There is a guy in my hometown, after 85, he came out to work after graduating from high school. What end plates, assembly lines, sales have been dried. Later, in order to earn money, through the introduction of friends, in 14 years, he went to distant Inner Mongolia, eating and living in the factory, with an annual salary of 120,000.
I have to work for 10 hours a day, pure physical work, and out of the factory, basically can not see people. The salary is not bad, that is, you can only go home once a year and stay for more than 20 days at a time.
It seems ok, ordinary boys from the countryside can earn this money, and it is to eat and live, say it, many people think it is a good mix.
A few years ago, taking advantage of the New Year, back to the rural hometown blind date, the girl heard the annual salary of 120,000, manage to eat and live, the total of this money is pure surplus, think it is a very good blind date, although there is no new house, but consider their own conditions can not be asked too much, so soon the two will enter the marriage.
When I first got married, the contradiction was not obvious, and everything suddenly broke out because I had children.
After the girl gave birth, the boy took a leave of absence and came back to take care of it for twenty days, and then left. You can only take 20 days off a year, and this leave of absence means that you can't come back for the New Year.
The girl and her in-laws live together, the father-in-law goes to work every day, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are left with children. Mother-in-law is a very ordinary rural woman, there is no big problem, but there are many common small problems.
How to bring the child, the mother-in-law has to decide, saying that the child and his father are so grown up, big things and small things must be managed. The girl is in her in-laws' house, does not have a penny of economic income, and can only rely on her husband to earn money every month.
The mother-in-law felt that her son's money could not be spent indiscriminately, so she asked her son to pay all his salary, and if his daughter-in-law needed money, he asked her for it.
The young man has been away for many years, and the relationship with the girl is not deep, and for the newborn son, he only stays on the impression of a small ball of meat, so he does not hesitate to support the mother's choice.
At this point, the girl's life fell into a desperate situation, the economy was stuck, and she was tied up by the child and could not work, watching the in-laws and the family save money every day, month by month, and a grandchild, and a grandson, as well as her own free nanny to see the child, the more I think about it, the more desperate I feel. After many fruitless communications with the boy, he was cruel, left the child and returned to his mother's house, and let his husband come back to divorce.
The young man did not expect that the family had become like this, and he wanted to persuade his wife well, but the girl had an iron heart to divorce, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were already intolerable, and even the children were not wanted. No way, take a leave of absence to come back and get the divorce papers.
The child is too small, when the grandmother has to take care of the child, and has to cook three meals a day, but also have to take care of the wife, a person really can't get it. Finally, after family consultation, the young man resigned first, returned to his hometown to find a job with a slightly lower salary, and could also take care of the children, wait for the children to be older, and then go out to work.
But after I resigned, I found out how hard it was to find a job. There are not many suitable positions in the countryside itself, and the wages are very low, I originally managed to eat and live with a monthly salary of 10,000, and I only found a job with a monthly salary of 4,000 in my hometown.
Instantly from heaven to hell.
When the mother-in-law was also stunned, originally thought that the son was out of work, can make a lot of money, even if the divorce has a lot of girls chasing to marry, did not expect to come back to earn such a little, behind the reputation of the second marriage with children, in the rural marriage market is almost at the bottom.
Finally stayed up until the child went to kindergarten, the boy wanted to go back to the Inner Mongolia factory, but because of the epidemic, he was going to lay off employees, where else to go? There is no way but to continue to work in your hometown.
It was impossible to go back, and there was no hope at home.
If you want to remarry, your ex-wife has already remarried.
Want to find again, the matchmaker turned around and said that you have no competitive advantage in terms of conditions, and now there are fewer rural girls, where to find you, only the second marriage with children, how older than you, if you want to meet to see...
Unrepentant.
(Many people may think that the annual salary of 120,000 yuan is not much, here it is said, this guy is from a very poor rural area in the north, and it is good to earn this number in the local area.) In addition, he did not save money, 14 years to go to Inner Mongolia, 15 years to get married, at the end of 16 years to have children, 18 years back, earned money in addition to expenses, the rest are taken by parents to pay off the marriage debt)