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Pay attention to my | write about the world, but also write about human love
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Recently, another suspense drama in iQiyi Mist Theater has caught fire.
Although it is a bit confusing to constantly rush to the hot search because of the apology, as far as the plot is concerned, it is indeed worth watching.
The script is adapted from the real silver case, and the plot has done a lot of dramatic treatment, making the already confusing case more mysterious.
In order to know who the real murderer is, a friend has made several pages of PPT.
But in addition to the hot puzzle game that everyone was discussing, another thing caught my attention.
The encounters of several leading actors in the play, and the psychological problems caused by their long-term lack of love, make people sigh endlessly.
Shen Yu, played by Zhao Liying, is a child who grew up in panic.
Beneath her black-and-white appearance, there may be a heart that has long been torn and vulnerable.
Of course, all this is inseparable from her original family.
The play does not explain when her mother died and where she went, from the time when the character Shen Yu, who played her, appeared in front of everyone, she was just a child of a single-parent family who was dependent on her father.
Let's not think about the lack of maternal love in her upbringing, even if her father was all-encompassing, she had an incredibly happy childhood, but this childhood also came to an abrupt end after her father suddenly disappeared.
Even if she showed herself calmly, when her father disappeared, she was just a teenager.
The impact of this incident on her was far greater than she had shown.
We have no way of knowing how she survived all these years of losing her father, but what we can see is that she has a deep obsession with finding her father.
In order to find her father, to find the love she once had and lost, she did not hesitate to try the law by herself, at the cost of a great future, making people afraid.
When watching the play, many people said in the barrage that Shen Yu is living very well now, and he does not have to take the road of crime for his father.
Some people say that she can live like a normal person, as long as she waits, one day the truth will come out.
She didn't have to sacrifice herself, she didn't have to hurt others, and she didn't have to atone for some of the mistakes her father might have made.
But her father's affairs have already cast a shadow on her life, and she is also destined to live under such a shadow in this life.
This is the impact of the original family on people, people are the product of the environment, no one can think outside the environment they are in.
It's sad, but that's the reality.
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And the people who are influenced by the original family in the play and have childhood shadows are not only Shen Yu.
Xia Mu, played by Dong Zijian, is also a direct victim of the lack of love.
He also grew up in an incomplete family, brought up by his mother who was unmarried and pregnant, although their relationship in the play is called teacher and student, but all kinds of evidence tells us that they are mother and son.
He knew that his mother was around, but he couldn't recognize him, and he couldn't call out his mother.
Where is the father even more unknown, he watched the cartoon of the little monkey looking for his father, is he pinning his desire for his father on the little monkey's body?
Probably the reality is rarely perfect, in the animation world, he can still find a little comfort.
Therefore, like Shen Yu, the reason why he was so obsessed with tracking down the real murderer at that time, in addition to suffering psychological trauma because he had witnessed the scene of the murder, was also to protect the only warmth in his memory.
After all, that time was the only time for Natsuki to have a mother and experience the same emotions as other children.
Although short, it can be precious.
Like Shen Yu, he could not choose what kind of family he was born in, what kind of environment he grew up in, who could not choose who became his parents, and he passively accepted everything that fate gave him.
But at the same time, he could not suppress his desire for love.
I don't know how much a stable parent-child relationship and a happy and splendid childhood will have on a child's life.
But a turbulent childhood, a lack of affection, and an insecure life experience will definitely affect a child's life, and even become his lingering nightmare.
Preventing him from moving towards the right path in life, affecting his judgment and decisions about things, making him miserable, confusing him, and putting him on the verge of doom.
When it comes to the impact of the original family, we can't always get around the words that have rotted the street:
Happy people use childhood to heal a lifetime, while unfortunate people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
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But compared with reality, Xia Mu and Shen Yu were lucky.
At least, although they lack affection, they have not suffered too much humiliation, and have not experienced the verbal violence and destruction of their biological parents.
They have also felt love, they have had love, they are still attached to family affection, still full of hope.
I also believe that if it hadn't been for such an accident, both of them would have become better people, sunny, uplifting, excellent, loved, had something to do, and had expectations.
But in reality, those who have truly suffered the shadow of childhood are far less fortunate than them.
Obviously, the biological parents are there, obviously there seems to be no lack of anything, but some children always look sad.
Maybe they can't understand why other people's parents are so loving, but their own parents are paranoid like a devil with teeth and claws.
They speak the most vicious language in the world, and loudly curse the people who are most tied to them in the world.
They swung their butcher knives at the weaker ones who loved them so much.
Beatings, abuse, humiliation, these linger like nightmares, and even fill some people with an entire childhood experience.
Even now that 2022 is approaching, such news is not uncommon.
We can often see parents punching and kicking at their children, because children are disobedient and often slap more than a dozen times.
There are also those who are born without raising, raising without teaching, and treating children as their own personal belongings, as tools to vent their anger.
And that's just the tip of the iceberg.
For these children, the only way out is to grow up, is to escape.
But when you grow up, will everything really be good?
Violence is inherited, from one generation to the next.
When you find that you also have the qualities that your parents once hated incomparably, you find that you have long been affected and there is no way back.
Sensitive, lack of love, low self-esteem, flattering personality.
Every feature carries the shadow of an unhappy childhood, and the invisible net is always hanging over your head and lingering.
The only thing we can do is work hard, stay away, and heal ourselves.
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