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I don't know if you have a brotherhood or friendship relationship that does not exist in any blood relationship.
I believe that as long as you are a mature person, as long as you are a person with a certain life experience, you will not easily give your own answer, because people are complex, many times those who look closer than brothers and friends, are often the most vicious people to you, and those who do not have much to do with you, when you are in trouble or need help, may not hesitate to help you.
Hope that the following 4 stories can help you better distinguish between true brothers and false righteousness?
1. Be generous when you are needed, and turn your face and not recognize people when you are not needed
After Chen Hao bought a car, an old classmate used to come over to borrow a car, almost every week to come and borrow once, and what is more excessive is that after each car, this old classmate never takes the initiative to refuel, sometimes the fuel tank is bottomed, and the other party also pretends not to find. Considering that it was an old classmate, Chen Hao did not care too much.
Chen Hao has always been a very good person to friends, for example, once Chen Hao just needed to use a car, and the old classmate also happened to come over to borrow a car, so Chen Hao said that the car could not be borrowed, but the old classmate still snatched the car keys from Chen Hao's hand. Even so, Chen Hao was not angry, but chose to take a taxi to run errands.
However, an incident that happened after that made Chen Hao thoroughly recognize his old classmate, the course of events was like this, once Chen Hao accidentally collided with others while driving, and the mobile phone was also damaged. Because it is Chen Hao's full responsibility, so Chen Hao must first pay a part of the fee to the other party, but because the mobile phone has been broken, so Chen Hao has no way to pay the other party, at this time Chen Hao realized that the old classmate who often borrowed the car lived nearby, so he walked to a friend's house, hoping that the friend could temporarily borrow a few thousand yuan to give him an emergency, and explained the situation.
However, what Chen Hao did not expect was that as soon as he spoke his words, the old classmates directly refused, and said that the money in this year could not be borrowed, not that the old classmates did not give face, but that the world was like this, he could only accept it, and every word was said with righteousness.
There was no way, Chen Hao could only borrow someone else's mobile phone and let his wife take a leave of absence to help deal with the accident.
What makes people indignant is that within a few days of this matter, the old classmate came to borrow the car again, and this time Chen Hao did not lend the car out again, but rightly gave the other party a word, that is, this year's car can not be borrowed casually, the world is like this, once there is a car accident, no one can afford this responsibility.
There is no doubt that Chen Hao's old classmates are the kind of friends who pretend to be righteous, and this type of person often shows great generosity when he needs others, even full of benevolence and morality; once you need their help, you immediately turn your face and don't recognize people, I don't know if you have such friends around you.
2. When you are in distress, you wag your tail and beg for mercy, and once you have achieved your goal, you will have no one in sight
Wang Jun opened a small supermarket in a university, and the relationship with nearby students is very good, and the students also like Wang Jun very much, because Wang Jun's things are genuine, and the price is cheaper than other supermarkets. One day five years ago, a very poor-looking student suddenly came to Wang Jun's supermarket, and the student said that he wanted to work in Wang Jun's supermarket and only had time at night every day. Seeing the poor appearance of the student, Wang Jun thought about it for a long time, because his supermarket area was not large, so he did not need to find help from others.
However, under the pleading of the other party, Wang Jun still left the other party, because the appearance of the other party looked really pitiful, so the student worked part-time in Wang Jun's supermarket until he graduated from college.
What people did not expect was that the student had only graduated for one year, and then he had achieved success by chance, and he was invited back to give a lecture by the school. After Wang Jun learned of this, he began to show off loudly in front of his classmates, and said that it was because of his help that the classmate was able to finish college.
However, what Wang Jun did not expect was that after the student finished his speech, he did not come to thank Wang Jun, and even when he passed the door of Wang Jun's supermarket, he pretended not to know Wang Jun, and disappeared without even entering the door.
Wang Jun has met a lot of such people in real life, they will always behave very humble when they need others, and they can even be described as wagging their tails and begging for pity, but when they don't need you, they are likely to be a different picture.
Of course, when we meet such people, we don't need to be too real, because as long as we are not ashamed, we can do it. Or, as far as helping people is concerned, it is best not to expect any return, or not to have a sense of return, because once you have such a thought, you are likely to be disappointed.
3. See you developed, call brothers and brothers; see you in distress, avoid missing contact
Li Chen, who used to be an IT elite, was very successful, and worked for less than 5 years to buy a house and a car in a first-tier city in the mainland, but then Li Chen suddenly disappeared from his classmates and circle of friends because he had bipolar disorder and could no longer concentrate on work.
In fact, after Li Chen found out that he was suffering from mental illness, he actively participated in the treatment and chose to hide it from all his classmates and friends. However, even so, there are still many classmates who have very good relations, often call him or text him to know his recent situation, and even some people directly ask him if he has encountered any difficulties and needs help. For these Li Chen chose to refuse to reply, except for an old friend. Because this old friend would basically contact him once a day, Li Chen had no choice but to tell the other party about his situation and lament that there was true friendship in this world.
However, the final result greatly surprised Li Chen, because after the old friend learned about Li Chen's situation, he never contacted Li Chen again. At first, Li Chen also thought that the other party might just not want to disturb himself and wanted to make himself feel at ease. However, when Li Chen's mental illness was cured, he could no longer find his old friend, not only could not get through the phone, but all other contact information was blocked by the other party.
Seeing such an ending, Li Chen couldn't help but sigh, that is, in this world, it is really difficult for you to distinguish who is your true brother and who is the false righteous, because sometimes those friends who are false and righteous look really closer than the brothers.
4. People pretend to be good people in front of them, and stir up dissension behind them
Li Ming is a small boy who has just graduated not long ago, because his major is very solid, so he quickly found a good job. When he first entered the company, Li Ming found that the colleagues in the company seemed to be very friendly, especially the big brother who had worked in the company for three years.
Finding himself in a company with such a good atmosphere, Li Ming felt very lucky and decided to do a good job in the company. However, soon after, he received a direct warning from his direct supervisor that Li Ming's company implemented a salary confidentiality system, but Li Ming told other colleagues about his salary. For this reason, Li Ming was also fined half a month's bonus.
At this time, Li Ming realized that the company's atmosphere is only a superficial phenomenon, and it is still necessary to be defensive, because there are really many people who pretend to be good people and then provoke dissension. Because Li Ming told his salary to the big brother who called himself a brother every day.
After realizing this, Li Ming also frankly admitted his mistake to the leader, and explained the reason why he would disclose his salary to others, and after leading Li Ming's sincerity, he also chose to forgive.
Through the above stories, I don't know if you have found that sometimes it is really difficult to distinguish between true brothers and false righteousness. No one, until the last resort, or until the most critical moment, may never know who is his true brother.
When dealing with the two words of friends, we must always do one thing, that is, not to have too much hope, and at the same time, we must do a precautionary heart.
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