Let me tell you something from a girl's point of view.
(If there are people who have offended me to express good feelings, I'm sorry, but it is also good for you to let you know these truths)
(The following expression is somewhat emotional, not for you Ha, is the writing technique, I hope not to mind)
(There are many people who spray me in the comment area, but this question is asked like this, the original premise is that boys chase girls, that is, the party that is in need should be more careful, because you want it, people don't want it.) In turn, girls chasing men is the same, but girls' problems will be different from boys's)
1, do not teach us to be human!!!
I've really met too many guys like this, and as soon as I come up, I have to guide my life and tell you where it's bad.
I would be angry when I first met a guy like that.
After encountering more, they found that they were actually just not confident and added negative thinking.
So they want to show their sense of worth by teaching you to be human.
Because they are not confident in themselves, they must exert themselves to attract your attention and make you value him.
And their way of expression is usually to tell you where he thinks you are wrong, what he thinks should be.
A look for your own good. Although often there are ingredients in it that are really good for you.
However, the taste of daddy is a bit heavy.
2) Don't complain about your own life
I meet guys who will tell me about their life anxieties or something.
Maybe they think it's about opening up to you and trying to get closer.
But I just think, what does this have to do with me? Do you want to solve your own problem first?
Thank you for looking up to me for making your trash can.
But we don't seem to be that familiar with it, right?
3, first do a good job of value display, let the other party understand you
Chasing girls does not exist, only mutual attraction.
So don't chase, just test each other whether it is appropriate.
So if you're not someone you're already familiar with, it's necessary to have enough information in the beginning.
It's not that you have to say how much money you make in a year and how many apartments you have.
Don't do this, even having money will make us feel low.
The counterexample is a video of a human high-quality male courtship human high-quality woman.
We care about whether you have money or not, but what we care more about is whether you have matching personal qualities, cognitive level, ability, aesthetics, values, life interests...
What is also very important is the appearance and height.
Maybe there are sisters who are not Yan Control, but I personally still care about it.
Showing this doesn't have to be like an interview, it's all just outright and naked.
For example, the circle of friends, or skillfully integrated into the process of chatting.
4. Start from the other party's interest point
For example, I like to watch dramas and movies, and there was once a boy who, when he first came into contact, shared with me a lot of movies that he liked.
These movies just happen to be in my perception of good taste.
Then I had a good feeling for him, and the initial connection was established.
Then, after getting more familiar with it, you can talk about some more in-depth topics.
Step by step, slowly understand, you come and go.
In fact, the process of chasing a girl must first become friends with her.
If you can't be her friend, then why be her boyfriend?
It's not impossible to check the hukou type of chat, it's just to divide people.
For example, if you check my account, I may immediately think that you are a boring straight man who wants to block you.
But if you are also facing a straight woman who is similar to your mind, it is likely to be a natural relationship.
So the most important thing is to be evenly matched and find the type that fits with each other.
There is no one who chases whom, just in each other to find out whether it is a fit or not.
If you can't move, it means that everyone is not a road person, so don't force it.
You feel that you are conscientiously chasing people's homes, but for girls, it is also very tired.
Unless it is green tea to enjoy this feeling of being concerned, it is a burden for ordinary girls.
5. Strengthen the connection with each other
Find the entry point and step by step.
What is the best connection point between you?
For example, there was a yoga teacher who had a crush on me before, and I was also interested in yoga.
Then he would share something with me from time to time and invite me to his events.
Although he was not my dish, we became friends who could be in constant contact.
People are wrong, but the method is right.
6, take yourself as the center and release the charm
For example, some boys will ask for greetings early and late, eat and sleep, and do not do anything.
And tentatively ask what I like? Like it or not?
This should actually be divided into people, such as some girls, relatively get a lot of attention from the opposite sex, may eat this set.
But I can't, and it's easy to get annoyed.
I'm sorry I'm not Versailles, and there aren't a lot of people chasing me, otherwise I wouldn't be single.
It's just that this unevenness of attention from the opposite sex is objectively present.
When you first started paying attention to me, I would respond to you out of courtesy and curiosity.
But if you don't take the opportunity to show some of the points that you're attracted to me, then I'm not interested.
The world is so fast-paced, I'm still busy.
Since you like me, you have to find a way to continue my attention to you.
On the one hand, it is how your "product" itself is, and on the other hand, it is also an art of attraction.
Just like online advertising now, there must be both the softness of soft text and the hardness of dry goods.
It is better to have both.
If you're very skilled and the "product" isn't quite good, then either you're a scumbag or I'll find you interesting but immature.
If the "product" is good, the skill is not. Then you are appropriately proactive, and the discerning girl will further explore you.
For example, when I end up being attracted to some guys, it's not because he "licks" me and pays more attention to me.
Instead, I found some shining points in them, such as especially like running, especially like to study history, especially know what they want, especially love life, aesthetic is particularly good...
7, to be funny and cute
Everyday chat, don't use memes too dry.
But many straight men don't use memes.
Some straight men have learned to use memes under my guidance or dislike,
I will also feel that I am more cute.
Then in the process of communication, interspersed with some daily beautiful sharing.
For example, you shoot a beautiful cloud, you hear a good song, a funny video you brush up...
It's funny!
But the fun is the icing on the cake that builds connections.
If there is no basic connection, share a lot directly, and it will feel disturbing.
Like cooking, the heat, the order, the combination of various materials.
Then you will become delicious.
8. Sincerity and weakness
Showing weakness is not complaining, just showing your soft parts to someone you trust like a kitten.
This is a relatively advanced step, often not deliberately.
Be measured and don't turn into complaining.
Girls are motherly and this is a big bug for us.
We will be strong, but we also have a desire to protect.
For example, there is a bridge section in the movie "The Man Without a Surname".
The male protagonist could not swim when he was a teenager, and the female protagonist invited him to go into the water to play with everyone on the beach.
In the first parallel world, he disguises himself, saying that he doesn't want to play with fools. Then the fate with the heroine is over.
In the second parallel world, he was embarrassed to say that he had never learned to swim.
The heroine immediately came to the desire to protect, wanting to protect this poor little cute.
The heroine also sat on the beach with him, chatted with him, and told the people who came to call her into the water to play, saying that she had come to the great aunt.
to guard his little secret.
The two of them have a little secret that only they know. Very sweet.
If you think this is too tired! To think of so many things!
It doesn't matter, it's just that people are not suitable, you just need to change the right target customers for you.
I am @Depression Healer MMMia and can heal your counselor from the depths of your heart.