ask:
Can the way you give us to look in the mirror (telling ourselves repeatedly in our hearts, "I am such a person") can also be used to treat ourselves with envy and jealousy of others, such as when seeing the strengths of others and saying to ourselves, "I am also such a person (capable, patient, and active)?"
Teacher Liu Minghui answered:
When you say, "I'm a nasty person" or "I'm a fat person," it's because you don't accept it, you do it to accept the not-so-good, dark side of me inside, for better progress. When you see the excellence of others, you feel envious and jealous, so when you say in your heart that you are also such a person, you are in a state of self-sufficiency. You shut yourself up, you stand there and don't move, and of course you don't progress. So it won't help you. In the face of people who are better than you, you are not envious and jealous, just happy to have such people exist. With this mentality, if you say: I am such a person, I have the same potential, and I can do it like him. This is good for you. Obviously, the problem is not what you say, but the emotion of envy itself. There is envy and there is jealousy, it has a strong destructive power, making people restless, uneasy in their hearts, full of resentment, will make good people into bad people, friends into enemies. So we have to be wary of this emotion, and once it appears, we must pay attention to eliminating it and not letting it spread in your heart. Jealousy is a very common phenomenon, but behind it is the role of fear. This is because in the early days, the living conditions of ancient humans were harsh, and they not only had to find ways to collect food, but also to prevent the invasion of foreign enemies. Those who don't perform well enough are vulnerable to tribal abandonment. The development of human civilization to the present, human beings no longer need to adopt such a survival strategy, but the cell branding is still there. Therefore, when many people see excellent people appear, they will instinctively fear that the other party will surpass themselves and bear the fate of being expelled. Knowing the origin of this primitive emotional energy, it is easy to see through it and abandon it.
If you encounter the same confusion, I hope this article will help you to see through the illusion and get the truth. Everyone is welcome to communicate together