Korean actress Qiu Porcelain, who is loved by the audience, recently shared a late-night video on social platforms.
In the video, Qiu Cixuan happily declared at the beginning: "My husband has come to see me." ”
Although Yu Xiaoguang, Qiu Porcelain's husband in the video, did not show his face, he could hear the voice from time to time, and he could hear that the two were indeed very harmonious.
The most unexpected thing was that Qiu Cixuan suddenly choked up a little while eating, and then his emotions began to lose control, and finally he cried.
In this regard, Qiu Cixuan's explanation to everyone is: "The emotions that have been suppressed for too long have suddenly lost control" and "especially happy, very happy".
Seeing such an autumn porcelain dazzling, fans' hearts are full of mixed feelings, blessings, heartache, and a little nervousness.
After all, everyone knows that the "happiness" of Qiu Porcelain Is indeed not easy to come by, and how long this "happiness" can last, everyone has a question mark in their hearts.
The news of Yu Xiaoguang's suspected derailment is still vividly remembered.
In July last year, Yu Xiaoguang was photographed by reporters going out with friends late at night.
When she returned home, a woman got in the car and sat on Yu Xiaoguang's lap, which immediately caused an uproar on social networking sites.
Just as many female celebrities' partners were exposed to the news routine of suspected cheating, Yu Xiaoguang quickly issued an apology.
Of course, it is not to admit to cheating, but to apologize for their misdeeds.
And Qiu Porcelain Xuan also posted a text in support of her husband Yu Xiaoguang, saying that the video is a friend who is familiar to both of them, and the behavior of the two is indeed easy to misunderstand, so the couple say sorry to everyone together.
What Qiu Cixuan did not understand was that it was not her who was wrong, and netizens did not care about an apology from her husband.
Sorry for her is her husband Yu Xiaoguang, netizens just hurt her, love her, and sing for her.
And Qiu Cixuan's attitude at that time had already hinted that she would not divorce Yu Xiaoguang because of this matter.
Throughout the entertainment industry in the past two years, there are not a few actresses who choose to divorce because of their husbands cheating.
And every time when the actresses announce their divorce, it will cause netizens to shout applause.
The story of Zhen Huan's return and transformation into the big heroine Niu Hulu is of course enjoyable.
After all, she is an example of many women who are repressed and wronged in marriage and fight back.
And those actresses who have not divorced, still pay for their husbands, and silently support their husbands, have made countless netizens "mourn their misfortunes and anger them."
They even uttered foul language and sarcasm, as if it were the female stars who made the mistake.
So, when the husband is unfaithful, the female star or the wife, only divorce can lead to happiness?
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Whether you leave or not depends on your own needs
First of all, we need to know one thing, marriage is like a person drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Everyone has their own considerations in marriage, and it is absolutely not possible to "one size fits all" with a uniform standard.
For example, the Autumn Porcelain Xuan we discussed today, she had an unfortunate childhood, and her father did not hurt her mother and did not love.
Because of the early death of her sister, her mother projected self-blame and powerlessness onto Qiu Cixuan.
When she was young, her mother scolded her every day, which made Qiu Porcelain's heart have eternal trauma.
A happy childhood can heal a lifetime, and an unhappy childhood must be cured with a lifetime.
Meeting Yu Xiaoguang's Qiu Porcelain Xuan is like having light in life.
Yu Xiaoguang's careful, gentle and sweet love words made Qiu Porcelain Xuan feel cherished and cared for for the first time.
This is the beginning of the fate of the two people, and it is also the accumulation of the feelings of Qiu Cixuan and Yu Xiaoguang.
With such a warm past, nature is a deep link that Qiu Porcelain Xuan can't give up.
Coupled with the fact that two people have children, the emotional bondage is even deeper.
In Qiu Cixuan's heart, Yu Xiaoguang is the person who knows her best and is suitable for her, and these will not change because of the mistakes of the other party once or twice.
Today's Qiu Ci Xuan is 42 years old, and his career has gradually encountered bottlenecks, and his mentality is different from that of his youth.
Living your life peacefully and peacefully may be the biggest wish at the moment.
Today, when the whole public opinion has zero tolerance for the cheating party, it is even more difficult to abandon the voice of the outside world and make a choice that is loyal to the heart, which is no less difficult than receiving a divorce certificate.
Now the hot director Xu Zheng has also been deeply involved in peach scandals, which has also made his marriage precarious.
Xu Zheng's wife, Xiao Taohong, said: "Why is everyone's marriage the same?"
Who prescribes this, it is you two who live your life.
As long as you two agree, why can't you develop a marriage model that is exclusive to you? ”
So the little Tao Hong we saw did not dwell too much on her husband's scandal, as a producer, as a public welfare, filming, and as a mentor in variety shows...
Although the years have passed, the charm and spirituality have not diminished from that year.
Every year on my birthday, I will receive various birthday gifts from my husband Xu Zheng.
Whoever looked at her said with admiration: This is the woman who holds happiness firmly in the palm of her hand.
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Happiness lies only in the next meal
Many people feel that marriage is unhappy because they are not living in the present, but in the endless imagination of the future.
Because the partner cheats once, imagine that the other person will cheat often.
This person is in front of you, but your mind has drifted out of nowhere.
In the heart, playing the other party and others Qingqing me and my dog blood drama, your language must be resentful, and your heart must also be afraid and uneasy.
Maybe the movie can't understand the plot, and the food can't taste it.
Others live their lives with their partners, look like they're eating and drinking, but their minds are full of worries about the future:
What if my child's degree has not yet been decided?
Can this big customer be negotiated in the end?
When can the leaking water pipe in the home be repaired?
And many people overlook that life is composed of a small moment of the moment.
This moment and the other party are purely experiencing the happiness of the moment, and this moment is happiness.
Just like Qiu Porcelain Xuan, recording videos to fans who care for and care for her, sharing life;
Eating food in her mouth, drinking small wine, and her husband came from afar to visit her...
The happiest elements of life are all in place, what else is there to ask for?
Such a woman who knows how to be grateful and understands the true taste of life, the goddess of happiness may eventually come to her side.
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Self-growth is an essential lesson in marriage
There is a sentence in the earliest classic online novel "The Legend of Wukong":
"Everyone is born thinking the world is for him alone, and when he finds out he's wrong, he starts to grow up."
This sentence explains the gap between "mind" and "reality" very well.
We have all walked into a relationship with unrealistic fantasies about love, but we have found that the real world is completely different from what we imagined.
There is no perfect person, no perfect relationship, and certainly no perfect self.
Letting go of unrealistic controls and fantasies about the other person and returning to reality to make changes that you can control is a very important ability.
For example, when the other person has a disagreement with yourself, you learn not to expect the other party to let you, and put your interests first.
Instead, it is to analyze with him, and such a choice is also beneficial to him, so that both sides can reach a consensus with enough pleasure.
For example, when the other party does not want to meet their own needs, you are no longer just crying, making trouble and hanging, no longer silently weeping and complaining, but to analyze why the other party is not willing to meet.
Think clearly about whether the other person is incapable of satisfying, not having the conditions to be met, or whether your needs are unreasonable in themselves.
Netizen Ah Fen used to be such a girl, she very much hopes that her boyfriend will say goodnight to her every day before going to bed.
Because she felt that this was the way to appear to have a sense of ceremony, it seemed that the other party cared about herself.
One day the other party socialized a little late, forgot to say goodnight, Affin was slightly upset, but also did not have a seizure, just remind the boyfriend not to forget next time.
But not long after, the boyfriend forgot to say goodnight, which made Ah Fen a little unbearable.
She began to suspect that the other party no longer took her to heart and quarreled with the other party.
Next, the boyfriend obediently performed for a while, but it was not long before the boyfriend forgot.
If Affen wants to grow, he needs to consider not how to force the other party to satisfy himself.
Instead, it is to analyze why the boyfriend forgot to say goodnight, which will have such a big impact on her.
Ah Fen found that she tied her sense of ceremony to the weight of her boyfriend's heart.
It is only when the boyfriend fulfills her commitment that she feels valued and loved.
As long as you analyze it a little rationally, you will find that this binding is not logical.
She gradually changed her mind and put the place where her boyfriend valued herself in another way.
For example, the boyfriend sometimes brings gifts to himself, and he often has to contact her when he is away, and these, than the good night every day, can warm her heart.
No matter what kind of relationship, what kind of marriage, we can all learn from it, and find our own limitations and irrational beliefs.
Self-growth is a choice that will never lose money at any time.
After all, the only thing that really accompanies us all our lives is ourselves.
Author | He is a water-stopping healer, who holds the qualification certificate of psychological counselor of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and the qualification certificate of IHNMA international hypnotist, and is committed to exploring the depth and greatness of human nature.