When she is seen and heard

Wang Yaping

If you want to summarize 2021 with a few keywords, the "female voice" positioning is listed among them.

On the morning of November 2, at the "She" Forum, the fourth world's top scientist forum, Ye Shuhua, China's first female observatory director and 95-year-old academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, gave a speech in English encouraging women to break the "glass ceiling", she said, "If you want anything, bravely fight for it." Of course, it's not like boxing, it doesn't hurt people. ”

A month ago, Wang Yaping became China's first female astronaut to perform the capsule mission, looking back on this historic moment, we can still remember the blessings of former American female astronauts to Chinese female astronauts, "When you look at the stars outside the window, don't forget, billions of women also look out of the window through your eyes." ”

There is also Gong Lijiao, who has participated in the Olympic Games 4 times, substituted 3 times, and won the women's shot put championship at the 2020 Tokyo Olympic Games, winning 23 centimeters of progress in 11 years, she let people see that bodybuilding, strength, and self-actualization are also a kind of beauty.

This year is also the year in which more and more ordinary women are seen. They present a diverse image of women. Among them, there is Niu Yu, a glitter prosthetic girl who lost her right leg in the Wenchuan earthquake and stepped on a "mechanical small steel leg" 13 years later to appear at Shanghai Fashion Week; there is Chen Min, a 52-year-old Chongqing woman who climbed Mount Everest in May this year and broke the age record for domestic women to reach the summit of Mount Everest; and there are fashion grandma models who are active on short video platforms and walk on the catwalk in cheongsam.

In November, a peasant woman named Han Shimei was invited by UN Women to speak, her first visit to Beijing, and her first, as a poet.

Previously, she was a peasant woman with a junior high school education in Xuegang Village, Henan Province, the daughter of her mother who married with a dowry of 3,000 yuan, the wife who paid off gambling debts for her husband, the daughter-in-law who served her father-in-law who was hospitalized, and the mother who earned dowry money for her son. Only poetry was her outlet, and she wrote of the bitterness of marriage, "I don't know how bitter it is to be with the tree, and I don't know how much pain it is to live with the wall." Poetry also reborn her, "I am no longer asleep, the waves hold me up." ”

We also remember the tremors and emotions brought about by Liu Xiaosheng in the depths of the Guanzhong Plain. Twenty years ago, the woman whose wardrobe was mostly red was no longer satisfied with farm work, she "needed more knowledge, needed to know more things."

Later, she decided to run away, went to Xi'an, Dongguan, Jiangsu, sold cosmetics, worked as an assembly line worker, went around, and returned to the village. 20 years later, a reporter found her, although she returned to the family, but still love flowers, drink tea, listen to songs, and retain a poetry in a mediocre life.

They were Nala who had fled the plains. To change girls is to change poverty.

This is also the reason why Principal Zhang Guimei wants to create a free girls' high school in the mountains of Yunnan, she has witnessed the tragic fate of too many mountain women, and she knows that only education can cut off the intergenerational transmission of poverty, and only knowledge can drive away ignorance. In 12 years, she sent 1804 girls out of the mountains.

Her vow to the school was: "I was born a mountain, not a stream, and I want to look down on the mediocre ravines at the top of the peaks." ”

But there are many gullies in reality. Zhang Guimei once asked a student who became a full-time wife after graduation to "get out", causing controversy among netizens. Some netizens said that full-time wives are personal choices, and some people think that Zhang Guimei is worried that students will be eliminated by society after becoming full-time wives.

This year, the long-neglected "difficulty of housework" entered the public eye. This is not just the plight of ordinary women, when a highly educated woman becomes a housewife, she also faces huge mental pressure and childcare burdens.

In addition to family difficulties, some women still suffer from unfair treatment in the workplace. In August this year, Alibaba's female employees were drunk and violated, making caring for women in the workplace a hot topic of discussion.

Women's safety is also hotly debated. In March this year, a girl from North Drift stayed alone in Beijing for the New Year, but was trapped for more than 30 hours because the bathroom door lock was damaged, during which she lived on running water and was finally rescued by knocking on the water pipe. After the news rushed to the hot search, it triggered a discussion about how girls living alone can save themselves.

In October, the murder of a girl living alone in Changning, Shanghai, aroused people's attention to the safety of living alone, and the topic of the safety of women living alone was read by nearly 100 million people on Weibo, and the artifact of living alone was sold on the e-commerce platform.

A female passenger of the Xi'an metro had a verbal altercation with an old man, and was forcibly dragged out of the carriage by security personnel, leaving only underwear and underwear. At that moment, the dignity of a woman was gone.

That's not enough to surprise. In November, a female Internet celebrity suffered from depression and committed suicide by drinking pesticides during the live broadcast. After the anchor's death, her ashes were stolen by the funeral home staff and sent to a shouyi shop owner for marriage.

According to the surging news report, a search of the China Judgment Documents Network with the keyword "yin marriage" found that from 2009 to 2015, there were 34 relevant judgment documents, involving 23 criminal cases, including 8 provinces.

It is hard to imagine that such a farce will still be staged now.

The good news is that more and more women are making their voices heard, which is especially remarkable in the field of talk shows. "Ordinary girl" Bird Bird tells about appearance anxiety: because you are not confident in your appearance, don't go to the interview, you definitely can't choose; don't contact him, there must be no results; don't go to the bank, because you will be monitored and you will not be photographed. Twins Yan Yi and Yan Yue protest sexism in the workplace: why women must wear makeup in the workplace, why all women have to be beautiful before they work.

There is also Yang Kasa, who said "this man is so ordinary but confident", this woman came with a golden sentence again, she said, the important truth learned this year is not to easily ridicule men, you have to ridicule, only the part of success.

Thanks to more and more rational voices in society. The term "gaslight manipulation" goes out of the loop, and many people realize to stay away from people who use emotional manipulation, whether they are your relatives or friends.

A lot of things are changing. After the infringement of Alibaba's female employees, a number of Internet platforms updated relevant regulations and advocated saying no to unspoken rules in the workplace, especially sexual harassment and accompanying alcohol.

The good news is that on December 20, the Law of the People's Republic of China on the Protection of Women's Rights and Interests (Revised Draft) was submitted to the 32nd Session of the 13th National People's Congress Standing Committee for deliberation. This is the third revision of the Law on the Protection of Women's Rights and Interests since its promulgation in 1992. Almost all of the areas covered are the most intensely discussed topics in recent years: admissions discrimination, employment discrimination, sexual harassment, PUA, "emotional disputes", compensation for domestic work...

For example, in terms of compensation for domestic work, the draft clearly states that both husband and wife should jointly undertake family matters, and when the woman bears more obligations, she has the right to ask the man to compensate in the event of divorce. For another example, the draft also regards non-violent acts such as mind control and brainwashing and domestication as "violations of women's physical and mental health."

According to the World Gender Gap Report 2020 released by the World Economic Forum, humanity is 99.5 years away from true gender equality, and it is expected to take 257 years for men and women to achieve income equality.

In 2021, we are progressing, and we believe that the next year, more progress.

Yin Haiyue Source: China Youth Daily

Source: China Youth Daily