Yesterday there was a controversy over whether the child should only encourage and not criticize, and the other part of me except me that they feel that the child is wrong, you must say it, rather than blindly encouraging.
I said the only way to break the darkness was to let the light in.
A lot of times we just talk about the child's bad and never tell him how to do it should be correct.
They feel that they should not follow the script, there is nothing wrong with this, after all, everyone and the living environment are different, how can they be educated in the same way?
They feel that blind encouragement is not good, there is a more temperamental child in the class, the mother said that often encourage at home, it just so happens that I saw something like this on the headlines today, when others are encouraged, such a child will be jealous, that is she lacks the feeling of being concerned, the performance of lack of love, how does the mother encourage us not to know, the mother is because of the encouragement to let her flutter?
The purpose of encouragement is to make the child feel seen, let the child feel the importance of himself, build a sense of security and value, and when the child breaks the rules, we should also point it out and tell him what to do correctly.
Love and rules are indispensable.
(Day 632)