Someone asked the webmaster: What is love? My answer is: trust. Without the maintenance of trust in marriage, it is difficult to go long. Love is very fragile, you cherish, it is there, you do not cherish, it is gone.
Let's take a look at today's story with the webmaster:
My name is Ah Juan, I am the owner of a fast food restaurant in the city, only the first Chinese, and my husband Hanwen graduated from normal university and was assigned to teach at the local downtown primary school after graduation.
Speaking of my acquaintance with Han Wen, I can only say: Fate can't be stopped.
I came out early to work to make money, and I painstakingly saved 100,000 yuan to rent a façade in the city and start a fast food restaurant business.
The fast food in my shop is delicious and not expensive, and there are many tricks, so there are many people who come to patronize. Hanwen's school is near my shop. He was a regular customer in my shop, and he often came to eat at noon, and slowly we became acquainted and became friends, and later we became husband and wife.
After marriage, our husband and wife lived a very happy and happy life, and gave birth to two well-behaved and sensible sons.
My mother-in-law has opposed me and my husband since I got married, she thinks that I am a beginner Chinese, his son is a university culture, I am not worthy of her son, and later under the persuasion of my father-in-law, my mother-in-law reluctantly agreed.
Since marrying my husband, although my mother-in-law has targeted me everywhere, my husband has been very kind to me, and every time I have an awkward fight with my mother-in-law, Hanwen will help me and never make me sad.
One day, I had an old classmate who had known me for ten years, his name was Junqiang, to be precise, it was a male girlfriend, he said he wanted to invest in my fast food restaurant, and I just wanted to expand the business at that time, so I agreed.
After that, we often went shopping together, had suppers and so on.
Once, I asked Junqiang to accompany me to buy clothes, and after buying clothes, I took Junqiang's arm and went out, when I happened to meet my mother-in-law, she saw me and Junqiang holding their arms, and threw a tantrum at me on the spot: "Ah Juan, you can ah, go shopping with other men behind my son's back, and hold your arms so intimately, are you worthy of Han wen?"
I quickly explained: "Mother-in-law is not what you think, Junqiang is my male girlfriend, we often hold our arms like this when we study, I don't think there is any problem."
Who knew that my mother-in-law just didn't believe it, and while cursing at me, she pulled me away.
After returning home, my mother-in-law nagged this matter to my husband, who chose to believe me, not only did not blame me, but also stood on my side and comforted me. I was moved to tears by my husband, and I didn't expect him to trust me so much.
That night, my husband hugged me at the head of the bed and said: Husband and wife should be honest with each other and trust each other, so that marriage can last a long time.
For the word trust, Han Wen did it, but I didn't do it, and then one thing that happened, because of my own inferiority plus distrust of Han Wen, personally buried my own happiness.
Before me, my husband had a very loving ex-girlfriend, her name was Xia Wei, she was my husband's college classmate, they fell in love in their sophomore year, and after graduation, because Xia Wei wanted to go abroad for further study, they had to break up.
One day, my husband and their college classmates gathered, my husband took me to go, the party everyone was talking freely, suddenly, a beautiful woman dressed in a foreign style, with a very good figure came in, and then the male classmates stood up and coaxed: "Welcome our goddess Xia Wei back to China."
It turned out that she was her husband's ex-girlfriend Xia Wei, and I couldn't help but sigh: it is so beautiful! People have academic qualifications and are returnees, and I only have a Chinese, opening a small restaurant, at that moment I felt extremely inferior.
"Hi, Han Wen, I haven't seen you in a long time." Xia Wei took the wine glass and walked over to her husband and said to him.
Her husband touched her cup and replied with a hint of shyness, "I haven't seen her for a long time."
Xia Wei looked at me and asked her husband, "This, presumably your wife." Which university graduated? ”
My husband took my hand and said, "My wife graduated from junior high school, but she is very good, and now she runs a restaurant as the owner."
Since I knew that my husband's ex-girlfriend returned to China, I don't know if it was my inferiority complex, I felt that my husband had become mysterious and mysterious, and always came back very late at night.
Recently, my husband's school was on summer vacation, and he told me that Xia Wei's company was recruiting part-time, anyway, there were two months of free time, he wanted to do it, make some money. Seeing that he wanted to go so far, I did not refuse and acquiesced.
Since entering his ex-girlfriend's company, I began to become suspicious, all kinds of suspicions, every day worried about whether my husband would date his ex-girlfriend, but I did not dare to tell my husband my suspicions, we said before that we would trust each other.
In recent days, my husband has been working overtime until late every day, I have begun to be more suspicious of my husband, I began to ask a hundred thousand questions, every time he left work, I asked him: What are you doing in the factory today? What happened? What to eat with whom, etc., like a policeman interrogating a prisoner.
One night, I took advantage of my husband's sleep, secretly took his mobile phone to check, I found that many of them are his and Xia Wei's call records, I clicked on the mobile phone's information garbage collection station to see, I saw Xia Wei sent a lot of ambiguous messages to her husband: "Han Wen, go to supper together after work, right?" "Han Wen, I still miss you, is it still possible?" "Han wen, you know what? For so many years, I still can't let go of you, for you, I can willingly be your lover. ”
At this point, I remembered that my husband had recently returned very late, and I asked him, but he said that it was late to catch up with the plan, and it turned out that he had gone to supper with his ex-girlfriend.
After reading it, I was more certain of my previous guess, and the two of them must have secretly reunited with me.
So, I shook my husband awake vigorously: "You get up, you give me an explanation, why did you betray me?" Carrying me and Xia Wei on his back. ”
Husband: "What are you doing?" What's crazy? When did I get together with Xia Wei? ”
I showed him the phone, and he was even more angry: "Yes, Xia Wei wanted to get back together with me, I didn't pay attention to her, I already made it clear to her in person that day." You actually checked me? You don't believe me? ”
As he spoke, he threw his pillow and quilt on the ground and said, "No wonder you've had so many questions lately?" Always ask me about the company, since you don't trust me to go to Xia Wei company to do, I went, you are not at ease, all day suspicious, since you do not believe me, let's divorce. ”
No matter how my husband explained it, I still didn't believe that he and Xia Wei were okay, and I said, "You finally said it, well, leave and leave, I will fulfill you."
Later, we really divorced, and when we walked out of the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Han Wen said to me: "I chose to believe you when you and Junqiang were first, but you didn't believe me at all.
After saying that, Han Wentou did not return and left.
I was left alone to reminisce about what he had just said, yes! When I was with Junqiang, in the face of my mother-in-law's questioning, he stood on my side and believed in me unconditionally, no matter how much my mother-in-law embarrassed me, he came out and was good to me, and I am now....
After a while, I received a phone call from Xia Wei, and she said, "Sister Juan, I'm sorry, I've heard about your affairs, I've always been my own sentimentality, in fact, Han Wen has already let go of me, that day he told me that he only loves you alone now, our love has become a cloud of smoke in the past, let you rest assured, he will not do it in me again, you misunderstood him."
After listening, I immediately called Han Wen to save our marriage, and he only replied to me: You have disappointed me too much. Then I hung up the phone and couldn't get through anymore. I slumped on the ground, thinking of his kindness to me, his care for me everywhere, his unconditional trust in me, I shed tears of remorse, but alas, it was too late...
summary:
Ah Juan and Han Wen's marriage cracked, everything stemmed from distrust, Ah Juan after her husband's ex-girlfriend returned to China, she began to be suspicious everywhere, suspecting that her husband betrayed herself, afraid that her husband and ex-girlfriend would get back together. If either spouse does not trust the other, the marriage will be difficult to maintain, and trust is the cornerstone of maintaining the marriage.
And Han Wen, he has achieved the trust of his wife, but he lacks a sense of distance, a man married to other women, especially the ex to keep a distance, any woman does not want her husband to go so close to other women, since the surface does not mind, but the heart is very mindful.