The word inadequacy and duplicity about Scorpio has been analyzed many times before.
Every friend who has been with Scorpio should be able to feel that Scorpio is really very contradictory when facing feelings. He always wants the other party to prove his feelings, and always suspects that the feelings are not real enough. If he can't get rid of his uneasiness, he will constantly doubt and make more contradictions in order to make the other party further prove it.
Scorpio's loss of control is due to the inability to eliminate the inner contradictions and fall into paranoia, in this state of insecurity, the inner negativity, pessimism will affect the scorpion's feelings, for the person in front of the judgment.
And the way Scorpio gets a sense of security needs to rely on himself to verify, not a certain sentence of the other party, a certain behavior can impress him and make him feel solid.
To put it bluntly, in the end, Scorpio is no longer paranoid, it must be to resolve his inner contradictions, he himself calm down to think about it, and to get rid of those pessimistic thoughts, he will naturally find a sense of security.
Therefore, the key point in getting along with Scorpio must be how to resolve the contradictions in Scorpio's heart when he has doubts.
Although Scorpio's heart is always full of concerns.
But in my opinion, the contradictions in Scorpio's heart are summed up as a set, calculating and inclusive.
The reason for the calculation is that Scorpio is both proud and sensitive.
He often doesn't think about a certain sentence or a certain behavior, but he will speculate about why you said it and why you did it. But Scorpio's pride doesn't allow you to know that he's secretly speculating on you.
Therefore, in daily life, Scorpio will especially like to win or lose in some small things. But the reason he's fighting to win and be right is not that he wants to win, but he wants to see if you'll concede...
In this way, it is true that Scorpio is a little unreasonable.
Because, in his opinion, all his mistakes are started by your mistakes before he does this.
Because he has been analyzing and speculating, he will always be reasonable, and if you don't admit it this time, he will tell you very clearly where you were wrong last time.
Do you feel embarrassed? Very aggrieved?
Yes, he just wants you to fall into this emotion, because he feels wronged, so he also wants you to feel this feeling.
It's the way he uses to balance his mindset.
He can see clearly what he gives you and what you respond to, because he constantly compares it, so he will appear more aggrieved when there is a conflict.
Naturally, it will be more negative about this feeling.
If you can be emotional and make way for love, Scorpio may have a better mentality.
But Scorpio just can't do this, every longing, every disappointment, every enjoyment, every grievance, he will inevitably take it out and chew it repeatedly one night.
He's going to use this to guess what you're thinking, to infer whether the relationship has meaning or not, whether there's a future.
Scorpio is always accountable in the face of feelings.
He will not waste too much time and energy in a relationship that has no meaning and no future, so he will constantly judge whether the relationship has meaning and whether there is a future. 、
And Scorpio's tolerance lies in it.
After seeing all your shortcomings, seeing all the contradictions of two people, and seeing all the bad endings of this relationship, Scorpio actually still has illusions and hopes.
Maybe one night, he saw a hundred contradictions between the two people and felt that the feelings had no future and wanted to propose a breakup, and then he would suddenly find a suitable point and find a glimmer of life and choose to try again.
Of course, all this conjecture is out of sight. Therefore, the torture and pain of the Scorpion is also in a place where you can't see it.
You had a conflict today, he got angry and ignored you, what you see is, he said he had a cold, you didn't have any reaction and he was still playing the game there, he was angry with his eyes.
But his vision is that you didn't answer the phone the day before yesterday, didn't reply to the message the day before yesterday, went out to dinner with friends yesterday and came back very late, and today saw that you were sick and didn't have any reaction.
It wasn't that he suddenly started to think about it, but that he suddenly couldn't hold back.
Although it is all small things, Scorpio will perceive your changes from it, and will feel that you will only become more and more perfunctory, the hearts of the two people are getting farther and farther away, and the relationship is getting weaker and weaker.
So, he fell into contradiction, fell into paranoia, and produced negativity and uneasiness.
However, you must be clear that what Scorpio really cares about must not be whether he can answer the phone, whether he can reply to the message, whether he cares about himself or not.
It's that he wants to figure out whether you're the kind of person you are, or if you're only like that to yourself.
To put it bluntly, if you are a person who has no heart and no lungs, and does not understand what is concerned, he will not be angry, let alone account, and if he thinks that you obviously know how to care about people, it is that your feelings are weak and you do not want to care about yourself.
This suspicion would push the Scorpion to the brink of loss of control.
The Scorpio, who treats feelings extremely calculating, is inclusive of you.
He just wants to find out if you don't love yourself, even if the final answer is that you don't know how to love someone, this answer can make him feel better.
What he fears most is being compared to others.
So Scorpio's tolerance lies in the fact that he is completely irresistible to clumsy sincerity. For this reason he is willing to be wronged, willing to sacrifice, change, pander, willing to make way for love.
However, for those who are skillful but not sincere enough, he can always see through them at a glance.
Because he will deliberately give a seemingly high threshold, but in fact it is not difficult at all to give to the other party, to test the other party's attitude.
I give a very simple truth, you want to go out to drink and sing with friends, Scorpio will not stop you, but he feels as if you are attracted to the happiness of the outside world, tired of the life of two people, he will deliberately get angry and not let you go.
What he wants to see is very simple, he is angry and won't let you go, you obediently accompany him.
Ten minutes, twenty minutes, thirty minutes, you are not impatient, you are not complaining, and you are willing to give the Scorpio company.
He is satisfied and will naturally let you out.
But if you don't go out because you're afraid of arguing, and then you keep complaining at home, swearing, and looking very upset, even if you haven't gone out all night.
Scorpio only reads impatience and disgust in your words and deeds, which will certainly pave the way for greater contradictions that will erupt later.
Scorpio is calculating that he always wants more affection.
And Scorpio's tolerance is that as long as he sees that the other party is putting himself first, even if he doesn't do it well enough, it is enough.
The firmness that Scorpio wants is really simple.
When he throws a contradiction, your first reaction is whether you want to resolve it or try to give up.
He can see clearly with one look in your eyes.
If you want to solve it, he can naturally help you solve it.
You try to give up, and he will definitely leave you one step ahead.
What Scorpio wants is never for you to change anything for him.
It's about himself making a reasonable excuse for your change.
The reason he wants it is that you deserve it, and the love is worth it.