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Everyone always has a stage in life: you care a lot about the eyes of others. When doing something, I always think about what others will think. No matter what you do, you are always very careful about your every move.
Such a self, in fact, you do not like. Because I live very tired. Many times, you can't even figure out who you are. I've had this life stage too.
During that time, I was very tired. I didn't even know who I was, but I wanted to know what I was doing during that time. In the end, I left everything behind, a little willful, but I actually didn't want to go on like this.
It turns out that life is much simpler. You have more time on your own, more time for you to read books, and less trouble for you to cope with relationships. The mood is much clearer.
At that stage, I was probably like Yataro Matsuura, the author of "Ordinary Force", who said, and I wanted to be freed from that relationship. So I started asking myself: What do I like? What do I hate? Then find out the answer little by little.
I am an ordinary person, and my greatest desire is nothing more than to live every ordinary day in our lives. But such a wish is not too easy to achieve. Because what many people lack is precisely this ordinary force.
What is ordinary force? The author mentions that it is necessary to look at and solve problems with ordinary, ordinary thinking; to enjoy ordinary life, to find pleasure and happiness in the small things of daily life.
Many people are unhappy, probably because they lack the ability to live an ordinary day.
01 clothes
The first thing about the ordinary, which is probably our dress, is probably what we wear. The trend of the times has spawned many elements. There are many dressing concepts such as trendy, retro, and everyday.
When it comes to daily dressing, I don't know how people will choose it? For me, I would choose clothes that are convenient and suitable for our living conditions.
Don't look at the little dressing, in fact, there are also college questions. Clothing includes shirts, jackets, pants, watches, shoes, etc.
When we walk on the street, we will see that the same shirt is worn, some people give people the feeling of competence, some people give people the feeling of elegance, and some people give people the feeling of obtrusiveness.
The author mentions in the book that he will choose one that "doesn't matter whenever you meet someone." I can be myself whenever I want. Still cheer up and regain self-confidence" in the high-end shirt.
The author also tells the way to wear shirts from the aspects of color, style, maintenance, etiquette, etc. In fact, the shirt is not just a piece of clothing, many times it is our armor, but also our understanding of the "essence of clothes".
Dressing is a very ordinary thing, but doing this ordinary thing well will actually increase the joy of our lives. Therefore, we need to explore ourselves and really understand our own likes, so that life can be more interesting.
To explore yourself through dressing, you actually need to have the ability to wear every ordinary piece of clothing well. You don't need every piece of clothing to be a brand name, but you can have the ability to make every outfit extraordinary.
02 Food and accommodation
As the saying goes, "The people take food as the sky". When it comes to the ordinary day of each of us, it is inseparable from food and housing.
Food is the foundation of our survival. Whether we are happy to eat or not is also related to whether we are in a good mood every day. The uncomfortable place to live in will also affect our quality of life.
Therefore, ordinary people's ordinary day, to live better, also need to start from these two aspects. As the author mentions: "Eat and live to enrich everyday life." ”
How to understand it? Take the matter of eating, for example, there are seven days a week, and the richness of life comes from your daily meal schedule. Every ordinary morning, how do you arrange your first energy in the morning? This will directly determine your daily mood.
How do you choose the dishes and utensils you use to eat? Is it to buy some utensils? Or will you give them some sense of ceremony and choose some utensils that you really like? These are the things that will determine your quality of life.
When it comes to quality of life, it is inseparable from the environment in which we live. The reason why the house has become "home" is because it has a warm taste. What is warmth? Probably everything in the house comes from your careful selection and careful arrangement. Because I have spent my mind, I feel very cherished and feel it.
In terms of food and housing, in order to enhance the fun of life, we can spend more time to carefully select and arrange. With emotional investment, we can show a kind of expectation of ordinary life.
Food and housing, also not the more expensive the better, because most of us are ordinary people, what we need is to make the food and housing in ordinary days interesting, which is also an ability.
03 Work
People in contemporary society can't do without our work. The author's emphasis in the book is on "rules and etiquette at work."
When it comes to work, the author advocates "preparing for the rain" That is to say, many things should be planned in advance, and do not think of waiting until the last minute to try to complete them.
Planning ahead can keep everything organized. There is not so much messiness, and things can develop according to their own ideas. The rhythm of our daily lives will not be disrupted.
And work-related life, including your workstation, the way you dispose of work waste, the stationery you use, etc. are all manifestations of the quality of your work.
Etiquette at work includes interviews with people, gifts, business cards and wallet choices.
Handle every detail of the work well, and every day will be a lot more fun. And this is also a kind of ability, learning to separate work and family, is a kind of wisdom.
As the author said, we have to face a lot of bad things every day, but if we do some things related to ourselves well, we can meet more luck in trivial days.
In this way, the ordinary day will also be very happy. And you, too, can become a happy and happy ordinary person!