because, just said these different places, let the extramarital affair itself or itself will have a certain conflict, just to say that the conflict of this time bomb when to blow up the question. Adjust your emotions, reason, analyze the cause of the problem, and then consider whether to be together.

02 Untie the knot

Many people who have been cheated on will say, I have paid for this family, why did the other party betray me? When one person does not feel the respect of the other person in marriage, then the other party will certainly not give you love. When a person does not give love, it will cause the other party to be disrespectful, and once such a vicious circle occurs, your marriage will inevitably have problems. Since there is no sense of existence at home, and there is no respect, then such a person will naturally seek some needs to meet outward. At this time, the party who is cheated on will ask: is it a need that cannot be met, and is cheating a normal reason? Of course, whether it is a man or a woman in marriage, the key factor, being respected is only one of them. When we have a single need that is not met, it does not lead to the creation of the intention to cheat, but if the marriage is oppressed and exploited for a long time in the process, it will inevitably lead to the breakdown. Therefore, it is better to open our own knots and formally face the problem.

03 Take the initiative to express and admit mistakes

In order for two people to reconcile, we also need to take some responsibility for wrong words or actual actions. But be sure to note that such an act is not a kneeling lick, but an expression of a high need. It is even said that you can do anything, even if it is a knife mountain and a fire, which will make the other party feel a strong sense of purpose. And when we really communicate the words we want to reconcile, we must come from the heart and reconcile with each other without losing our personality and dignity. And repairing intimacy is a step-by-step process, and every step of the way, we have to think carefully about what should be done in the repair process, and we can't use words to nail this overall framework. Then if you really suffer from emotional confusion and need professional strength help at this time you can contact us.

So today's article is here, when encountering cheating, you must stabilize your psychological state. Because only your rational mind can gather evidence to fight for more benefits for yourself, if it is really time to be irretrievable, this is important to you. If the other person's mistake is not serious, it is better to be together, but the way you two communicate needs to change. Infidelity is not one person's fault, it's a matter of two people. We need to acknowledge our own problems first, and then talk about each other's problems. That's the real solution and we'll see you next time. #Emotional Quotes# #May the People You Meet Be Warm # #Cure Unhappiness ##Life Inspiration # #Evening Peace of Mind # #The World of Adults # #Couples Daily # #Life Needs a Sense of Ceremony #

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