In the beginning, I want to ask you this question: "Have you ever suffered a loss because you can't say nice things?" ”
In fact, we all like to listen to good words, and no one likes to listen to those harsh words, so those who can talk are often more likely to be liked by others.
But sometimes it is often for this reason that we are deceived, so although we all like to listen, we still have to have the ability to discern.
Just as the so-called "loyal words are against the ear", some words that are really instructive to our lives are not so good. Therefore, if it sounds good, it is also necessary to classify, some can be listened to, some can not be listened to.
Especially in feelings, it is even more so, can not live a "listen to happiness" life. Whether the other party loves you or not, not by saying it, but by what he does.
It's like in our real life, there are some people who have suffered like this. In fact, we all like to hear nice words, but these words are sometimes put in quotation marks. It needs to be thought about, and this requires us to discern.
So how should we discern?
01, the unity of words and deeds
In fact, the intersection between people lies in the truth, and no matter how much good words are said, it is not as good as the things he says and does.
If what has been said has not been done, even the best words will have no effect, because what is said is empty. Since it is empty words, no amount of talk is equal to white talk, because he can't change anything, just make you feel happy when you sound it.
But it doesn't change anything. Therefore, if others say it, it must be seen whether he can do it, especially between couples.
In fact, this is also very easy to understand, everyone hopes to meet the person is a combination of words and deeds, the things promised can not be done, no one likes. Therefore, the things that are promised must be done, and we must not do the kind of things that give hope to others and disappoint others.
And this is to achieve "unity of words and deeds", to say and do the same, so that no matter what they are doing, they can convince others. It's a hundred times better than saying "nice words," you say.
02, the goal can not be achieved
Another aspect of discerning whether what is said is true or not is to see whether the goal of what is said can be achieved, whether it can be achieved.
If it can't be achieved, even if it is crazy, it doesn't make any sense. After all, what is spoken is ultimately to be seen and done, and it is not just listened to.
Do you feel meaningful no matter how much you say things that can't be achieved? I think the answer is also very clear, that is, meaningless words.
Therefore, when a person always says something to you that cannot be achieved, then no matter how good his words are, you can only listen to them and not take them seriously. After all, sometimes life is not only good words, but also a lot of reality to face.
Especially when you are not deeply involved in the world, you must remember that you can listen to good words, but you can't take good words as all, you must look at what the other party does, whether you can do it, whether you are really paying. Instead of empty talk. Do and say with one mouth.
03, write at the end
Therefore, although beautiful words are good, sometimes you can't take him seriously, just listen to them, and you can't believe them all.
The main thing to see is that what he says can be done, whether he is really paying, if it is really paying, and it is good, then it must not be too much.
On the other hand, it is not true that it is impossible to say it, and even if it can speak the Tao, such words cannot be heard. After all, people have feelings, and they can feel them.
Therefore, "taking good words as true" is not allowed, you say yes or no.
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