Tree of Life Marriage
There are too many topics of love and marriage to count, and almost every detail of life will be related to them.
Our upbringing, the way we think, and our view of the world will be reflected in love and marriage in the most authentic way.
Because everyone needs love, whether they enter marriage or not, love is the most basic need of human beings.
While not everyone will necessarily enter into marriage, marriage is the result of love anyway.
A life that is not nourished by love is doomed to wither; a life that is not tempered by marriage is doomed to be immature.
Pixar's animated short film "Violent Clouds and Sending Cranes" makes us feel the excitement of this topic again from another perspective.
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A metaphor for love and marriage
I had seen this cartoon a long time ago, and I was hit by the warmth of the film, but I did not record these feelings in words for a long time.
Because the parable of the cloud creating life, such a beautiful fairy tale as the crane sending the child, is indeed a challenge for me, who believes that God created everything.
However, with the deepening of marriage counseling services, the understanding of marriage and family issues has gradually gained some depth, and when I saw this short film again, I suddenly became enlightened.
The secret hidden in the layers of fables and stories is actually the truth of love and marriage that makes us love and hate intertwined.
The story of Violent Cloud and Sending Crane is actually about how two people with special relationships get along, not only about fate, but also about contracts.
There are always such people in this world, who are different, with the solitude and weirdness of the ego, called alien and lonely hidden in a small corner.
It's like a dark cloud of violence, out of place with the auspicious cloud above, a little stubborn, a little different.
In the happy picture of the film, it suddenly appears like an independent world that has been deliberately separated.
Although, the loneliness below the bustle, the loneliness outside the beauty, makes this dark cloud look even more different.
But a person's cloud, but also happy to complete their own work, not cute, even full of danger, but real.
Then the stork appeared, with a scaly body, scattered feathers, and an awkward and stiff dry laugh.
Constantly repeating the extremely dangerous work, sending away the chewing, bumping, and stimulation created by the cloud of violence, leaving more pain.
Until the crane seems to be unable to bear to leave, but in fact, it is seeking grace and then returning with love, even if it continues to be shocked by electricity, it is still inseparable from the cloud.
oh! It turns out that this is a story about companionship, two lives, because of love, guarding each other's marriage in a world of self...
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Most people understand marriage
Every cloud has a crane, and every crane has a cloud, just as a man and a woman in a marriage have each other.
A lot of times, our marriage is like the feeling of watching this animated short film for the first time, it is a sad feeling.
When we look at other people's marriages, they are all peaceful, full of joy and peace, but when we look at our own marriages, we are not satisfied.
Some people always feel that the other party is a cloud of violence, and they are sending a crane, miserable but helpless.
Some people always feel that the other party is a crane, and they are a violent cloud, and they are at ease but take it for granted.
This preset is in the eyes of the crane of the cloud of violence and the cloud of violence, and the cloud of the crane and the crane, just like it is doomed.
This should be the reason why marriage is sad, but our two clients may never have realized it when they had this relationship.
So many people will understand that the crane will still come back when he is overwhelmed and scarred, and yun will cry angrily when he finds that the crane has left him.
In this way, the relationship is not just a simple contract, as if it also includes a series of potential laws for getting along.
Crane must smile at Yun every day, but cannot refuse Yun's work; Yun wants to be sad about Crane's hardships, but he is unwilling to change his creation.
The crane cannot show dissatisfaction with Yun's work because Yun is innocent and sensitive; Nor can Yun stop doing harm to Crane, because this is Crane's job.
The crane concentrates on transporting, the cloud concentrates on creation; each person performs his or her duties and then lives in such trivialities.
One day the crane will no longer be able to transport Yun's works, not that the crane does not want to, but that he has been hurt to the point of dying.
So the crane flew away, went to a friend to talk, and then became stronger when he returned; although Yun was heartbroken, he immediately accepted the crane and continued to "hurt"...
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Updated horizons
To be honest, I did not have deep meditation and reflection on the profound revelation contained in this short film.
But when I look at it again this time, I have a completely different understanding and angle than when I first saw it, because this time I saw the gentleness and love of the cloud.
Compared to creating cute animal babies, the task of creating violent babies is so thankless.
These wild and difficult crocodiles and hedgehog babies will cause a lot of trouble for the clouds, and they will not only be rejected and rejected by most people, but even the clouds will be disgusted.
But the cloud still gave them the same love, and gave them life with joy even if they would not be understood.
Why should these "violent" beings be created? Why do storks have to endure blows and transport these "dangerous" lives?
In fact, every life has the good intention of God the Creator, and has the meaning and value of creation.
It is just that because of the pollution of Adam and Eve's original sin, all the good meanings and values of creation have been polluted and become sinners.
Babies that look harmless to humans and animals and babies who are obviously vicious are actually very dangerous in nature.
But after human beings have been defiled by original sin, their understanding of the meaning of life has given rise to various standards.
Human beings like pleasing, lovely, well-behaved beings, and instinctively dislike all life that is not within this standard.
So the "swallowing" of the baby crocodile, the "bump" of the baby goat, and the "sting" of the baby hedgehog become the label that hurts us, and the gray cloud becomes the "cloud of violence".
Such a distinction makes human beings in this world particularly vulnerable to being "hurt" and particularly sensitive.
So much so that it is taken for granted that the cloud is full of violence, and the crane has been traumatized all the time.
In fact, the truth will always exist in a state of "good" and "bad", but because human nature distinguishes between good and evil, we will only choose what we think is "good".
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Patience and grace
After seeing this degree, the real mystery is revealed, that is, to see the crane's perseverance more deeply.
Some people say that storks need to have a strong heart to accompany such a cloud?
Knowing that every time the baby will be hurt, but still bravely face the difficulties again and again; even if the feathers are sparse and scarred, do you still have to smile and have no regrets?
Originally, when I watched it, I also felt that the crane was very wronged, but when I looked at it again this time, I really understood what love is!
Although the true meaning of love was so familiar and catchy, it was only this time that it was only knowledge and theory in the mind.
It turned out that the understanding of the crane flying away to find comfort equipment was to no longer be injured, and could use the equipment to continue to endure and complete the so-called greatness.
This time, I found that in addition to patience, the crane also had more powerful kindness, and the crane used these visible "equipment" to reassure Yun.
The Bible says, "Love is eternal patience and kindness" Love begins with eternity, but patience in the heart is always accompanied by kindness!
Although there is anxiety, there is no longer fear because of grace and love; it can even make the harm no longer leave a trace, lose its impact.
Because love is never understood and interpreted, only simply believed and accepted; just like life and faith, only in experience can it flow smoothly, it will shock people's hearts!
Whether it is a harmless baby or an evil baby who looks full of violence, in this world under sin, harm is everywhere.
But only those who truly believe in the God who created themselves, the God who loves us to the end, will understand what love is!
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Life that is no longer harmed
The cruelest punishment in this world should be the cross, and the person who is hurt the most should be the Lord Jesus.
When He was hung on the cross, He was naked, and this ultimate human shame occurred entirely in the Sinless Body of the Lord.
But in his most painful moments, He said to the Father, "Father! Forgive them, for what they have done, they do not know"!
At this moment we suddenly understood all the reactions of the crane, the injury was obvious, but the crane was not concerned with the pain, but on his mission.
When the electricity emitted by the electric eel pierced through the equipment on the crane's body and made it tremble all over, it was very obvious that the crane at this time was happy.
The crane knew very well that Yun was not deliberately trying to harm himself, but that this electric eel was just a life that would discharge electricity.
If someone is willing to change their way of thinking and not continue to be alive in the victim's mindset, the world is truly quiet.
Isn't that what the biggest secret of marriage is? If someone is willing to understand everything in this way, marriage becomes a true grace and blessing.
For a life that doesn't pay attention to harm, nothing can hurt them!
Because the truth has long been seen through by these beings, they are only concerned with their own mission, which is to flow out the love of God.
Therefore, only when two people are truly filled with God's love and have a clear mission, will marriage be full of hope, will no longer live in the judgment of right and wrong, good and evil, but face the darkness of this world with love.
Of course, only those who have truly been touched by the self-sacrificing love on the cross will not be entangled in who is right and who is wrong, and will accept and tolerate each other who is different from themselves because of the overflowing love.
This is not a doctrine, or a truth, but a process that every life must go through!
For the source of this experience is alive, alive, and powerful; this source is God, the one who can truly change his life!
Are you struggling in the dark, in your marriage, in the midst of right and wrong, good and evil? Then come on! Come and taste the grace of the Lord with your own mouth, and experience the sweetness of this love for yourself!
Your life and marriage are bound to change the most wonderfully! It is bound to come out of bitterness and pain!