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After the autumn, although there is a hint of coolness, it is still hot during the day, so the most important thing to pay attention to is the pure heart. People must first have a son and then have face, and health care begins with nourishing the heart.
Feel free to be natural
Elderly people often say that the heart is calm and naturally cool. What is the most important thing to cool off the heat? Not blowing air conditioning, not turning on the fan, but calming down your mind. We can often see some people around us blow up at the slightest fire, and there are always a lot of worries. It is not good for people to be uncertain about face, and it is not good to be determined by people, so we need to cultivate both inside and outside.
Zeng Guofan said: "The past is not in love, the present is not complicated, and the future is not welcome." This sentence tells the three tenses of the past, present, and future very well. Not falling in love in the past is to turn the pages of the past, no matter how good and how bad.
The present is not mixed, that is to say that there are emotions, dissatisfaction, and thousands of problems at the moment... But we can't mess with ourselves, and if you don't mess around, the world can't mess with your heart.
The future is not welcome, everyone may ask why can not meet the future? In fact, this greeting refers to the greeting, that is, deliberately asking for something. For example, if the child goes to the exam, the parent wears the cheongsam and the umbrella, and the wait under the big sun is a day, if the child does not take the test well, the parents' emotions may not be able to stand it. So don't be too open to the future, but learn to accept it naturally.
Some people may say that they are not in love, nor are they welcome or miscellaneous, is this not a heart and lungs? In fact, it is really not, people with hearts and lungs can be busy and not mixed, and people without hearts and lungs have no judgment ability and no filtering mechanism no matter what comes in life, but they are more likely to be kidnapped by false propositions.
Inner reconciliation
To let go of others is compassion, and to let go of oneself is a kind of wisdom. Whether it's a little tea or a little wine. Whether it's for family or alone. As long as we let go of confrontation in our hearts, it is the beginning of reconciliation with the world.
If a person is not reconciled with himself, can he be good with the world? If you are fighting with your own heart, it is recommended that you can start by finding a point that you are satisfied with.
The ruler is shorter, the inch is longer. It is said that chicken singing dog thieves are useless, you can change the angle, learn a chicken bark in the middle of the night, call the owner of the city gate can escape; drill a dog hole can steal the most important things, but also save the country. In today's words, chicken singing dog thieves are also core competitiveness.
If a person lives to the satisfaction of everyone, he will exhaust himself, and this goal will naturally not be achieved. Therefore, we should get along with people as much as possible to find the greatest common divisor with others, and draw the largest concentric circles in interpersonal relationships. No one should wronged themselves to please others, even your lover, your children. You yourself live a lively life, friends will naturally come, people without fate will go farther, where in the world can there be a reason to be friends?
Many of our troubles today come from the false proposition, that is, we set the premise wrong, always thinking of making everyone feel good: to be a good student from childhood, to be a good partner when we grow up, to be a good employee after work, to be a good boss when we are a boss...
If we always look at external labels, we just live as someone else's copycat version, and we don't know who we are. I am born to be useful, chicken and dog thieves can still discover their core competitiveness, live so confidently, of course, each of us can also. So why don't we like to be ourselves? Only if everyone likes themselves can they give society a reason to like you.
Be mindful
Early autumn health care to the principle of adoption, pay special attention to the cultivation of the mind, nourish the heart is not about these organs of the cardiovascular system, but about emotional disease. When the sun is the head, steaming up and down, and the heart is tormented, it is really easy to have problems in the intellect. Especially on hot days, if you still compete with yourself, you can't drink anything cool.
In fact, life is not satisfactory, often eight or nine, the deceased Taiwanese essayist Mr. Lin Qingxuan, wrote a pair of words to a friend called "often think about one or two". This is a way he gave: life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, but there are always one or two percent of the proud things, to live a happy life, you must always think about the one or two percent of the good things. The unpleasant things should be written on the yellow sand, and when they are gone, they will leave, and the good things that are one or two should be inscribed on the bluestone. If we often think about one or two, and if we don't think about eight or nine, we will have a normal mind and we will be able to better reconcile with ourselves.
"The flowers are not fully bloomed and the moon is not full". What is the meaning of life called perfection? There are always people who want to be extremely perfect, but the good realm that Chinese talked about is that the flower is not fully bloomed and the moon is not round: if the flower blooms to the extreme, the next second is withering. If the moon is at its fullest, the next instant is a loss.
We have passed so many fifteen from the Lantern Festival on the fifteenth day of the first month to the Shangyuan Festival on the fifteenth of July, the Middle Yuan Festival on the fifteenth of August, and the lower Yuan Festival of the fifteenth of October, but everyone knows that the fifteenth moon is sixteen round. Fifteen is actually the last moment when the circle is not rounded.
Why should the flowers look half-open and the moon look uncirculated? It's because we still have expectations. Looking at the flowers and admiring the moon is like this, how dare we ask for everything to be complete in our lives?
Beautiful things are not all perfect, and I prefer beauty to perfection. The word perfect is so hypocritical that the more we want to tie ourselves to a requirement of perfection, the more false we live. Like the bamboo leaves and banana leaves made of plastic in the hotel lobby, perfect to the point of no yellowing at all, we naturally know that it is made of plastic. If a person has no shortcomings at all, it is the same as plastic bamboo plantains. We demand a good life, but not necessarily perfection.