Hehe is an ordinary girl, with ordinary looks and ordinary family background. Among the many office staff, it is really unremarkable. She often heard female colleagues in the office chatting, but she could barely interject. Everyone's workload is similar, the salary is almost the same, and I don't know where people come from. Chatting is not high-end skin care products, brand clothing, or how the husband loves, how smart the child is, etc. Hehe just listened silently, because she herself had never used high-end skin care products, like WHATSKI, Estée Lauder, not to mention big brand bags, etc., and did not dare to think about it. Listening to others chatting, she was very unhappy in her heart, thinking: The same people, why is the difference so big?
This has to start from the original family, Hehe has lived in the countryside since childhood, and the idea that her parents have given her is that we have no money. There were few decent clothes since she was a child, so when she grew up, she was reluctant to buy them even if she had money. Because "poverty" has become deeply rooted. When I grew up, I met a boy and was willing to buy small snacks for her, which suddenly captured Hehe's heart, and almost didn't think much about it and got married. Unfortunately, the good times are not long, this boy is just "pseudo-generous", his family is poor, his salary after work is not high, his temper is not so gentle as love, and he is even more stingy with Hehe. Therefore, with others, Hehe always felt inferior, and even felt that he was not worthy of being loved. Hehe fell into a deep confusion!
Love, first of all, must start from oneself, only by learning to love oneself, will love the external things of the world. The famous psychologist Arison said that people must know how to love themselves before they know how to love others. Because only people who see themselves as valuable and have a clear self-image have a sense of security and the courage to love others. To love yourself, you must learn to appreciate your own strengths, but also to accept your shortcomings, so as to strive to improve yourself. In this state of mind, we must learn to live with ourselves, and after accepting ourselves, we begin to have the grace of tolerance; after we know how to appreciate ourselves, we will understand how to appreciate others.
We do not have the depth of the blue sky, but we can have the ethereal of white clouds; we do not have the vastness of the sea, but we can have the clarity of the stream; we do not have the dazzling of the sun, but we can have the twinkling of the stars; we do not have the high flight of the goshawk, but we can have the low flight of the bird. Everyone has their own place and everyone should find their own place. We should believe that it is precisely because of the thousands of "I's" that the world becomes colorful and life becomes beautiful.