What is love? I looked for so many answers, I understood. Love is not to ask for return to pay, to be loved is an unexpected gain, love and to be loved are two creatures, two sides of the same body, if you do not feel loved, then you really have to think about whether you have given love.
Love is one-way, love is to meet your needs within the Tao, love along the way, go with the flow, I love you and you love me is not the same, I love you to really meet your needs, you love me to really meet my needs, because you and my needs are not the same. I love you is not the so-called verbal I am willing to give everything for you, because even if you give everything, you may not be able to meet the needs of the other party, because you have never known the needs of the other party, that is, why do you not understand me? You think that you love her when you give, but you can never meet the needs of the other party, how can the other party feel your love, at most it is just touching.
It is really not easy to love someone, but please love yourself before you love people, if you can't even meet your own needs, how can you have the extra ability to love others!
Their own experience and experience prove that their understanding is right, in the name of "love" to love a person is with personal prejudice, just stand in their own position to love, do not know, this kind of love with deformity is the most terrible, you can not even feel the real needs of the other party, all your efforts are likely to be counterproductive, and even bring harm to people, so when you do not know what a person's real needs are, what you have to do is to let it happen, only if you understand the needs of the other party, you are entitled to love others. "You don't understand me", "Why doesn't he understand me", etc. Don't you really understand the needs of the other party, I want apples, but you give me bananas, you say you love me, will I believe!
Regardless of the kind of love, there are three stages:
Stage 1: Explore each other's needs
The second stage: identify the screening needs
Phase Three: Meet demand
Therefore, do not say love easily, because a person's needs are always changing, and the real great thing about love is that it is not easy to achieve!