The title "donkey horse" itself is full of discrimination and even humiliation. Let's start with a rare story that roughly illuminates the awkward state of existence of this group.
The two Han dynasties had a great family, the Ban clan, and produced a number of celebrities. For example, Ban Gu, the author of the Book of Han, Ban Zhao, a female writer and historian, Ban Chao, a military and diplomat, and so on. The protagonist of this story is called Ban Shi, Ban Chao's grandson.
Because of the glory of his ancestors, Ban Shi married The Aunt of Emperor Shun of Han and Princess Yincheng, the sister of Emperor An of Han. In real life, there is a title called "Gong Da Qian", let's call Princess Shang "Gong Da Gui". After the class became a horse master, gui, did not see much, but really "kneeling".
This Princess of Yincheng was promiscuous by nature, and with a noble status and no one to control, she staged a strange story that has been around for eternity. I can assure you that there is absolutely no second case in history.
I don't know whether the class did not start as she wished, or whether she was "difficult to fill the gully", in addition to the horse, she raised a "deputy horse". They are all horses, so let's put them in a trough to raise them, and the Princess of Yincheng does not shy away from playing in front of everyone, and even "riding horses" in front of the banshi.
Ban Shi could not afford to offend, so he had to bow his "noble" head and let the Princess of Yincheng do something wrong. Ban Shi's patience was taken for granted by the Princess of Yincheng, and finally the most explosive scene was staged.
One day, the Princess of Yincheng drove the "co-horse", playing hi, but addictive, people summoned the class to start, a finger under the bed: you, lie under the bed!
If it weren't for the Book of the Later Han Dynasty, I wouldn't have believed it was true. We really can't understand how the psychology of the Princess of Yincheng could be twisted into this. Ban was always unable to bear it, and he pulled out the sharp blade hidden in his sleeve and inserted it into the rotten flesh of the Princess of Yin City without hesitation.
The result of this matter makes people want to overturn the dragon chair. Emperor Shun of Han actually put Ban Shi and his brothers and sisters to death!
Don't talk about any reason, "donkey horse" is "deputy horse", originally an accessory to the princess, better than the big money is nothing more than a name, honor is to rely on dignity in exchange.
In China's thousands of years of history, although the treatment of horses in various dynasties is not the same, the rule of "yin and yang upside down" is roughly unchanged. Usually, after marrying a princess, ma ma ye will sacrifice the following rights and interests.
Husband and wife are reversed
Traditional Chinese ethics and morality are "husband for wife", which often does not work in the case of the horse master. The princess has the emperor behind the mountain, and the horse master is doomed to "steel" can not rise, can not "steel" how to "gang"?
We often say "marry" the princess, but it is not right, the accurate saying is called "Shang" princess. Shang, i.e. Shang, advocating, means Princess Gaopan of the Horse. Princess marriage, also known as "lower marriage", is a gift to people of low status.
If the couple coexists peacefully, it is fine, but if there is a contradiction and conflict, it must be the horse that suffers. Like Guo Huan, the horse master who had the courage to slap the princess, only Guo Ziyi's son dared to do so. Even so, Old Guo Ziyi was still frightened to personally confess to the emperor.
Some horses are not as well nested as the eunuchs and palace girls around the princess. Princess Shouyang of the Ming Dynasty, married Ran Xing. There was a general manager named Liang Yingnü beside the princess, who once gathered dozens of eunuchs and beat Ran Xing to the point that his nose was blue and his face was swollen. Liang Ying's female villain filed a complaint first, causing Ran Xing not only to have no way to appeal, but also to be ordered by the emperor to reflect.
Some princesses live independently, and if ma ma ye wants to see the princess, he must pay bribes to his attendants.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are often disordered
Song Zhenzong once issued a strange holy decree, he stipulated that the princess should "raise her generations" when she went to her in-laws' house. That is to say, the relationship between the princess and the in-laws is equal, and there is no need to perform the mother-in-law's gifts, let alone fulfill the obligations of the daughter-in-law.
Some time ago, the popular TV series "Qing Ping Le", the contradiction between Princess Fukang and Li Wei, the horse, and her mother-in-law, generally conformed to historical facts. Princess Fukang's arbitrariness is not only due to her personality, but also related to the "raising generations" system.
For the sake of its own honor, the royal family destroyed the code of ethics and brought misfortune to the family life of the horse. It is not a big deal that the horse master himself is wronged and upside down, and it is really insulting to the lintel to let his parents suffer with him. Therefore, many men can't hide from Princess Shang.
Tang Xuanzong once sighed, how come the ministers are not willing to be my relatives? If he let his daughter-in-law call him the eldest brother, or even turn him backwards to give his daughter-in-law a salute, he would be qualified to ask such a question if he was not angry at all.
The future of the pack horse is lost
In most cases, the horse master is equivalent to a large meat worm that eats and waits for death, and the political life is castrated from the time of Princess Shang!
The royal sons were all people in the political whirlpool, and would never intermarry with Qianshou, and even the most common Ming Dynasty would not marry a princess to a mason farmer.
However, political power is the antithesis of imperial power, so the more backward China's history is, the more complete the status of the horse. The basic law is that whoever marries a princess means a great sacrifice in the political career, even the end.
When political life is over, will family affairs such as concubines be affected? Marrying a wife and taking a concubine, that is the ancient patriarchal society, the basic rights of men, the existence of princesses, will not deprive the horse of the sacred "citizenship rights"?
The answer is very simple, from the legal level, the princess has no right to stop the concubine, the specific operation level, depends on the personal creation of the donkey.
The patriarchal system in ancient China was the basis for maintaining social stability and consolidating the rule of the regime. Therefore, the marriage system stipulated by the patriarchal system is essentially to safeguard the imperial power, and no matter how noble the princess is, it cannot break through the basis of the country's rule. Therefore, the donkey horse can take concubines, and there is no dynasty that restricts the donkey horse to take concubines.
However, the patriarchal system also stipulates that the wife is the sole mistress of the family, and the affairs of the family are decided by the mistress. That is to say, the male protagonist cannot make his own opinions when he takes a concubine, but his wife helps Zhang Luo. Therefore, the princess can also use the identity of the "current manager" to prevent the concubines in disguise.
Due to the relationship between culture and tradition, in most cases, the princess can accept the concubine of the horse, and even regard the concubine to the husband as her obligation, otherwise there is a suspicion of "jealous woman". Especially when the princess is unable to have children, or if the heirs are not prosperous, the princess must ensure the prosperity of the family by giving concubines to her husband.
The reason is very simple, the princess married to the horse family, the root of her future interests, is rooted in this family, so it must be based on the family interests as the premise. When concubinage was linked to the interests of the family, the princess had to bow her head.
Of course, there are also princesses who can't break this tendon, or who encounter a pony with a "big turnip", then there is a drama to watch.
For example, Huan Wen, a powerful minister of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, married Sima Xingnan, the princess of Nankang, the daughter of Emperor Ming of Jin. Don't look at Huan Wen as a fierce tiger in the political arena, playing with the emperor's puppets, but when he saw the fierce Princess Nankang, he was docile like a cat.
After Huan Wen cut down Shu, he captured the sister of Li Shi, the lord of the Cheng Han Dynasty. This little sister Li is like a flower, her hair is long and hanging, and everyone loves her. Huan Wen immediately couldn't move his feet, and had the heart to take a concubine, but he didn't dare to tell Princess Nankang, so he secretly raised her in the outer room.
Please note that the outer chamber and the concubine are not the same thing, the concubine is named, and the outer chamber is nameless. The paper could not contain the fire, princess Nankang got the news, brought a knife to the door, and wanted to hand blade Li Xiaomei.
This Little Sister Li calmly untied her long hair and said slowly, "Who wants to live such a life?" I am a broken country and a broken family, there is no choice, if you can kill me, it is my rebirth, I can't ask for it. ”
Then a miracle happened, and Princess Nankang hugged Li Xiaomei: "Sister, you look very poor, even I am moved, not to mention the old immortal in my family." ”
In this way, Princess Nankang fulfilled Huan Wen's dream and took Li Xiaomei as a concubine for him.
Compared with Huan Wen's luck, a pony named Pei Xun in the Tang Dynasty was extremely unlucky. Pei Xun's wife was Princess Yicheng, the daughter of Emperor Zhongzong Li Xian, a staunch "feminist" person.
Like Huan Wen, Pei Xun did not dare to take a concubine and secretly raised an outer chamber outside. The revenge of the Yicheng princess made people's legs tremble when they heard it.
He grabbed Pei Xun and the woman, cut off a piece of scalp on their heads, and exchanged them for stickers. Pei Xun went to work with "skin grafting" and was ridiculed by his colleagues as a big joke. The woman was even more miserable, could not bear the insult, and hanged herself.
Such cruel means have gone far beyond the scope of "jealous women". This incident shocked Wu Zetian, who was still alive at the time, and the crown prince Li Xian. In order to calm the discussion and for the sake of royal face, Wu Zetian demoted the Princess of Yicheng to the lord of Yicheng County, and promoted Pei Xun to a higher level as compensation.
Therefore, the literati and doctors all understand a truth, marrying a princess is waiting to win back a bodhisattva for themselves, unless they are willing to give up their dignity from now on, they are still far away.