Text/Maggie
Charles Dickens once said, "The virtues of mothers, like the sins of fathers, are embodied in their children." ”
"Piping Hot Love" tells the story of the adoptive mother Futaba who suddenly fainted and was taken to the hospital to be diagnosed with advanced cancer. When she could not accept the fact of her illness for a while, she hid herself sad and painful. In the year that her husband cheated and left, Futaba never thought of finding her husband, because of cancer, so she had to live better for her daughter, all she could do was to find her husband and plan their lives from scratch.
Restructured family of four
When I first started watching movies, I was thinking why I set the role of An Cheng so inferior? It wasn't until I saw the movie that I understood the meaning of the movie. This piping hot love, the daughter is loved by the adoptive mother like a piping hot pot, forced to grow, the film's adoptive mother is like the epitome of most people's lives, teaching the child how to face everything that happens in life.
The term "inferiority" has always been considered humble, but some people may be inferior for a lifetime, and some people will turn inferiority into self-confidence, just like in the film, An Cheng experienced the process of adoptive mother's cancer, from an inferior child to a confident person like an adoptive mother.
The film presents the problem of raising children in contemporary society, reflecting the current state of marriage among young people and the problems faced by raising the next generation. But no matter what, we should establish a correct concept of marriage, and a good marriage relationship has a great connection to raising children.
So in this film, I will interpret from the role of An Cheng, what is closely related to us in her, and what meaning does it bring to our lives?
Inferiority to the bone
<h1>01, living with inferiority is actually the beginning of fear and compromise</h1>
(1) The feeling of inferiority makes An Cheng afraid to get along with others
All the children under the heavens are from the original family to teach her, at home we will behave relaxed, but in the face of unfamiliar environments, show inferiority, fear, sensitivity. An Cheng in "Piping Hot Love" is such a person, who behaves normally at home, and feels inferior when he goes to school. Classmates sneered at her and poured paint on her, and she didn't even dare to say anything about her dearest adoptive mother, or even wanted to go to school.
This inferiority complex of the child is more or less from the mother's love for her "piping hot", sometimes too strict requirements, but it will backfire. The book "Inferiority and Transcendence" points out that everyone has an inferiority complex in their hearts, but some people do not show it, but some people's inferiority is directly written on their faces, which is inextricably linked to her family education. "Original Family" tells us that every child who has been hurt is unconsciously hurt by their parents in the family.
Once An Cheng's school uniform was taken away by her classmates, she did not have a school uniform to wear to go to school, she chose to hide in the bed, unwilling to go to school, for fear of being ridiculed by her classmates. It was her mother who forced her to go to school and told her to solve the problem in her own way.
Yu Minhong proposed in the book "Inferiority is Worse Than Arrogance": "Because of inferiority, you will be afraid, and you will be afraid of failure, you will be afraid of the eyes of others, you will feel that the people around you are all looking at you with irony, blowing, insulting eyes, so you dare not do it, so you use a factor that should not have degraded yourself in the first place, and when you lose courage, all the doors in this world are closed." ”
An Cheng, as Teacher Yu Minhong said, has extreme inferiority in her heart, so she chose the extreme method of treatment, in class, she took off her sportswear, wore only underwear to tell the people who bullied her, returned the school uniform to her, and vomited on the ground. Although she took back her school uniform in this way, her inner inferiority complex penetrated deeply into her bones.
In my opinion, An Cheng's inner inferiority feeling comes from the expectations of her adoptive mother, she is afraid to get along with her classmates, and it is also related to family education, and the adoptive mother obviously knows that there are people in the school who bully An Cheng, but she has never taught her children to encounter problems and how to solve them. If the adoptive mother finds that her father has cheated and left, she will go to find it immediately, which is a normal performance, but she knows that she has cancer, and only then wants to find her husband.
The adoptive mother laughed into a flower, and the daughter cried into tears
(2) An Cheng is ultimately compromised with the adoptive mother of the duplicity
The adoptive mother hopes that An Cheng can be a strong person in her own way, just like her in the face of any difficulties, not afraid, brave to move forward. I remember Zhang Ailing once said: "Mothers all have a common disease, this life is desperately to make the children feel good, give it to you, give it to you, love is overwhelmed." ”
On the one hand, the adoptive mother loves her daughter very much, and on the other hand, she hopes that her child can learn to face difficulties independently, and her heart is full of a little contradiction. This is also the epitome of most mothers under the sky, who love their children and are afraid of spoiling their children, so they often show the two-faced mother pictogram, and different situations will show different attitudes, so that children love and fear their mothers.
In my opinion, An Cheng is faced with a two-faced adoptive mother, it seems that she has no choice but to choose to compromise, although she is extremely afraid of going to school in her heart, so she has a fight with her adoptive mother, and finally she still has a hard scalp to go to school. In fact, on the way to raising children, I also show the appearance of a two-faced mother, love and hate for children, and have a little more patience with children, so that children can reduce criticism from adults, praise children more, and thus reduce children's inferiority.
Face the returning father
<h1>02, An Cheng is happy or worried in the face of his returning father; in the face of his birth mother, he rejects or accepts</h1>
(1) The adoptive mother finds her father and brings back a younger sister, and An Cheng is more complaining about her father
An Cheng complained about why his father had not returned home once in a year, nor had he looked for her. The adoptive mother took her to live a difficult life alone, and her body was also emaciated a lot.
And brought back a sister who didn't know where she came from, she looked up and down at this sister, and hid in the toilet after eating halfway through the meal, so that she didn't want to see them. In the face of this sudden everything, she can only choose to accept silently, her father is like an absentee to her, only her adoptive mother is accompanied on the road to education, and her father is just a name for her.
In my opinion, as the book "Unconditional Parenting" points out: "Parents raising children should love their children unconditionally, no matter what kind of person the child is, they should do their best to teach their children well." "Instead of being like the father in the film, because of his own faults, he doesn't even return home, let alone raise his children." For An Cheng, the father is undoubtedly absent on the road of raising children.
Birth mother Junjiang
(2) Facing her birth mother, An Cheng communicates with her in sign language
When An Cheng is told by Futaba that she is not her own daughter, she is a child born to Junjiang at the age of 15, and because she cannot hear or speak, she chooses to leave. JunJiang saw his daughter communicating with her in sign language, and her heart couldn't help but burst into tears, it turned out that her daughter was well educated by Futaba and was particularly sensible.
The mother in "Meng Mu Three Moves" moved home three times for the sake of the child, and Jun Jiang in the film knew his own problems, so he handed over the child to her ex-husband and Futaba to raise. Although she may be right, this irresponsible behavior is unfair to her daughter, a birth mother who has never raised herself, and An Cheng is reluctant to accept it at first.
Fortunately, An Cheng is a child with a kind heart, and she did not blame her birth mother for abandonment, but chose to forgive. Fortunately, An Cheng met Futaba's mother, who was strict and kind, and loved the child in his heart, teaching the child to face the problem bravely.
I think that both the birth mother and the adoptive mother are a happy thing for An Cheng, and both mothers love her in different ways.
Although her birth mother did not accompany her to grow up, from childhood to adulthood, every year on An Cheng's birthday, she would send bread crabs as birthday gifts.
The adoptive mother treated her like her own daughter, loved her, worried about her, and taught the child to face it bravely when she encountered problems.
In my opinion, as the book "Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence" says: "The problems caused by children are influenced by their parents." "If the parents are the original price, the child is a copy, and the inferiority complex that An Cheng showed in school before is due to the insecurity brought to her by her parents, and in the year since her father left, she has become sensitive, vulnerable, inferior, and always feels inferior."
<h1>03, An Cheng changed from the initial inner inferiority to a strong girl</h1>
(1) For her adoptive mother to be seriously ill, An Cheng became a powerful person like her
Futaba takes her two daughters on a tour in order to show her children the beauty of the world, but also to let An Cheng meet her birth mother. During the journey, Futaba became seriously ill and was taken to the hospital, where her daughter knew everything, and her heart was painful and difficult to accept, but in order to reassure her adoptive mother, she forced herself to become stronger.
Instead of shedding tears in front of her, she also asked her sister to smile at her sick adoptive mother, return home to help cook, collect money in the bathhouse, and learn to take care of everything in the family like an adoptive mother. At the same time, she also learned to be optimistic from her father, and with the company of her father and birth mother, she also became more and more confident.
But when she saw her adoptive mother being tortured by the disease, in pain and discomfort, she would not help but cry, but instead of crying in front of her, she would immediately dry her tears and smile at her.
In my opinion, at this time, An Cheng has slowly become a copy of the adoptive mother, and "The Most Important Thing, Only One Thing" teaches us that there is only one most important thing in front of us, and this important thing is for An Cheng, the adoptive mother is sick and hospitalized, and she must learn to take care of the people and things around her. Only when he becomes stronger can he take care of his sister and his family, as well as the business of the bathhouse.
The confident An Cheng has become a replica of his adoptive mother
(2) In the face of all the suddenness, An Cheng becomes mature and confident
When her adoptive mother was ill in the hospital, An Cheng became her like her:
At home, cook for the family and clean the house neatly
In the bathhouse, learn the appearance of an adoptive mother, receive customers at the front desk, collect money, and find money
In the hospital, I took my sister and my adoptive mother to chat happily and talk about interesting things that had happened recently
If the adoptive mother did not have cancer, perhaps An Cheng was still the child who was inferior to the end, and experienced a series of changes, which also made her move from inferiority to self-confidence.
The adoptive mother finally left the world with the love of her family, leaving no regrets, and her "piping hot" love for her children also changed from the initial severity into a lesson of life significance.
At the end of the film, the adoptive mother is buried at the foot of Mt. Fuji, An Cheng is like the elders of the family to receive the arrival of relatives and friends, there is no inferiority, some are the maturity and self-confidence of adults, and the funeral is also solemn, quiet and beautiful under the arrangement of the family.
"Living in the Present" says: "No matter what happened in the past, the life of the present is the real life, and the future is also the result of the choice of the present." ”
In my opinion, at this time, An Cheng has long forgotten his former inferiority, but has become mature and confident, and after a series of changes, his heart has become stronger and stronger. Just like living in the present said, bravely face the current life, whether it brings us suffering or pain, you will be able to achieve a better self in the future. Accepting the death of your adoptive mother calmly is undoubtedly the best way to say goodbye to your departed relatives.
epilogue:
Everyone has a sense of inferiority, but not everyone can change from inferiority to self-confidence, and the film teaches children why they must learn to be strong and become strong by describing a mother who is about to die.
The end of the movie, in fact, is also the beginning, we have reason to believe that An Cheng faces a new beginning, confident maturity will bring more unlimited possibilities to her future, although the adoptive mother has left, in the face of life, she will also reopen her confident life.
Through the film, we also understand that life is fragile, no one knows what will happen in the next second, and it is most important to live a life in the present seriously. For the past, no regrets, facing the future, not afraid, inferiority in different situations, experiencing the death of the adoptive mother, creating a confident Ancheng. At the same time, it also warns the public that grasping every minute of life, good family education will give children more security, educate children to be as early as possible, do not wait until it is irreparable to regret, which is also the film teaches us how to move from inferiority to self-confidence. #美琪同学 #