"Hi, I'm Deer Dawson. This is the last time I introduce myself, and today is the day I was born. How should I introduce me to you? Rural areas, left-behind children, mountain children, school bullying experiencers, photography creators, young people living alone, dreamers..." At 11:28 p.m. on November 28, 2021, Lu Dawson (formerly known as Zhou Peng), a photographer who had just turned 26 years old, regularly posted a suicide note on Weibo, triggering a search for people on the Internet. Unfortunately, at 7 a.m. on December 1, police found his body in a sea area.
He plunged into the cold sea in a resolute manner, leaving the world with infinite sighs.
01 He's been here
Flipping through his Weibo, I found that he likes to draw, like music, love photography, and is very talented.
Until he left, he was so gentle and tried his best to handle everything properly and not trouble others.
He is very "lacking in love".
He craves beauty, he craves love.
"Please love me a little more!" In this case, Shirley has also said.
02 He may just want to be loved
For his suicide, netizens have talked about it, some think that the creator of this tragedy is the "original family", some reprimand "school bullying", and some think that "distant photography dreams" crushed him... Lu Dawson also wrote in his suicide note: "What crushed me was not a straw, but countless grains of sand, and my step was like carrying a mountain on my back..."
It is undeniable that his growth has many wounds, people condemn his "original family" and denounce "school bullying", can we also think about how to save people like Lu Dawson who have been hurt?
Lu Dawson gave the answer with his suicide note, that is, "love".
There are many words of love in his suicide note.
“...... This has also become a shadow in my heart for a lifetime, for the family, for my parents, I am afraid that I have the idea of wanting to stay away from it from here, my fear, my uneasiness, am I not worthy of being loved? If there are only prodigies in the world, should a child of my intelligence be treated like this? ...... It's easy to hurt a person, it's hard to heal a person..."
"I also crave light, I crave warmth, I crave love, I crave a happy family... I'm such a rubbish, how can anyone love me... Going back is just a burden, no one will love me..."
“...... I also didn't want to continue a marriage story, and I didn't think about procreation. ...... I just want a warm home, I want to be loved, but why is it so hard..."
"Probably because of the desire for love, the desire for salvation, so I want to create God, just like the figures who walked alone in those past days, so the subjects of the shooting are all mythological types, entrusting sustenance to God, or perhaps wanting to create a kingdom full of love, without pain and harm." 」
“...... Without love, without love, how can we talk about healing ourselves with love..."
"No love, no money, no motivation to live, no future."
"Stranger, please remember that you deserve to be loved!"
"People like me, but please love us a little more, we have never lacked the spirit and motivation to fight for a better life, never afraid of difficulties and obstacles, but no love." Please start loving your child now! ”
"My death has nothing to do with anyone, and I don't want to blame anyone, the world needs more love, not hurt... I just want more people to know that love is always the most important thing..."
Children who lack love know how important love is!
Romain Rolland said, "Love is the flame of life, without which everything becomes night." ”
Lu Dawson, he, came to the end of the road, because he saw that the road ahead was a long night. Or perhaps, as one netizen commented: "He used his death to awaken people's attention to love." ”
03 Love is the medicine to heal pain
Lan Lan is a girl who has suffered from moderate depression and anxiety.
When she was in the third grade of elementary school, her mother died, and her father had violent tendencies and beat her with a broom, a belt, and steel bars. By high school, she couldn't stand it anymore, and she ran away from home to earn money from odd jobs to support herself. During this time, she met a boy and bore him a son, but the in-laws were very disgusted with her, and her husband was getting worse and worse for her, one day she and her husband asked for fifty yuan to buy things, and his husband reduced her to nothing, she made up her mind to divorce and took her son to live alone in the rental house.
When I met her, it was her hardest time. Her Weibo is full of negative words, and her heart is so sad that people can't bear to watch it.
She said she wanted to die, but she didn't want her son.
I encouraged her, wait a little longer, wait a little longer, maybe one day life will be fine.
She smiled wryly and said, "Maybe." ”
Suddenly, one day, I noticed that she had someone else in the photo she had posted, and it turned out that her grandmother and uncles had contacted her, and they had taken her back to her uncle's house.
Later, there were more people in her pictures, cousins, cousins, neighbors, and a man who took her and her son to the amusement park, watched movies, took pictures of her, made sweet and sour ribs for her, and she got a marriage license with him, and she began to call him "sir."
Her Weibo daily painting style gradually became cute and sweet. Often today and Mr. where he went again, Mr. said he was going to make me a cake, Mr. taught his son to take pictures... Dog food makes my teeth hurt!
Looking at the photo of her wearing Hanfu and smiling brightly, I was happy and touched, and suddenly understood that it was love that lit up her life, and it was love that healed her pain.
Healing love may come from loved ones, may come from friends, may come from lovers, may come from strangers, and may even come from pets.
Just like the male protagonist in the movie "Stray Cat Bob" went astray when he was young, drug addiction, sleeping on the street, living in embarrassment, accidentally adopted a yellow kitten, did not expect to change his life and save himself in the company of this cat.
Love works miracles, and love can change a person.
04 Save the deer around Dawson
A topic suddenly appeared on Weibo, "Save the deer Dawson around you", and netizens mourned Lu Dawson under the topic, and also told their similar experiences.
Perhaps, in our parents' time, what was missing was more material calcium, while in our time, what was missing was love. Loving understanding, unconditional love.
People who live in the world of love, the soul is dependent, no matter what happens, they know that they can get support, and they are still tied up, and they will not give up.
And the lack of love, the soul has no dependence, life has no light, long life, lonely.
Love is simple to say, but it is also complicated.
Love is companionship when you are lonely; love is understanding when you are in pain; love is support and encouragement when you are frustrated. Love is sometimes accompanied by hurt, and there are always people who hurt in the name of love.
Fromm once said, "Love is not an innate skill of ours, but an acquired ability." ”
Nowadays, people prefer to stay at home more and more, do not want to get married, and do not want to deal with people. In fact, "no one is an island", and everyone longs to be understood and loved. Perhaps, people have only been traumatized in the past experience, no longer believe in beauty, dare not touch love, and can only escape.
Some people think that "no one can accept me as I am", "they will not love me like this", "even I don't love myself, who will fall in love with me?" ”......
They don't know or can't believe that love is unconditional and that love is fully accepted.
In fact, it's not just smart, obedient, good-looking, and rich in this world that can be loved.
Kate in the American drama "Our Day" is fat and bloated and addicted to junk food, but she meets Toby, who loves her unconditionally and tolerates her.
Ningzi, the heroine of the movie "Only Love Can Make Me Survive", suffers from bipolar disorder, eats and sleeps at home all day, loves to lose her temper, but her boyfriend embraces her and loves her without regret.
As Zhang Ailing said: "No matter how bad your conditions are, there will always be someone who loves you." No matter how good your conditions are, there will always be someone who doesn't love you. ”
Lu Dawson said: "Stranger, please remember that you are worthy of love!" I think That Dawson said this to exhort those who feel that they are not worthy of love to believe in love and live with the expectation of love. Although he gave up on his own, he still left his gentle encouragement to the world.
Stranger, please listen to Lu Dawson's words, please remember that you are worthy of love!
If you haven't met the love that can save you and heal you, then don't be sad, love yourself first. Wilde once said: "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifetime of romance." ”
Do what makes you happy, buy a flower for yourself, enjoy a good meal, listen to your favorite music... Learn to be considerate of yourself, love yourself well, and please care for others, because love is mutual.
When you give love, it is not necessary to get a response one day; it is not certain that the love you give will save a "deer Dawson" one day.
Van Gogh said, "Where the flower of love blooms, life flourishes." ”
May you be loved, and may you be brave enough to love!