Text: Flipping through the books in his spare time
"Vanity and pride are two different concepts, although the two words are often used as synonyms. One can be proud and not vain. Pride refers mostly to what we think of ourselves, and vanity refers to what we want others to think of us. ”
—Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice
Jane Austen's words come from her delicate heart, vanity and pride in her pen to give birth to philosophical reflection rhymes, a reading, like a sip of coffee, the heart has an aftertaste.
Vanity and pride, from the object point of view, are the desire to obtain a sense of dignity, a sense of existence, a sense of being valued. This is a potentially confusing intersection of the two.
But as far as the main body is concerned, it is very different.
Pure pride is the satisfaction of the heart with oneself, because of self-esteem, so hope to be respected by others.
Pure vanity, defined entirely by the evaluation of others, is not without "self-esteem," it's just that this sense of respect is heavily dependent on external factors.
In daily life, it is not very deliberate to distinguish between pride and vanity, because few people will be touched to the bottom line. Only by paying attention can we detect the clues.
Pride and vanity are most evident when a person is offended.
A proud person can lose anyone's respect, but he will not lose his share.
A vain person may be able to get everyone's praise, but he can't get the recognition of himself in his heart.
Pride is a natural stubbornness, stubbornly believing that you can, no matter what others say.
Vanity is an acquired indoctrination, blindly following the likes and dislikes of others, no matter what you think.
Vanity or pride, why should it be so clearly divided?
See the way, just to have a choice.
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The beauty of words penetrates the literal and reaches the heart. "Flip the book in your spare time" Thank you for reading.
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