Today in Soul Square, brushed a young sister posted a personal exclamation: "I grew up, there are no special friends around me, classmates when I went to school, and there is no chance to meet again after graduation." I know that I have tried very hard to cater to them, no matter what they say, even if it is a topic I don't like, I will still cater to them and listen to them quietly. Even then, they couldn't really accept me, and I couldn't understand what I had to do to fit into their lives."
In order to make others like you, you choose to be a good lady, do not dare to offend the other party, do not dare to make the other party unhappy, blindly cater to others, even if you do not like, against your own inner thoughts. In the face of other people's requests, you always nod your head, never say a "no" word, and dare not express your inner thoughts. However, even if you pay like this, you will not be able to usher in the likes of others, but will be ignored and looked down upon. Why is this happening?
In fact, the most important thing to make friends with people is to communicate with others, that is, to dare to express their thoughts to others, to speak their own inner words, and dare to express their inner thoughts is also a prerequisite for establishing intimate relationships. No matter what others say, you nod your head and say yes, never express your thoughts and feelings, then others do not know what you are thinking, what your views and positions are. People who never express their inner thoughts, others can not know you at all, for strangers, of course, we will maintain a vigilant heart for you.
People who are afraid to express their inner thoughts are a very unconfident person. I used to be like this, afraid to express my ideas in front of the public, afraid that others would think that my ideas were childish, and even more afraid that others would laugh at me. In fact, no one will look down on you at all, it is you who look down on yourself. Blindly echoing others and never daring to express their own opinions is an act of looking down on oneself and disrespecting oneself. Just imagine, how can a person who does not even respect himself get the respect of others, and he does not even have the self-confidence to tell his inner thoughts, how can he get everyone's like.
In addition, many people do not like such a personality, how can they become good friends with you.
According to the research of American psychologists, when a certain point of view is important to a person, if he can use this point of view to make an opponent change his original thoughts and attitudes, and finally stand in the same square as him, then he will appreciate the opponent more than the consistent echo. In fact, people prefer those who change their minds because of their influence, rather than those who have always been non-committal. Because when we change each other's minds through debate, it makes us feel a sense of accomplishment. And for those good mr. and good miss, no matter what you say, they say good, which will make you have no adjustment, no sense of accomplishment, which is why Mr. Good and Miss Good cannot be liked.
If you dare not express your inner thoughts, no matter what others say or do, you say good, no principles of your own, no position of your own. You go along with what this person says, and you echo what another person says, and without a firm position, it will give people the feeling that you have no opinion, you are a wall grass, so that you will not be liked.