In this life, people will have countless encounters.
All kinds of people walk by, some give you strength, some give you comfort, and some people leave you with pain that is difficult to recover.
As the saying goes, "If you don't owe each other, how can you meet?" ”
Every person who appears in your life, all kinds of encounters, has cause and effect.
You must understand that no matter who you meet, it is the person you should meet, the person who should appear in your life, not accidentally.
Even if it is only a short encounter, there must be a mission for his appearance.
Perhaps many people will be remembered by you, and there are also many people who have long been forgotten by you.
But there are two people who are destined not to become passers-by, whether good or bad, will be remembered for a long time.
The two people who appear in your destiny are the ones who really crossed you. One is good for you, one hurts you.
People who are good to you, let you glimpse the light
Su Shi once sighed: "Life is like a reverse journey, and I am also a pedestrian." ”
Indeed, life is a journey, long and bumpy.
Everyone inevitably has a time of vulnerability and helplessness. It is precisely because of this that when someone helps you break through the predicament and glimpse the light, you feel precious.
There are always encounters that come with good intentions, do not ask for conditions, and are good to you.
It's hard to tell the fate of each other, let you know each other, in your most difficult moments, reach out to you.
Not long ago, I saw a piece of news, "My benefactor, deleted my WeChat."
A college student who is about to graduate is looking online for a benefactor who has funded his schooling for many years.
The student's family is very difficult, and a few years ago, when he was just in high school, he met a benefactor on a walking tour. In the process of small talk, the other learned about the situation in his family and felt that he was funded to go to school.
The benefactor never told his real name and never left an address.
From high school to college, in the past seven years, the benefactor has remitted two large grants to him every year, and he will also pay money and send some things that the family needs intimately.
At the beginning of the year, the student was also a senior, and the benefactor transferred him the last financial aid, saying that his task was completed.
I also encouraged him, a long way to go through a lifetime, I sponsored you to go to school and did not ask for returns, but you let me see my childhood self, let me can't bear it.
I am very happy to see that you are about to graduate and go to society, but I also hope that you remember that when you go out of the college campus, you are facing another world, and this world may no longer have anyone to help you, and you need to fight on your own. When you graduate, take care of yourself.
Subsequently, the benefactor deleted his WeChat.
I have heard a saying: "No one in this world will be good to you for no reason".
But in fact, there is. Some people meet you and do not ask for anything in return to help you, not to owe you anything, but this person, it is fate that arranges to cross you.
Give you warmth, drown out the fear in you; pull you out of the valley, and cross the darkness in your heart.
Such a person will take you to glimpse the light and cross you on a better path.
The one who hurts you, teaches you to see through the darkness
If someone is good to you, naturally someone will hurt you.
This is not conservation, but it often makes people have to be convinced.
After all, life is varied, and whoever has a fate will meet all kinds of different people, and it is inevitable that good and bad will be mixed.
Those who hurt you are actually another destiny, another deliberate arrangement.
Writer Li Xiaoyi wrote in "First Make a Living, Then Seek Love":
"We fell many times and found that our knees hardened; we shed a lot of tears, so our eyes became brighter; we hurt our hearts many times, and then our hearts got bigger."
In this world, some people always have to experience some unforgettable pain in order to be able to completely change and grow.
This pain may be deception, perhaps calculation, perhaps denigration...
You always have to go through something, to see the complexity of people's hearts, to distinguish between true and false feelings, to know that life is a long road, and the night is also part of it.
The deeper the wound in the present moment, the clearer you become.
These people, like those who are good to you, are also for you.
In this life, sometimes someone gives you an umbrella, and sometimes someone comes to teach you that you should learn to hold an umbrella yourself.
The person who hurts you can't beat you, but it will make you stronger from now on.
Everyone you meet is what you should meet, whether it hurts you or loves you, it is a mutual fulfillment.
Most importantly, know how to cross yourself
The two people who appeared in your destiny to be good to you and hurt you were arranged earlier, and only appeared to cross you.
There is another person, too.
There is a classic line in the movie "Farewell to the Overlord": "Man, you have to become a self-made person." ”
Crossing yourself is crucial.
The smartest way to live as a person is to be able to cross yourself and not to compete with yourself blindly.
Life is always bittersweet, both to know self-improvement and to be liberated.
Learn to liberate yourself and not to be too calculating and entangled.
Everything cannot be too screwed, and the days cannot be lived. Of course, people will not always be happy, but they cannot always be bitter.
Only when there is a degree of relaxation can it cross itself.
To live, people must not only have the ability to take it, but also have the courage to put it down.
Don't be demanding in everything, know how to be happy. The life of the rich and noble is very good, and the bustle of chai rice oil and salt is also good!