The British philosopher Schiller once said: "There are three kinds of steps of time: the future is long overdue, the present flies like an arrow, and the past is forever still." ”
Time is constantly passing, we are also constantly growing, and in the blink of an eye, the 18-year-old, who once thought that there was no end, has now become a distant past.
When it comes to growing up, we inadvertently associate it with growing up, which means getting older with the passage of time, but we often hear things like this: "We are all so old, we haven't grown up yet." Thus, the true meaning of growth is never age.
So, the question is, what does growth really mean? GaoZan's answer is: Growth is to accept yourself and at the same time accept your own ordinariness.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" >01 Growth is learning to accept yourself </h1>
What is growth? To grow is to learn to accept yourself.
Socrates said, "The greatest wisdom of life is to know oneself." ”
No one in the world is perfect, and everyone has some shortcomings, whether physical or psychological, or other, for example, some people are fat, some people are short, some people are inferior, some people suffer from social phobia and so on. These are all common to people.
But everyone also has something that others envy. For example, although some people are fat but they are tall, some people are short but slim, some people are inferior but very cheerful, and some people are enthusiastic although they suffer from social phobia. These are also common to people.
No one is perfect, no one is useless, learn to recognize their shortcomings and strengths and learn to accept, this is the most important thing.
Socrates also famously made the idea: "I know my own ignorance." "He was a man of great courage, he was deeply aware of his ignorance, but he was not ashamed, but proud.
The world is so big, no one is omniscient, more or less have their own knowledge blind spots, just like doing mathematical problems, we will always find out the wrong problems and practice repeatedly, until the wrong problems are done correctly, and will not find the right problems to practice repeatedly, this is because we understand that only by recognizing our own shortcomings and accepting them can we make progress.
Lao Tzu also said: "Those who know others are wise, those who know themselves are clear, those who overcome others are powerful, and those who are victorious are strong." "To be able to understand others is a kind of wisdom, to know oneself is a kind of wisdom, and those who can overcome others are powerful, but those who can overcome themselves are indestructible and invincible."
There is a saying that goes, "The real enemy is not others, but yourself". If you want to win over the other side on the battlefield, it is useless to fight hard, and only by understanding the weakness and advantage of the other party can you find a way to defeat the other party. The same is true for wanting to overcome yourself, knowing yourself first and accepting yourself.
The road of life is very long, the process of growth, only by learning to accept themselves, can we truly surpass ourselves and achieve a better self.
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What is trivial? The ordinary is not inaction.
In this ordinary world, most of us are ordinary people, but ordinary people can also have extraordinary lives and do extraordinary things.
For example: firefighters, whether it is a small matter of someone entering a snake in their home, or a fire, flood, earthquake disaster, we can see the figure of firefighters, when the disaster comes, they will choose to move backwards, they will put their own life safety aside, in order to protect the safety of people's lives and property as a mission.
But firefighters unload their responsibilities and return to life are actually ordinary people, they are also treasures in the eyes of their parents, some of them have become fathers, some of them are in their youth, but in the face of difficulties and disasters, they still rush to the front line without hesitation, becoming heroes in our eyes.
There are also medical personnel who did not flinch when the epidemic came, bravely stood in the front line, and the political and legal personnel who served justice for the people when the people's rights and interests were violated, they are all ordinary people, sticking to extraordinary posts, they are ordinary but promising, so ordinary is not inaction.
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What is trivial? Ordinary is not banal.
After the end of World War II, Adolf Eichmann, a notorious killer in Germany, was arrested and tried, and his trial lasted a long time, because he did not say a word during his trial, and he firmly believed that he had not committed a crime, but only as a subordinate, following the orders of his superiors.
Journalist Hannah Arendt later reported on the incident: Eichmann did not commit a crime, his actions were only "banal evils" This refers to a manifestation of the right to judge personal value without thinking, without a sense of responsibility, eliminating one's own thoughts and abandoning one's right to personal value judgments.
And ordinary people, he can have his own thoughts, have his own opinions, can distinguish between right and wrong, indignant for the injustice of the world, he can also have his own ideals and fight for it. So the ordinary is not mediocre, and even they don't even have a side at all.
In short, ordinary is not inaction, ordinary is not mediocre, ordinary people have their own thinking, can fight for their ideals, to do a career.
Therefore, growth begins with accepting one's own ordinariness. Learning to recognize your own shortcomings and accept your own ordinariness is the only way to grow up.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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