What would you do if your partner felt you weren't good enough, or complained excessively about your life, or even wanted to give up?
This counselor's name is Ah Xiang, I regret marrying my husband, what the hell is going on? Last month, their unit organized a team building and went on a beach vacation. That day, Ah Xiang and her colleagues were barbecued by the sea, and suddenly someone called her, and she turned back and found that it was her first love. Ah Cheng originally broke up peacefully because of a different place, with some regrets, and now the sudden encounter made the two people quickly open the topic. From that year to the present, ah cheng in front of him has changed from an immature boy to a mature and stable man with a successful career. The whole night of conversation made Ah Xiang very happy and heart-wrenching.
Since that group building, Ah Xiang has been ghostly all day, whenever she opens Ah Cheng's dialog box, the mood begins to become bitter and depressed, seeing her husband is also getting more and more unpleasant, the small contradictions between husband and wife on weekdays suddenly become magnified a lot, arguing with her husband at every turn, looking at the chicken feathers in front of her, she will even think, if she insisted on being with Ah Cheng, would she be happier?
To be honest, when I talked about this private message, I felt sorry for her husband from the bottom of my heart, because from her words, I felt a strong dissatisfaction. But what she didn't know was that it was like a tornado, and the long stream of thin water was the real happiness. In fact, there are not so many regrets in life, and there are not so many right and wrong, because it is wrong for men to marry anyone, and women who marry are sorry, most of the time they just want too much, but they don't know how to cherish it.
Suppose that when you were with Ah Cheng, you may not be able to live better than now, his success is the result of young hardships, you can't even stand the suffering of a different place, and let alone the pain of living with a teenager, people always have to know what they want and what they deserve.
You can't enjoy your husband's stability and warmth while expecting other people to give you romance, excessive greed will only make you get nothing. There are many people who think too much in their relationships, and their needs are very unstable, they want hot soup when they are sick today, and they want a car and a house tomorrow, but they have never thought about what they can give to each other.
If you love this man in a down-to-earth manner, then he certainly doesn't know how to be funny, then don't be angry with him because he only bought you nine hundred and ninety-nine roses.
If you love him for being rich and self-motivated, then he must be busy, so don't complain because he doesn't have much time with you. Similarly, if you love this woman innocently and lovely, then you have to put up with her childishness and innocence, and you have to accept that she has a little temper from time to time. Just like if you like to eat desserts, you have to withstand the high calories brought by desserts. So the place where you love him the most is where you can't stand him the most.
I once heard a passage about a CEO of a public company who met his wife's ex-boyfriend at a gas station with his wife. The CEO said: If you had married him, you would now be the wife of a gas worker.
But his wife replied: You are wrong, if I marry him, then he is now the CEO, do you understand? Wise women never complain that men do not give her the life they want, but know how to fight for and assist men to succeed, and those who fail will always find problems from each other, and frequently change teammates, I want you to understand that meeting is a fate, and falling in love is a science.
Love can be hot, but marriage needs to be managed. If you don't know how to operate, then no matter how many people you change, you will never get happiness. Feelings are a game, two people fighting problems together, not two people fighting each other. In this game, there is not much right and wrong, only happiness and unhappiness. Happy life, rough tea and light rice are also happy, unhappy, lobster is also unhappy. But the coarse tea and light rice in each of our bowls are actually lobsters in the eyes of others.
If your relationship is not perfect, to tell the truth, the place where you love him the most is often the place where you can't stand him the most. Many people don't understand this sentence, it feels contradictory, but you will understand it after listening to me and saying the following example.
I have a friend who just got married last year, and his husband is very handsome, that is, the kind of walking on the street that can attract a lot of people's attention. At that time, when the two of them got married, when her husband posted her marriage certificate in the circle of friends, it really hurt the hearts of a large number of girls. Even after marriage, there are many opposite sexes around her husband. On the surface, my friend is very calm, but in fact, she is also very flustered. This man is handsome, there must be many women who touch her, even if her husband carries it, but she can't bear her suspicions, so she loves her husband's handsomeness, but she often has no sense of security.
There is no perfect fairy love in the world, and the best love is that I know your strengths and love your shortcomings as well. Because no one is perfect, true love is not to let you be wronged, do not want you to change, you only need to be yourself in this relationship. If a relationship can go from green silk to white hair, it must not be because these two people are perfect people, but because each other can accept each other's imperfections and be patient to run in.
So it's not that God didn't give you a happy feeling, it's that you don't have patience and don't know how to give. Do not know how to cherish, do not know how to manage.