Have you ever met a person who didn't fall in love before he and imagined and your future. But because of the early process of getting along, because of a very small point, you mind a lot. There is no very active promotion relationship, and as a result, he thinks that you do not have the mind to develop and retreats. You want to save the relationship, don't know whether to take the initiative, and don't know what kind of attitude to use to deal with this cold relationship. If you have a similar experience, the next content may be helpful to you.
Dear Teacher, Hello:
We met on a blind date, and in the end, when each person gave flowers to the person he wanted, he gave me his flowers and I gave him my flowers.
After the end, I first took the initiative to find him and add him WeChat, and later he often took the initiative to chat with me, he said that I smiled very sweetly, and often described his ideal picture of two people together, often saying where we would travel together in the future.
Once, after watching a movie, we walked together and ate, but in the evening he didn't send me home, just took me to the subway.
Since I am busy with work a lot of the time, there is not much contact between two people. And I was also thinking about whether to match him, so I wasn't very engaged when chatting.
Later, we always said goodnight and immediately ended the chat, and the interest in chatting became weaker and weaker. Coupled with the first meeting, he let me go home alone at night, I was very unhappy, and rarely took the initiative to chat with him. Once, after I threw out a chat reply, he didn't reply back, so we didn't have any contact, and now he won't like it in the circle of friends.
He said that in the days when he first met me, he always thought of me and thought of the pictures of being together later. But then gradually he didn't have anything to say to me, and I remember that he also said that he would have some inferiority when he met excellent girls.
The reason for our disconnection may be that the two people don't have much contact, and I myself am not very determined to promote the relationship. I also felt like he didn't like me that much. Although I have been in contact for a month, I am currently disconnected for a month, my heart is very conflicted, I want to give up and I am not willing, I always think about whether it is possible with him, whether to do some remedial measures.
Hello, letter received!
My advice to you as to whether you want to reunite with him is negative. Because when you ask the above questions, you have already expressed the status quo that you are not prepared for this.
In your current state, you actually just look at a goal, that is, the reunion, but only for the reunion, and the reunion has not thought about how to operate in the future, or has not considered how it should be developed.
Before you think about whether to reunite, you can't just try to reunite just because you haven't let go, but you should consider, if you want to reunite, what is the difference between you and before? What has been the progress, what has changed?
You have to understand that the reason why your relationship can go from a group blind date to mutual choice, and then can interact further, is because both parties have the result of good feelings.
He must have recognized your worth in that environment and was willing to learn more about you. And in the blind date, which is so marriage-oriented purposeful activity, being able to choose you can at least show that the other party has a certain willingness to get married.
But why did you slowly lose interest in you during the interaction and not want to continue to understand you? Explaining your interaction patterns does not promote the positive development of the relationship.
So if you want to reunite, you need to establish a clear relationship, and you need to consider whether the interaction pattern between you can change. If you are still as busy with work as you used to be, and there is no time to meet or there are not many time and opportunities to meet, it is better not to reunite.
Here we need to give you the content of a love step: when you and the object who is willing to do further understanding, leaving contact information with each other is the basic operation. You have to understand that you leave contact information for each other to facilitate contact and basic interaction, but you can't use qq and WeChat as the main interactive tools. These social software or contact information are to pave the way for you to meet and understand each other, not the main means.
The main interactions, at least until the relationship is established, should be more focused offline than online. When you understand this, you will consider what kind of way you should proceed once you are reunited.
In fact, for a period of time after your blind date, the other party's emotions can slowly deepen with your offline dating, but you have lost this opportunity. And in a dating interaction, you're a little too aggressive about the other person just sending you to the subway.
You can consider whether the other party has just known you, the social etiquette in his mind, telling him that when he has known a woman for a short time, it is best not to rush to send the other party home, too eager to know the scope of the other party's life. That night, whether the date was late or not, and the distance between the two of you was far away, the other party did not currently have a private car, so the round trip time was too long, and it was better to take to the subway station.
Neither of these possibilities is enough to show that the other party's etiquette is not in place or does not pay enough attention to you, and if you still mind this, then the reunion is not a good choice for you.
All in all, do not reconnect for the sake of not being reconciled, you need to consider whether there is a change from before the disconnection, or you are willing to make certain changes for the sake of the reunion.
Bless you, girl!