Jimmy Teacher Foreword: Life Agreement for Two Terminally Ill Patients.
The most helpless marriage
Text | Zhu Jinping
This was once the most helpless and utilitarian marriage in the world: in order to survive, The uremia patient Wang Xiao signed a marriage agreement with Yu Jianping, a patient with relapse of leukemia:
He donated his kidneys to her after his death, and she was responsible for taking care of his father. Waiting for the kidneys is to hope that the "husband" will die soon, and the paradox of this life is tragic and tragic. Can Wang Xiao wait until her husband's kidneys as she wishes? Fate is spinning around, what turning point will there be?
In 2011, the 23-year-old Wang Xiao graduated from Xi'an Technological University and became a white-collar worker at Xi'an Huarong Company. She was ready to fall in love and get married in two years, and everything in the future was full of light and hope.
At the beginning of 2012, Wang Xiao suddenly felt that she was exhausted, unable to eat, and even shook when she walked. When I went to the Affiliated Hospital of Xi'an Jiaotong University, I found that I was suffering from uremia, and it was already advanced! Unable to care about his grief, Wang Xiao was immediately hospitalized for treatment. Doctors say she probably won't be able to survive a year without a kidney replacement. Wang Xiao's parents had chronic diseases and did not meet the conditions for organ transplantation; her sister's conditions were met, but her brother-in-law did not agree to her death.
Wang Xiao soaked in the patient QQ group all day, struggling to find vitality. One day in April 2013, someone gave her an idea: "You can go to the cancer group and find a male patient to marry." When he died, he received a kidney transplant as his wife. As long as cancer patients do not have concurrent renal failure and blood group anastomosis, the kidneys are generally eligible for donation. ”
Under the recommendation of patients, Wang Xiao joined the QQ group of "it's good to be alive" Xi'an cancer patients. Subsequently, she posted a marriage notice in the group. In the notice, she wrote nervously and sincerely: "After marriage, I will give the best care to each other!" In order to live, please forgive my humility and filth! ”
The post quickly caused a reaction in the group. Wandering on the edge of the cliff of death, no one could bear to blame her, and many people sighed. On the third night, a group friend with the screen name "Like Sunflowers" asked Wang Xiao: "Are you a spoof?" Wang Xiao immediately sent the other party his medical certificate and ID card photo. After a while, the other party replied, "I would like to marry you." My name is Yu Jianping, a 27-year-old xi'an native, suffering from myeloma for 3 years, B blood type, having a bone marrow transplant in 2012, relapsing, and no longer hopeless. "Kidney transplantation is different from bone marrow transplantation, as long as the blood type is the same, and Wang Xiao is also b blood.
Wang Xiao was overjoyed and quickly exchanged mobile phone numbers with Yu Jianping. Yu Jianping still wanted to continue talking, and Wang Xiao replied half a day later: "Dialysis!" The arm was fixed and now it's a one-handed beast! Yu Jianping thought she was joking, but a few seconds later, Wang Xiao sent a video of herself. In the video, Wang Xiao is lying next to the dialysis machine, and red blood is flowing in the infusion tube. Her face was miserable, but her smile was bright: "See? After a while, my sister's old appearance changes with a new look, and it changes with each passing day! Yu Jianping looked stunned, this girl is too naughty!
In late June 2013, Wang Xiao was temporarily discharged from the hospital. With the help of acquaintances, Wang Xiao determined Yu Jianping's identity. Subsequently, the two met in Xingqinggong Park in Xi'an. When they met, on a hot day, both of them were wearing masks. From a distance, they "recognized" each other at a glance and hugged each other. Wang Xiao laughed loudly: "Is this a blind date?" How is it like a secret agent joint? What a two-pronged thing! Yu Jianping was amused by her and also joked: "Come! Look at me, you have hope for life! ”
Yu Jianping took off his mask, and Wang Xiao found that his face was ugly. It turned out that as early as a year ago, he had given up hospitalization, and the blood picture was maintained by taking medicine. Wang Xiao was very surprised: "How does this work?" You are so sloppy, you will have a big problem at any time! Yu Jianping's expression was dim: "I don't care." I've had enough, anyway you're waiting for my kidneys! This was a heaviness that neither of them could get around, and Wang Xiao was silent.
Yu Jianping only made one request to Wang Xiao: "You don't need to take care of me, but you need to take care of my father for me after I die." This request was heartbreaking, and Wang Xiao nodded without hesitation. Yu Jianping is two years older than Wang Xiao, graduated from Xi'an Jiaotong University, and is the business manager of Xi'an Everbright Wealth Management Company. When he and his girlfriend were about to get married, they suddenly found out that they had leukemia. Soon, the girlfriend left like a plague god. His mother had died, and in order to treat him, his father sold the house.
Originally with a bright future, his life fell into a desperate situation. In the beginning, he also hated the injustice of fate. After the recurrence of leukemia, he despaired of himself and became more and more worried about his father: his mother was gone, the house was sold, the money was gone, if he left again, how could his father live alone? This thought weighed heavily on Jianping's mind, and when he felt helpless, he accidentally saw Wang Xiao's marriage notice. He knew very well that this agreement had no legal effect, but for the desperate him, there was no way to "mean", he could only try.
Wang Xiao actually held a similar idea. Unlike bone marrow transplantation, blood group fusion is the primary condition for surgery. Other indicators can be considered for surgery even if the matching is not ideal. It is not easy to find the kidney source of the same blood type, so even if the operation is risky, she is not willing to give up this opportunity!
On July 16, 2013, the two went through the registration procedures at the Beilin District Civil Affairs Bureau in Xi'an. At noon, the special couple celebrated the "marriage" at a small restaurant on Friendship East Road and signed a special agreement: given the physical condition of both parties, the two lived separately, were not public, and had independent property. If Yu Jianping voluntarily donated a kidney to her before Wang Xiao died, Yu Jianping would inform his father in the form of a suicide note. If the donation operation is successful, Wang Xiao survives and needs to take care of Yu Jianping's father until the old man dies. If Yu Jianping's kidneys could not be used, Wang Xiao did not have to bear the responsibility of filial piety.
The most fearless remorse: we live together
The most fearless regret: we live together
Although the purpose of "marriage" is not pure, after the real "marriage", both of them can't help but worry about each other, after all, this is likely to be the only marriage in their lives.
They make a lot of phone calls every day, and they talk for a long time. Wang Xiao had insomnia, and Yu Jianping took the initiative to say: "I tell stories the most boring, and I promise to let you fall asleep." I'll tell you a hypnotic story every night. Wang Xiao said happily, "Okay! In his gentle and magnetic voice, Wang Xiao quickly fell asleep.
At the beginning of September 2013, Wang Xiao's creatinine value suddenly rose sharply, exceeding the normal value by more than 30 times, and he was urgently hospitalized. Seeing that his calves were swollen and shiny, and recalling that a patient was like this before he died, Wang Xiao could no longer laugh.
Yu Jianping sent a message, she did not have the heart to reply; he called, she did not answer. Yu Jianping was afraid that she would have an accident, so he ran to the Nephrology Department of the Affiliated Hospital of Xi'an Jiaotong University, looking for her in one ward after another, and finally found Wang Xiao. Seeing Yu Jianping, Wang Xiao was shocked. Seeing that Wang Xiao's parents were also in the ward, Yu Jianping quickly introduced himself: "Uncle and aunt, I am Wang Xiao's patient, come and see her." The old man politely gave way and poured water again.
When Wang Xiao's parents left the ward, Yu Jianping immediately pulled down his face: "Why don't you say a word when you are sick?" Wang Xiaoqiang smiled happily: "I'm sorry, I can't wait for the day when I change my kidney." Seeing the depressed Wang Xiao, Yu Jianping felt very uncomfortable. At the same time, a thought popped up: "If I spend more time with her now, she may be able to remember my goodness in the future and be kind to my father..." Yu Jianping decided to accompany Wang Xiao to the hospital every day.
With Yu Jianping's encouragement and companionship, after half a month of systematic treatment, Wang Xiao's various indicators have been lowered, her leg swelling has disappeared, and she has returned to her past naughtiness. Once, when Yu Jianping was not in the ward, she took a selfie of her calf in the beauty mode and sent it to Yu Jianping: "Hey, the husband, share my soul-destroying calf!" Yu Jianping laughed loudly: "Amazing to the eye!" If you're not sick, I'll chase you!" Wang Xiao felt beautiful in his heart: "Then wait for me to get better!" After saying this, Yu Jianping was silent for a moment. Wang Xiao's heart sank: she wanted to get better completely, and she had to rely on Jianping's kidneys. She quickly diverted the topic.
Yu Jianping is actually a humorous and funny person, writing a lot of paragraphs when he was in college, and he also performed sketches. It was only because of the torment of illness that his mood gradually declined. After being with the lively Wang Xiao, his talent for humor was stimulated again. Whenever Wang Xiao was tormented by illness and lost her temper, he would send her several original humorous passages, which made her laugh.
Yu Jianping, who is good at making soup, also learned to make medicinal food with friends. According to the taboos of their respective conditions, he made two cans of soup every day and took them to the ward to drink together. Every time he drank, he made an exaggerated sound: "Oops! This should be called the same disease soup! Delicious, so delicious! And Wang Xiao was also very concerned about him, asking about his blood every day. After a long time, Yu Jianping formed a conditioned reflex, as soon as he saw Wang Xiao, he automatically reported a large string of data, and then said: "The report is complete, please instruct!" "Two people care for each other, warm each other, and the two hearts are getting closer and closer.
On the evening of New Year's Day in 2014, Yu Jianping had a meal and specially brought up a flower basket made by himself to visit Wang Xiao. As soon as they met, Yu Jianping gave her a hug: "Happy New Year!" Wang Xiao hugged him tightly and said, "Happy New Year, husband." Yu Jianping laughed: "You should say, Happy New Year, my kidneys!" Wang Xiao's eye circles instantly turned red, and Yu Jianping hugged her tightly and said, "I like you!" Silly guys! In the dimly lit street, Wang Xiao closed his eyes happily.
However, after New Year's Day, Wang Xiao could not contact Yu Jianping again. On the morning of January 9, Wang Xiao took a taxi to Yu Jianping's house according to the address on his ID card, which was the door opened by Yu Jianping's aunt. Aunt Yu told her that Yu Jianping and her father were in the hospital. Because Yu Jianping even stopped taking oral chemotherapy drugs recently, the blood was a mess. His father urged him to go to the hospital, and he refused to go. A week ago, Yu's father summoned several relatives and forcibly took him to Xijing Hospital. In an instant, Wang Xiao's tears suddenly gushed out: Yu Jianping was deliberately hastening death, so as to complete her!
"This fool, this lunatic!" Wang Xiao quickly rushed to Xijing Hospital. On the way, she cried and scolded Yu Jianping. However, it was also in this "you die and I live" choice that Wang Xiao wanted to understand one thing: she wanted to hold Yu Jianping's hand and cross the vast sea together, and they wanted to live together! As soon as he appeared in front of Yu Jianping, Wang Xiao shouted loudly: "Yu Jianping, you don't take medicine and don't treat the disease because you want to find death, right?" ”
Yu Jianping was afraid that Wang Xiao would say the wrong thing, so he quickly signaled his father to be present. Wang Xiao pulled the old man out of the ward and told him what had happened. She solemnly said to her father, "Since Jianping and I are already husband and wife, we must die together, and we must live together!" Returning to the ward, she gave Yu Jianping an ultimatum: "You must treat it well, otherwise, I will divorce you, and I don't want your kidneys!" ”
Yu Jianping stressed to Wang Xiao: "I did not give up treatment just for you, I don't want to suffer, and I have no money." Now death can still save you, and when the kidneys are damaged later, it is too late! Wang Xiao could no longer suppress the anger in his heart, and rushed up to slap Yu Jianping with tears: "You are not afraid of death, and I am not afraid!" We are not even afraid of death, are we still afraid of living? ”
Yu Jianping was calmed by her and asked over and over again with tears: "Why are you suffering?" Wang Xiao also said with tears in his eyes: "I am not willing, I have not been in love, you will be a sparring partner, can't you?" Yu Jianping murmured, "Can I do it?" "You can, because we are both on the same starting line, equally advanced, both backward elements!" Wang Xiao said loudly with tears in his eyes. Yu Jianping laughed, but then he cried again. This time, he clearly saw the hope of life.
The Secret of the Immortal Flower: The Fragrance that Lives toward Death
The secret of the eternal flower: the fragrance of death
This afternoon, after Wang Xiao returned home, he put the marriage certificate in front of his parents: "I hid your marriage from you..." The stunned parents figured out the cause and effect, and they wept with pity. How could they bear to blame their daughter? For the "sick son-in-law" who suddenly appeared, they could only accept: "The marriage license has been obtained, that is, our children." After that, Wang Xiao did dialysis again, and also chose Xijing Hospital, which was convenient for him and Yu Jianping to take care of each other. The two families also rented a garage near the hospital to cook together and add nutrition to their two children.
At the beginning of 2014, both men's conditions were basically stable. Wang Xiao began to be busy raising medicine for Yu Jianping and performing a second bone marrow transplant.
Because he had a bone marrow transplant, Yu's family was already surrounded by four walls. Yu Jianping did not work for a long time, and his income was only the basic subsidy of the unit. Wang Xiao planned to borrow money from his parents to treat him first. However, Yu Jianping refused to accept it no matter what: "This is contrary to the agreement we made when we got married." What do you do if my transplant fails again? Wang Xiao's parents also disagreed: "We only have less than 500,000 yuan of savings in our hands, which is your life-saving money!" What if I wait for the kidney source one day? No one can move this money! ”
This road did not work, and Wang Xiao began to find ways to make money again. However, as a patient with advanced uremia, she simply could not find a way to make money. Just when she was helpless, her friend Li Bin introduced her to a Taiwanese craftsman who would make beautiful "immortal flowers".
"Immortal Flowers" has a haunting story: during World War II, the war spread to the andorra city in southern Europe, and a couple is about to leave. The boy plucked the blooming rose from the garden and gave it to his girlfriend, saying, "When the last petal of the rose rots, you forget me and start a new life." However, after he left, his girlfriend dehydrated, dried, and dyed the petals, so that the flowers never withered. Finally, the boy returned, and the two were never separated again. And this flower that never withers is called "immortal flower".
Wang Xiao felt that the story of the Immortal Flower was simply a portrayal of her and Yu Jianping. She immediately made an immortal flower under the guidance of the artist and brought it to Yu Jianping: "We are like this immortal flower, although it has been faded and dyed, it is just as gorgeous!" Seeing that the "Immortal Flower" was exactly the same as the real flower, Yu Jianping was amazed. What surprised him even more was Wang Xiao's decision to make a large number of immortal flowers to sell on the street to raise medicine for Yu Jianping. She said confidently, "You're waiting for me!" Yu Jianping was deeply touched: "I will also make flowers with you and accompany you to sell flowers." ”
Before the Spring Festival in 2014, the "Immortal Flower" flower stalls of Wang Xiao and Yu Jianping in Datang West Market Square opened. Wang Xiao wrote the story of the two into cards and hung them in front of the flower stall. She wrote: "This is the eternal flower blooming in the ruins, the flower is eternal, the love is eternal!" "In less than two hours, the hundred or so flowers they brought were sold out. In just a few days, they earned more than 3,000 yuan. After hearing their story, Wang Rong, the owner of the "Flower Thinking Rong" floral shop, not only bought a large number of goods from Wang Xiao, but also called on everyone to buy goods together in the local floral group. Soon, Wang Xiao got a fixed order for 10,000 boxes of immortal flowers per month, and the business was getting bigger and bigger. There is a kind person who bought 70,000 yuan of immortal flowers at a time to give away. In less than two months, Wang Xiao raised 300,000 yuan for Yu Jianping's surgery.
In mid-April, Wang Xiao entrusted her sister to go to Shanghai and contacted The hospital where Jianping first performed surgery, Shanghai Ruijin Hospital. After examination, Yu Jianping's physical condition met the conditions for bone marrow transplantation. On April 19, the hospital contacted the original donor, a 25-year-old young man from Zhejiang, through the bone marrow bank. The other party was willing to donate bone marrow again, and when he heard the news, Wang Xiao cried with joy!
Wang Xiao's parents took out 100,000 yuan, and the Yu family father and son raised 100,000 yuan by themselves, making up a total of 500,000 yuan. On April 26, Yu Jianping completed a second bone marrow transplant at Shanghai Ruijin Hospital. Before entering the cabin, Wang Xiao held a bouquet of red immortal flowers and kissed Yu Jianping's forehead with tears: "Husband, I am waiting for you to come out healthy!" Yu Jianping gave her a solid hug: "Wait for me." ”
Because it is a second transplant, all kinds of risks will increase indefinitely. In the cabin for more than a month, Yu Jianping struggled several times at the moment of life and death. And Wang Xiao is constantly making immortal flowers, and she believes that these flowers that have been reborn in Nirvana will emit the strongest fragrance in the world, and her husband will definitely be able to smell it! At the same time, Wang Xiao is also desperately trying to save herself, she regularly does dialysis, runs, and takes Chinese medicine.
At the end of May, Yu Jianping was smoothly transferred to the general ward. On June 20, his indicators were normal, and he returned to Xi'an with his father and Wang Xiao. Watching his son's body gradually recover, Yu's father was both grateful and ashamed of Wang Xiao and said to her: "Child, if there is no you, Jianping would not be where he is today!" If my kidney is right for you, donate it to you right away! Wang Xiao said with tears in his eyes: "You are so old, you can't do surgery." Rest assured, I will take good care of my body and slowly wait for the kidney source. ”
And love once again gave birth to the miracle of life: Wang Xiao's condition not only did not worsen, but improved. Dialysis was changed from twice a week to once a month. In January 2015, her creatinine index was further reduced after examination. The doctor said that if she continued like this, she could live even if she did not change her kidney.
On February 14, 2015, Wang Xiao and Yu Jianping held a wedding ceremony at the Peace Hotel in Xi'an. Father Wang wrote them a couplet: "An old couple, a new life from now on." ”
And their love and life, like immortal flowers, after all kinds of tests, Nirvana is reborn and renewed for a long time.