Liu Jialing once said, "There is no eternal marriage, only husband and wife who grow up together." ”
This sentence I want to give to Huang Xiaoai in the story of the Jane Clothing Giants.
When I first read about Huang Xiaoai, I liked her a lot, thinking that she was like the winter sun, neither warm nor thin, like a cup of light tea, mellow in the mouth, and a long aftertaste.
She has a kind of leisurely and idyllic quality, different from Qian Xiaomei's fierceness, watching her initially get along with Mr. Li, always give people a kind of surprise of four or two thousand pounds.
She was highly educated and had a good vision, so I thought she could easily navigate the life of the giants, and I was particularly confident in her marriage at that time, and I was glad that Mr. Lee met a good person.
But as the story progressed, I was a little disappointed in Huang Xiaoai.
Huang Xiaoai's in-laws do not have many troubles, her children have special education, her husband is handsome and capable, there are drivers, there are nannies, clothes come to open her mouth, food to reach out, but she lives a period of Ai Ai, a small belly chicken intestine, like a resentful woman in a deep house compound.
She is stingy, suspicious, lacking in pattern, suffering from gain and loss, suspicious, unsympathetic...
Suspicious: Because Mr. Li let Yufen cook several meals and brew tea several times at night, Huang Xiaoai became suspicious and deliberately made it difficult for Yufen.
In the middle of summer, Yufen was cooking in the kitchen and sweating profusely, she ordered Yufen not to turn on the air conditioner; the small washing machine was broken, she asked Yufen to wash her underwear by hand; there was a flower in the yard that withered, she said that Yufen watered too much...
In Xiao Ai's eyes, the nanny is just a maid she paid for, I say one, you can't say two, don't deserve an independent personality, don't deserve respect and kindness.
Yu Fen is a high-quality nanny, she works sharply, is kind, handles things with moderation, and knows how to cooperate, because Huang Xiaoai's pickiness has forced such a rare nanny to resign.
Speaking of Mr. Li's status, how can he covet a nanny, Huang Xiaoai thinks that there is only love between men and women, but as everyone knows, in addition to love, there can also be appreciation, understanding, and understanding between men and women.
Small pattern: Junjun got gastroenteritis, Mr. Li went to the hospital as a father to accompany him, after the child was discharged, he wanted his father to accompany him again, Mr. Li felt guilty about the child because of the divorce, and could not bear to refuse the child's request, and kept the child for a night.
The next day, in the face of the exhausted Mr. Li, Huang Xiaoai was full of jealousy, and in the face of Li Shengsheng's explanation, she said:
... It's just an ordinary illness, you guys are too nervous, right? (Chapter 165)
... Divorce is divorce, children must also accept the fact that parents are separated, you can not agree to everything.
I'm afraid that the child's illness is just a reason for you and Qian Xiaomei to meet, right?
Huang Xiaoai said these words, which made me stunned, if her daughter Yingying was sick, would she say that it was an ordinary illness? She really has no empathy!
Although Mr. Li is divorced, he still has the responsibility and obligation to love and care for the children, the parents divorced, the children themselves have been hurt, sick, want to enjoy some fatherly love, this is too much?
With Mr. Li's identity and age, how could he not be measured and use the child's illness as an excuse to pestering Qian Xiaomei?
Since she married a second-married man, Huang Xiaoai should have foreseen these problems before marriage, so because of such a small matter, she kept crying and nagging with her in-laws, which showed that the pattern was too small.
Don't know: on the day of national day, Mr. Li made an appointment with someone to play ball because of socializing, did not accompany her back to her mother's house, and because he came back late at night, afraid of disturbing Huang Xiaoai's rest, Mr. Li slept in the living room for several hours.
The next day, Mr. Li wanted to take everyone to play despite his fatigue, and it can be seen from this that he wanted to express his apologies for not being able to accompany his wife the day before, otherwise why go out? Where has he never played, what new things have not been seen? Isn't the reason you want to go out just to make everyone happy?
Everyone packed up, even 3-year-old Yingying went downstairs for a long time, Huang Xiaoai still did not go downstairs, more than 9 o'clock, finally came downstairs, sat on the sofa and turned over the book, did not move the meaning of the delay, and finally Mr. Li had to leave others.
A good big family gathering was a mess from her!
She is really very self-reliant, but also overconfident, Mr. Li is not an ordinary man, she is not an ordinary wife, originally this marriage is not the right door, the initiative is in the hands of others, people can get used to you, you can also change you.
Watch carefully: Junjun celebrates his birthday, Mr. and Mrs. Li and mr. Li's cousin's family come to celebrate the child.
On the eve of the meal, Junjun and Yingying had a dispute over snatching the doll, and Junjun pushed Yingying down.
There is nothing unusual about the fight between children, but Huang Xiaoai directly scolded JunJun and cried in front of his family and outsiders, that child usually comes once in a while, here is originally restrained, you are an adult, is the atmosphere point not successful?
Besides, my cousin's family of four is still here, so let outsiders laugh! Even if you are angry in your heart, can you bear with it, give everyone a face, and pretend to be generous and decent? After all, Yingying has already fallen, and no matter how you scold, it will not help, regardless of the overall situation!
No sympathy: because Qian Xiaomei is busy, there is no time to take care of Junjun, the nanny at home is slack, Junjun's three meals, personality, education are worrying, Mr. Li as a father to pay attention to the child is beyond reproach, although divorced, but that is his own child, can you ignore it?
He proposed to let the children come to live here on weekends and holidays, but was resolutely opposed by Huang Xiaoai, the reason given was that he was afraid of Qian Xiaomei's prick, and Mr. Li repeatedly promised that he would solve anything, but Huang Xiaoai was a sharp man, and usually there was no hostess demeanor in case of trouble, and this time he took it out.
Seeing this, I don't understand why she, a mother, has no compassion? Junjun was so pitiful, well-behaved and sensible, but no one hurt her, so thin that she had to comb her hair herself.
Come what you don't have to care about, the family to see the child has a nursery, cooking has a nanny, education has Mr. Li, she does not have to contribute ah, and is not a lack of food and drink in the family, why can not accommodate a child?
Although it is said that it was born of an ex-wife, but the human heart is long, you are good to the child, can the child not be grateful to you? Can Mr. Lee not be grateful? Isn't there a gain in marriage?
"There is a sacrifice to have, how you want others to treat you, you have to treat others first", Huang Xiaoai really does not understand ah!
Huang Xiaoai has been married for four or five years, and it is said that she should be integrated into this kind of luxury life, but she suffers from loss and loss, is suspicious, lacks pattern, extreme inferiority, she does not pay attention to family affairs, does not help Mr. Li's career, does not talk about filial piety to her in-laws, and does not play an educational role for her children, I only see a resentful woman.
Everything she had depended on Mr. Li, when Mr. Li was climbing upwards, Huang Xiao Aifei could not help, but instead pulled down Mr. Li's pants legs, so that the end can be imagined.
Here I want to say to Huang Xiaoai: Don't do it, Mr. Li is not an ordinary man, his world is not only family, but also career and society, it is impossible to live only with you in the small mood of the two-person world.
Marriage is like a long-distance running race, if he is far ahead, you are far behind, the gap between you will only grow with the passage of time, he can wait for you for a while, can not wait for you for a lifetime.
Instead of painstakingly binding and monitoring, it is better to improve yourself, in marriage, the ability of women is not to be disliked and betrayed by men.
So, Huang Xiaoai, hurry up and jump out of the small world, we look forward to your growth, it has always been Mrs. Li.