Everyone is created by nature with everything it does, nature gives human beings fresh air, delicious food, people learn to think in labor, everyone is very unique, I am not you, you are not him, you can only be yourself.
No matter how close the relationship is, there are still boundaries between people, always maintain a certain distance, absolutely can not exceed the boundary, otherwise, there will be bad things.
Some people morally kidnap others in the name of their families, obviously hoping that the other party's life will be smoother, but self-defeating, not only does not help others, but also alienates the original intimate relationship.
Many facts have shown that family members must maintain a suitable distance from each other, and they must never rely on close relationships to make decisions on behalf of others.
Whether the road ahead is smooth or anxious, that is what he must experience, no one can bear the pain of life on behalf of others, and many times the difficulties bring people not only pain, but also the opportunity to succeed.
"Woe, where blessings depend, where blessings lie, where misfortunes lie." The ancients told people to be optimistic a long time ago.
Family members should maintain a suitable distance between them, and they can give their relatives the necessary advice, but they must not interfere excessively in the lives of their relatives, otherwise, the people who are close to each other may become enemies, and the more complicated the relationship, the more likely they are to turn against each other.
Even if they are relatives, they must give each other a certain amount of privacy
The best state of a family is that everyone has their own "little room", which refers to both the actual room and the spiritual space.
No matter how close the relationship is, leave some suitable space for the other party, and never try to occupy the "room" of the other person, otherwise he will resist and try to drive you out of the room.
You could have visited his room as a guest and given him some rustic and useful advice, but if he found out that you wanted to occupy his room, he would see you as an enemy and drive you out.
Even if you are relatives of the same father and mother, you must leave some space for each other, and do not have the idea of controlling others.
Even if you are a relative, you can't always pick a mistake
Mistakes are commonplace, and everyone is likely to make mistakes at any moment, maybe the mistakes made are small, and maybe the mistakes made are big.
As the closest family, you should learn to tolerate mistakes, don't always pick mistakes, don't keep your mouth shut when you are close, no matter what, you should not open your mouth if you are not in time, you should leave a glorious opportunity to step down, and you must keep a suitable distance from your family.
Between family members, there should be more encouragement, less accusations, when you feel that the other party is too stupid, you may wish to think about the problem from the perspective of the other party.
At that time, you will understand that what people are doing is reasonable, but he does not have rich life experience, does not consider things thoughtfully, and does not think of a way to retreat, which screws things up and makes a big mistake.
At this time, you should not blame others in public, but keep a suitable distance from him.
Even relatives cannot decide the lives of others
"What kind of person we become is not an innate ability, but a choice." However, some unlucky people have been controlled by their families since childhood, and they do not even have the opportunity to make choices, how can they succeed?
If you really want your loved ones to have a bright future, then you must learn to let go, keep a suitable distance from your family, and do not have the idea of choosing for others.
Sometimes, the sense of distance does not alienate people, does not weaken the feelings between you, but strengthens the connection and emotion between you.
Don't make a choice on behalf of your loved ones, let him choose for himself, even if he chooses wrong, he won't blame you.
If he chooses correctly, he will thank you very much for letting him fight against the demons of fate on his own, and sometimes the right sense of distance can bring unexpected benefits.
Conclusion:
The distance between relatives is not the same, there is no criterion to define these distances, you must learn to judge yourself, the basis of judgment is definitely not the thickness of blood relations, to seek truth from facts, specific analysis.
Minimalist family status is the best, the children cultivated by this kind of family are very assertive, but also have the courage to take responsibility independently, and the society recognizes such capable people, their future is bound to be brilliant.
If you don't know how to keep your distance from your family, you will often quarrel, resulting in a miasma of smoke in the house.
Everyone in this family will not be happy and happy, every day is desperate, there is no feeling of ease and happiness, such a life will only give people a sense of depression.
Between family members, the distance that should be maintained should not be omitted, if you really want to be good to him, such a simple and easy to understand truth you will not be unaware, but some people always pretend to be confused.