Goethe once said, "The happiness of man lies in the happiness of the heart." ”
In this life, we will meet many people, we will also experience many things, there will be joy and smoothness, and naturally it is inevitable that we will be lost and bumpy.
Life is uncertain, although we cannot predict tomorrow, we can choose the attitude and reaction of things.
In the unknown and complicated world, put your own state of mind and body well: nothing is empty, there is no confusion, and there is no fear of big things.
Wang Hao, a younger brother, successfully entered a state-owned enterprise just after graduation, with little pressure and stable income.
So, I directly chose to "lie flat", holding my mobile phone every day, brushing games and short videos.
The book I bought, turned a few pages and fell to ashes; the weight loss that was said was good, and there was no action at all.
Gradually I became lazy and didn't want to do anything.
Even if I occasionally spend time with friends, I book a restaurant that I often go to, and order the same dishes, which is more and more boring.
Even the state of the circle of friends has no vitality in the past.
Watching the original "sunshine boy" become the current "home-based youth", he lost his momentum and enthusiasm.
Some time ago at the party, he patted his stomach and teased himself:
"In the past two years, I have achieved nothing but the game promotion and weight gain.
I originally thought that such a day would be very easy, but I didn't expect that my heart felt very panicked and empty. ”
If you think about it, we are not the same, and we always understand after losing:
Every second of waste is a waste of time, and it is only when the years are serious that I regret that I have suffered a loss.
In reality, those idle times are like the gaps in the busy days, giving us space to put our emotions and do what we want to do.
So, don't be afraid to have leisure, because this is the best time for us to be ourselves.
Writer Cai Lan once said:
"What is fulfillment? Read more books, travel more, observe how others live, learn more about what you want to learn, and you will feel fulfilled. ”
Truly powerful people can treasure the gift of time and be self-sufficient in the ordinary years.
Not to squander, nor to be lonely and tired, but to know how to enrich the soul and insist on love.
You must know that only by doing nothing and not being empty can we not lose ourselves and not be trapped in life.
Then, enjoy the fullness and live your favorite way.
At last month's regular meeting of the department, the leader relentlessly gave the newcomers a "lesson."
On the third day of Chen Xu's employment, he received the task of internal audit of the company, and in order to report this time, he stayed up late to sort out hundreds of data and reports.
Unexpectedly, not only was he not recognized, but the leader also questioned his own experience and ability.
He stood in front of the stage, although he was embarrassed, but did not defend, thanked the leader for "correcting", and returned to his seat.
Carefully record the reports of colleagues, there is reluctance in the eyes, and the pen is still not messy in the slightest.
Then, for more than 30 days, Chen Xu went through all the company's documents and regulations, carefully analyzed each requirement, and methodically rearranged a set of process standards to prove his strength and value.
I didn't feel humiliated because of the leader's accusations, I didn't complain negatively because of my colleagues' incomprehension, and I didn't mess up my mind because of self-doubt.
Instead, calm down to find the reason, sink your heart to find a way, not confused or flustered.
Finally, at the end of the three-month internship period, I got a high score from the leader and smoothly turned positive.
It is this kind of calm and steady wisdom in the face of things that makes him turn the crisis into safety.
I didn't blush and lose my temper because of a momentary "denial".
On the contrary, it shows the ability to control emotions and think quietly, less embarrassment, more calmness.
There is a saying in the "Cai Gen Tan": "Those who are impetuous in their hearts will achieve nothing; those who are calm and quiet, the hundred blessings are self-collected." ”
In this life, it is inevitable to encounter ups and downs, if you encounter things, you will be difficult to determine, chaotic, not only can not get rid of embarrassment, but more prone to decadence and panic, it is difficult to find the direction.
Really powerful people can maintain their composure in embarrassment and stay awake when they are angry.
Don't think wildly, just focus on the moment, solve problems, and break down doubts.
You know, only by doing something is not chaotic, can you withstand the polishing and precipitation of time.
Then, work silently to usher in a better self.
Short video creator @ Aftertaste, once filmed such a story:
In the early morning of the northeast at minus 15 degrees, a big brother waited for an order in an empty street.
Although he sometimes couldn't earn 200 yuan a day, he always stuck to the side of the road.
Asked why, he said:
"In the past few years, I started from a real estate sales slowly, and then set up my own agency company, but I didn't expect it, because the expansion was too fast, and I was forced to close down.
For a time, it fell from a high place to a low point, and owed more than 4 million foreign debts. ”
This sudden change had caused him to be in deep pain and depressed for a long time.
But fortunately, he survived the darkness alone and spent the most difficult time psychologically.
Then, he started driving taxis, running takeaways, driving for him, eating only 2 meals a day and sleeping only 5 or 6 hours a day.
Although there are still more than 2 million unpaid, he still has not been afraid and flinched.
Even if you can't go back to the old days, you must regain the qualifications for a good life.
As he himself said:
"Solve the problem of livelihood first, and then re-accumulate like a snowball, I believe that the debt on my body will be paid off, and I believe that I can carry it over and make a comeback."
I have seen such a sentence:
"Life is full of ups and downs, when frustrated, give praise to others; when you are proud, listen to the applause of others."
Life is in the sea, why should you care about the ups and downs of the moment. ”
The world is unpredictable, falling into a thorn, and it is difficult for anyone to accept.
But if you are afraid because of a temporary blow, many opportunities will be rubbed by.
Instead of blaming yourself and being afraid, it is better to unload the burden, survive the mess, and welcome the arrival of good luck.
"The Island Bookstore" said: "Everyone has the most difficult year in their lives, making life beautiful and broad. ”
Really strong people can remain optimistic in difficult situations and remain brave in the trough.
Don't linger and cower, dare to start over, work hard, get out of the mire.
You know, only by being fearless of big things can we bravely take a step forward and find a new direction.
Then, work hard and look forward to the answer of fate.
Giggs said: "Attitude determines success or failure, no matter whether the situation is good or bad, we must have a positive attitude, do not let frustration replace enthusiasm." ”
Life is long, no matter what the current situation is, do not lose your enthusiasm and expectation for life.
Hopefully, we can all not be bored because of blandness, not flustered by waves, and not afraid of bumps.
Then, quietly face the tiger, idle to watch the flowers fall, cultivate a good heart, and live a good life.
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Author | Liu Xiaochang, loves words and life.
Image | Visual China