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"Controlling the mind" may seem like a mysterious and mysterious topic, and may even be reminiscent of some supernatural means associated with "witchcraft" and "magic". However, in fact, we are inextricably linked to this kind of thing in our daily lives.
Maybe sometimes just a sentence of about 5 seconds can subtly change a person's thinking and achieve the effect of controlling the person's thoughts.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="17" > what you think, it's not necessarily true</h1>
There was a more interesting picture on the Internet before, it was a young man who came home for the New Year, and when faced with the upcoming pressure on the old money, he opened his pocket in front of his relatives, turned his head, and said: "Don't do it." "Although this picture is a bit exaggerated, it can reflect a situation to some extent: when you express a seemingly negative point of view, you actually inadvertently convey a positive point of view to the other party.
From a psychological point of view, this expression belongs to a kind of psychological implication. The concept of psychological cues is believed to be familiar to everyone, and refers to an influence from the outside world on their inner attitudes, thoughts, feelings and other characteristics.
The famous psychologist and neuroscientist Ivan Petrovich Pavlov once proposed the theory of conditioned reflexes that shocked China and foreign countries, and he believed that psychological cues belonged to one of the simplest and most common types of conditioned reflexes in human life.
In general, psychological cues can be divided into two types from the outside world and others and self-generated from the perspective of the subject; from the perspective of suggestive types, they can also be divided into positive and negative types.
In our usual experience, there must be a similar experience: if you have to face an important meeting or speech today, then you will inevitably enter a state of tension in your heart early, on the one hand, hoping that you can play well, on the other hand, you are afraid of being "ugly" in front of everyone. So I will hint to myself in my heart: I must be fine, and I am very well prepared.
So in this case, if you are really well prepared, then the psychological cues will make you relatively at ease, no longer anxious because you are still asking what happened; if you are not ready, just want to cope with things, then this psychological cues will undoubtedly aggravate your anxiety, and may even lead to the "overturning" of subsequent activities.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="40" > verbal "magic" in communication</h1>
Above we mentioned the theory of psychological suggestion in psychology, showing that for individuals, the influence of psychological suggestion is more obvious in their lives. Coincidentally, when we put individuals into societies and groups, we will find that this phenomenon also occurs in human interactions.
When you interact with others, perhaps a sentence will have different meanings because of the different perspectives of the individual received. This is also what we say: "The speaker has no intention, the listener intends".
In the field of social psychology, scholars who are committed to studying various psychological processes arising from the process of human interaction have proposed various related theories, the more famous of which is symbolicinteractionism, which attempts to explore the motivations, rules and mechanisms of interaction between people through the behavior of individuals in daily life.
One of the more important scholars is George Herbert Mead, who believes that in each individual's mind, there is a set of definitions of the behavior of daily life, and symbolizes them into an individualized cognition. Some of this cognition can be unified, but most of them are private to individuals. Therefore, in the process of communication, individuals will tend to understand the words and deeds of others according to their own set of symbology.
To take a simple example, in some people's understanding, shaking your head and sighing softly at someone often represents a feeling of disappointment and hatred of iron and steel, but in some cases, if you want to express heartache and regret to someone, you will also have this reaction.
Therefore, for a husband who is busy until late to come home, if he sees his wife shaking his head and sighing, he may think that the other party is disappointed, and naturally it is also possible to think that the other party is hurting himself, all of which must be analyzed according to the situation.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="41" > inadvertently "controlled" and "controlled"</h1>
After analyzing the relevant theories of psychology and social psychology, we may wish to look at how you in life inadvertently "control" other people's thoughts in a short period of time with your own words and deeds, and how you are "controlled" by others in an instant.
Psychological cues are naturally a common approach. Whether intentional or unintentional, the emergence of certain actions and speeches is bound to greatly affect a person's thinking. From a cognitive point of view, you only need to repeat the same information for 5 consecutive seconds, which will have a structural impact on the presentation of information in the brain.
If you can try to get "tomatoes", "apples", "lanterns" in your head, and remind yourself not to think about their colors, then can you do it? The difficulty should be enormous. I believe that after thinking about these objects several times, the color "red" or related information will come to your mind.
Similarly, when you interact with people, if the other party wears a watch that you have liked for a long time, then in the process of your interaction, you will inevitably focus your attention on the watch, or even absent-minded, which is what we can expect.
And when others repeat an event or a key word in their speech, your mind will also be occupied by it. For example, when you live with a lover, if the other party always intentionally or unintentionally mentions words such as "bride price", "mortgage", "expenses" and so on in life, then your pressure will naturally increase gradually, and even lead to the emotional state between you being affected.
Similarly, when you always see a certain type of news for a period of time, you will pay attention to similar phenomena in your life and consciously or unconsciously carry out a kind of introduction. Compared with the relevant news I have seen before, this is a subtle impact.
Similarly, differences in the definition of the symbology of words and deeds can lead to "control". If the act of "pushing glasses" is defined as a weak-minded and insincere act.
Then when faced with a person who motivates himself to express himself in this way, there will be a communication misunderstanding between you, and you will think that the other party's speech is unreliable, so as to psychologically "preconceived" and change your attitude in social interaction.
Of course, these "controls" we are talking about are well documented, and whenever the use of various means to maliciously control the thoughts of others is an immoral act and must be avoided.
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参考资料：Malinowski, B. (1923) "The problem of meaning in primitive languages", in: Ogden, C. & Richards, I., The Meaning of Meaning, Routledge, London.
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