When in love, women's problems are the most, mature and generous in front of others, willful and unreasonable in front of their boyfriends; in front of others, they often care about whether they have said the wrong thing, hurt each other, and have no excuse in front of their boyfriends, and hurt their boyfriends' hearts without a hint of apology.
Therefore, most men in love, try to behave sensibly, obedient to their girlfriends, as long as they can give, all of them are unreservedly paid; they will also try to have a good temper, when the girlfriend is angry, do their best to eloquence, money to coax her; they will also try to pretend to be "I am very free" every day, to meet the days of sticking with the girlfriend, to give her a sense of security, and do not want her to secretly envy the company of other couples.
However, marriage is different, most women after marriage summed up a sentence: if a man chases himself into his hand and marries into his family, he can leave the woman at home like a doll, and he will go out to spend the day and drink. ”
Is this really the case?
Not really. Because most men have spent a lot of time with their girlfriends during the relationship, when they get married, of course, most of them should think about their careers, otherwise they will marry back their wives, how can they afford it? Most men also have to consider the future economic situation after starting a family, and after their own women give birth to a baby, they also need a lot of money, and the current car loans, housing loans, chai rice oil and salt, etc. all need money to provide. Therefore, most men will focus on their careers a little more after marriage, and the starting point is to give parents, wives and children a better life.
However, the vast majority of women do not understand, thinking that whether men are in love or married, they will be centered on their wives and as sweet as when they are in love.
Li Jing (pseudonym) and Xiao Qin met when they were in college, because at that time Xiao Qin saw that Li Jing was very good-looking and completely his ideal type, and when the two of them were together, Xiao Qin was obedient to her, thinking that Li Jing's promise to fall in love with him was his blessing.
Later, after experiencing division and merger, Xiao Qin took the initiative to admit his mistake to Li Qin. Later, the two of them got married, originally Li Jing felt that Xiao Qin would want to fall in love like this, and she was obedient and obedient, even if it was a divorce, Xiao Qin took the initiative to request reconciliation.
Therefore, after she got married, she still did not realize her bad temper, and still called her husband to come and go, but her husband had to be busy with his career, otherwise how to give Li Jing a good life.
Li Jing said to her husband: "You have changed, you don't cherish it when you marry me, you must be someone outside." Xiao Qin had an emergency meeting to be held at that time, so he ignored what Li Jing said and left her.
Li Jing felt particularly annoyed and sent a message to her husband: "You can ignore me, but you can always accompany me to the vacation, I want to go to Tibet, that place is very beautiful." But it was the husband's who was waiting for him, "I've been very busy lately and I don't have time." ”
Li Jing felt unwilling, so she sent a message to her husband again: "If you don't accompany me, I will go with other friends, and you will watch and do it when the time comes." The husband also replied with a message: "Don't go, it's very dangerous outside, you can't worry about going alone, but you don't have to be conceited, and when I'm busy for this time, I'll accompany you to Tibet." ”
Then there was no further follow-up, Li Jing packed her bags and went on a trip with her friends. After Xiao Qin returned home, he saw that Li Jing was not at home, so he called her, and Li Jing answered, saying: "I went on a tour, bye-bye." The phone hung up, this sentence can make Xiao Qin half dead, and when she called Li Jing again, her mobile phone was turned off. Xiao Qin asked all his friends, they didn't know where Li Jing was, and Xiao Qin was very annoyed.
But this anger will also slowly fade with the passage of time, and it will be replaced by a relatively calm, objective analysis.
Xiao Qin waited for three days and two nights, did not close his eyes well, and on the third day Li Jing finally returned, but saw her husband sitting in the living room, and there was a divorce agreement on the coffee table.
When Xiao Qin saw his wife return, he said to her, "Back? Come and sign the agreement. Li Jing was confused and scolded him for being a negative man, but Xiao Qin said calmly: "These three days I don't care where you go to fool around, but you run to travel without a word, have you ever considered my feelings, when you are in love, I connived at you, thinking that you would not have such a bad temper when you got married, but you still got married; and I was very tired every day when I left work, but you kept playing with your little temper with me, I am also a person, after signing, I will let you play enough, otherwise we can only go through the legal process." ”
Li Jing finally knew that she had played too much, but regret had no effect.
Says at the end:
The most important thing in marriage is to be considerate, the reason why Xiao Qin and Li Jing's marriage failed, Li Jing has to bear the main responsibility, she is too willful, does not know how to understand her husband's hardships, does not understand how much her husband has paid in order to earn money to support the family, and the husband loves himself and does whatever he wants, and finally buries his marriage.