Kobayashi is 26 years old and has been plagued by pneumonia for many years.
I also did several checks during this period, but I found no clues.
On August 18, Kobayashi's pneumonia recurred again, so he went to the Eighth Affiliated Hospital of Sun Yat-sen University for medical treatment.
After learning about Kobayashi's condition, the doctor gave Kobayashi a CT examination and found that there seemed to be a foreign body in his lungs.
After inquiry, it was learned that Kobayashi swallowed a whistle when he was 6 years old, because he was afraid of being blamed by his parents, so he hid it, and this concealment was 20 years.
After further examination, the true face of the foreign body was revealed, and it was indeed the whistle that had been swallowed by mistake 20 years ago.
Knowing the cause of the recurrence of pneumonia, the next thing is simple.
The doctor operated on Kobayashi, removed the whistle that had been in his body for 20 years, and thoroughly cleaned his right lower lung.
This was originally just an ordinary people's livelihood news, but it made many people feel empathy.
It's not that everyone has swallowed the whistle by mistake, but many people have had the experience of being afraid to confess to their parents because they are afraid.
Looking at the comments of netizens, I can't help but ask why children always prefer to be scared rather than communicate with their parents? Would you rather be alone than ask your parents for help?
This deserves every parent's reflection and reflection.
On this issue, there is a netizen who shares his experience.
Because of going out to play, the respondent accidentally lost the electric car at home.
The respondent himself is very remorseful, after all, the electric car is also a valuable item.
When the respondent returned home, his parents knew about this matter and began to sneer at the respondent.
"I said I wouldn't let you ride you, now okay?"
The answerer knew that he was wrong, and did not argue with his parents more, but was ready to find an opportunity to confess his inner thoughts to his parents.
Unexpectedly, this move of the respondent not only did not exchange for the perfect solution of the car loss incident, but also ushered in more ridicule.
"No one needs you to apologize, it's not a big deal, it's useless to apologize, I told you earlier, if you didn't have to ride at that time, you wouldn't have done this!"
Are you familiar with these words?
Isn't that what many parents say when their children make mistakes?
"Got you up a few minutes early and you didn't listen, are you late now?"
"Don't you have to run around, you have to run around, things are gone, right?"
"I told you not to do this a long time ago, but to see if you will listen to you in the future!"
"I've said that you are serious in class, and if you take the exam like this, see how the teacher can clean you up?"
"Still crying, what is there to cry, I told you that this is not okay, you must not listen!"
In the face of children's mistakes, the first reaction of many parents is not to comfort the child, not to find the objective reason for the mistake, but to show off the correctness of their own assertions and suggestions at that time.
Using children's sadness and grievances to prove their wisdom is a trick used by many parents in family education.
Back to the experience of Zhihu netizens, the respondent later mentioned that he wanted to buy a school bag.
The respondent was already in college, already an adult, and supposedly had some ideas about his own affairs, but this was not the case.
Hearing the respondent say buying a school bag, my parents' first reaction was "What do you do when you buy so many school bags?" "Isn't the high school bag that can be used anymore?" "Can't you buy a new one when you get to school?" "Don't you want to buy it for a while?" ”
Under the strong opposition of his parents, the answerer gave up the idea of buying a school bag.
Then the respondent's mother turned her head and mentioned that the respondent planned to buy an electric car at the university.
Because the school is very large, it will be much more convenient to have an electric car in and out of class, but the parents of the respondent just don't understand.
"Who buys an electric car at the university?" "You shouldn't have this kind of thought", "You listen to whoever says anything", "You really don't have a brain!" ”
After reading the answer of the respondent, do you know why the child would rather carry things than tell his parents when he encounters things, and would rather be depressed alone than have a heart to heart with his parents?
Because many things get worse once they are told to their parents.
Parents are always willing to stand on the side of the judge, to comment on the child's rebellion from the commanding heights, and not to the victim's side, when the child has a solid shield.
Over time, the child will understand that it is useless to confess to the parents, but it is better to carry it yourself, and the harm will be less.
In recent years, the state has continuously strengthened the crackdown on telecommunications fraud cases, and people's vigilance against telecommunications fraud has also increased a lot, but as the fraud tricks of criminals have become more and more sophisticated, many people have fallen into the trap of criminals.
Xiaomei is a recent graduate who has just come out of college, and if nothing else, she should soon be engaged in social work.
But after answering a phone call, all the imagination of the future is shattered.
One day, Xiaomei received a phone call from a self-proclaimed employee of Installment Music, claiming that she had registered a student account with Installment Music in 2015 and now needed to cancel her account, otherwise it would affect her future loans.
Because the person on the phone accurately reported Xiaomei's name and ID number, Xiaomei was convinced of the identity of the "installment employee" on the other end of the phone.
Subsequently, Xiaomei added the QQ number left by the fraudsters and asked Xiaomei to follow the instructions.
After seeing the ID card and business license sent by the other party, Xiaomei downloaded multiple apps according to the instructions, and made payments on them, and then transferred to the account designated by the fraudsters.
It was not until the next day that Xiaomei realized that she might have been deceived, so she chose to call the police, and at this time Xiaomei had already carried a loan totaling about 70,000 yuan.
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After calling the police, Xiaomei did not dare to tell her parents about the fact that she had been deceived, even if she had not yet found a job, and she was on the verge of collapse.
In fact, there are many such things, Xiaomei is still relatively lucky, although she does not dare to ask her parents for help, but she still has the courage to call the police and can seek help from strangers.
But some children are not so lucky.
Xiao Feng, who works in Xi'an, suddenly committed suicide by jumping from a building of 17, at the age of 21.
In the eyes of Feng's father, Xiao Feng is optimistic, cheerful, and likes to dance, which can be said to be the pride of their family.
When he heard the news of his daughter's suicide, he couldn't believe it until he checked her mobile phone and understood why.
It turned out that Xiao Feng, who had always been well-behaved, borrowed online loans very early and could repay them on time at the beginning, but as more and more loans became available, Xiao Feng was a little overwhelmed, but he did not dare to tell his parents.
In order to repay the loan on time, Xiao Feng can only issue more online loan APP and demolish the east wall to make up for the west wall.
After three years of dismantling and repairing in this way, Xiao Feng finally became overwhelmed and chose to jump off the building to save his life, leaving only his sad parents and 170,000 yuan in arrears.
In fact, Xiao Feng could have had a chance to live, just need to tell her parents directly at the beginning that she had encountered difficulties and needed their parents' help, but she did not.
Why? Because she was afraid.
This is also the inner thought of many children who refuse to communicate with their parents and refuse to confess to their parents.
Why not confess, because of fear, fear that after confessing is a rebuke, a scolding, a mockery.
Therefore, they choose to suffer silently, even if they end up dying as the worst result.
Psychologist Hurlbut said: Children need love, especially when children are not worthy of love.
But many parents do not understand, and many children do not want to believe it.
The protagonist of the movie "God Bless Bobby" Is a gentle and honest boy.
Originally Bobby had a happy big family, kind parents, kind grandmother, considerate brother and lovely sister, a happy and harmonious life of a family of six.
But when Bobby confesses his sexuality to his family, everything changes.
Bobby's mother was a devout believer who believed in the biblical admonition that homosexuals would go to hell and tried to correct her son's sexual orientation.
She couldn't tolerate having a gay son.
The conflict between his mother's rejection and his own inner desire made Bao's inner pain increase day by day, but the mother did not see a single point.
After meeting the confident and cheerful young David, Bobby no longer wants to hide his feelings, but his mother does not approve of or approve of this feeling, and a disappointed and painful Bobby drives away from home.
While driving to the head of the highway, Bobby tearfully jumped off the bridge and fell to his death.
Why did Bobby go to his death?
Is it that he can't bear the discrimination of society against homosexuality? No, it was because he saw the disappointment and incomprehension in his mother's eyes.
Parents are the most indestructible fortress in the world, and the most powerful weapons in the world.
Why are children reluctant to communicate with their parents, and why are children unwilling to confess to their parents after encountering things?
Because the disappointed eyes of parents are too lethal, because the parents' incomprehension is more unacceptable than all the slander in the outside world.
Parents should understand that when a child admits a mistake, they are asking the parent for help.
They long for the comfort and understanding of their parents, who want to get rid of the mistake itself and choose to be on their side unconditionally.
Even if they are really at fault, they still want to see that they deserve to be loved in the eyes of their parents when they are punished.
Psychologist Edward Lee Thorndike said: "Parents can only understand the psychological needs of their children from the perspective of their children, not arbitrarily draw conclusions, reduce conflicts with children, and win their children's trust." ”
The child's ability to confess to the parents is given by the parents, the parents have a little more understanding, a little less blame, a little more tolerance, a little less criticism, the child's courage to confess will increase by one point.
When parents let their children know that no matter what happens, mom and dad will always be on your side, when every family is full of tolerance and understanding, allowing children to be different from others, then when children encounter difficulties, they will have the courage to confess to their parents.
Because they know that Mom and Dad will always love them.