01 Explanation is not necessarily a cover-up
Dante said, "Go your own way and let others say it." ”
But most of the silence may not be exchanged for the same amount of expectation, or even bear the insult for it.
Because they are not understood and unwilling to explain, they are sprayed to the skin.
Many times, we don't explain it to cover up, but to get effective communication.
Most successes, failures and efficiencies are more often determined by the ability to express, and a person who is good at expression can often do more with less.
In fact, the more powerful or easier way to silence the other person than silence is self-examination, that is, self-blackening and self-deprecation, which is usually called high emotional intelligence that can speak.
And Cai Kangyong personally explained what it means to "I hack myself and let others have nowhere to spray."
02 Opportunities are always left to those who are prepared
In the "Director Please Advise" program, Cai Kangyong showed his personality charm with strength, and can be called the most talkative newcomer director in the show.
According to the rules of the program, each newcomer director must make a second creation according to the GIVEN IP movie, and Cai Kangyong chose "Water Margin".
The script has been finalized, and the actors have yet to be determined.
For actors, working with a good or eye-catching director is undoubtedly the icing on the cake and doing more with less; the same is true for directors.
There is no doubt that Li Chengru is a good actor.
Not to mention the hot spots and topics created by the "three ru" that he once spoke on "Actors Please Take Place", that is, on him, the acting skills of the old drama bone are still online.
Yes, Cai Kangyong targeted Li Chengru.
Unfortunately, most people can not always do everything as they wish, just like Cai Kangyong's three requests to Li Chengru, and in the end it ended in failure.
However, from this casting incident, Cai Kangyong obviously has no loss and even won a good feeling.
On the surface, Cai Kangyong lost his favorite candidate, but in fact he won the hearts of the people, and he did not know that "misfortune and happiness depend on, and blessings and misfortunes lie down."
When inviting Li Chengru, Cai Kangyong frankly said that the script he created was tailor-made for Li Chengru.
Just because such words are obviously not tempting and sincere, Cai Kangyong is well aware of Li Chengru's love for Peking Opera, and even more so.
Quickly and clearly stated that his script contained Elements of Peking Opera, implored Li Chengru to appreciate his face and advise, and hoped to do meaningful things for Peking Opera together.
Speaking the invitation so humbly and sincerely, Cai Kangyong deserves to be a ceiling for talking.
Although Li Chengru was very moved, he still expressed his refusal, and even so, Cai Kangyong was still unwilling to give up.
Later, there were many invitations, and even brought his own handwritten script, hoping that Li Chengru could see his sincerity.
We always say that "opportunities are left to those who are prepared".
Indeed, Cai Kangyong preset all the situations in advance, including how to express his meaning clearly, but without offending people and making people feel happy, even the script was handwritten.
Although Li Chengru has a very strong personality, even though Cai Kangyong's many invitations have been fruitless, even many people present are in a state of eating melons and watching dramas.
But Cai Kangyong does not care about the opinions of others, and is very insistent on what he wants, which is something that cannot be done in many people.
Too many of us care too much about the eyes of others, and we care too much about the so-called face.
Self-doubt begins to arise because of a rejection by the other person or because of the ill-intentioned eyes of others.
In the end, it catered to the public, pursued face, and finally got what? It's just a void.
However, in Cai Kangyong,like the first time to know people can still live like this, or envy and admire such a true and honest life.
I will not deny myself because of the outside world, or even insist on it again and again, just for my dreams.
Such a person, his success is inevitable.
Talking, high emotional intelligence, sincerity, courage, and persistence, this is one aspect of Cai Kangyong's personality charm.
On the other hand, Cai Kangyong is patient, empathetic, not alarmed, open-minded, and more gentlemanly and elegant.
03 Life cannot be comprehensive, and there will inevitably be gains in the losses
In the latest episode of the show, when Cai Kangyong filmed the self-adapted short film "Romeo Is Still Alive" of "Water Margin", Zeng Li had a certain time conflict with the live short film shooting of the show because of work reasons.
Despite the tight time, Cai Kangyong tried his best to cooperate with Zeng Li's schedule, and did not show any dissatisfaction or unhappiness.
When the old Peking Opera actor Wang Quanyou spoke many times, Cai Kangyong did not show an impatient side.
On the contrary, they will empathize because the other party's lines are not smooth, and show understanding and give a certain amount of patience to the other party, which is a rare empathy for busy people in the fast-paced urban life.
Too many people pursue a fast-food lifestyle, but forget to slow down and wait for the soul that has been left behind by our footsteps.
And for the opinions of the actors, Cai Kangyong listens very patiently and even takes measures according to the situation.
Even if the actor sometimes does not achieve his own vision, Cai Kangyong will always be gentle and positively encouraged.
For the job of director, Cai Kangyong is seriously responsible, he said that he wants to chase dreams and wants to go crazy.
Rao is still fully demonstrative of what he has learned, and can know and master what he wants.
When expressing his ideas to the actors, he did not use the form of a loudspeaker, but personally went to the actors to express his demands.
The attitude is very gentle and kind, and I will express my gratitude after expressing it.
Because they will consider the emotions of the other party, they think as much as possible, as if they seem to have wronged themselves, which actually reduces the pressure of the actors and accelerates the progress of shooting.
Sometimes, giving up the so-called high and high authority and integrating into the actors in an approachable way, I don't know that it is another kind of gain for myself.
Many times, thinking about problems from a different perspective is a different realm.
Of course, many things can not always be smooth, and the same is true of Cai Kangyong's shooting process.
Actor NG is a small thing, and the lack of shooting time is the most important thing.
But in the face of such difficulties, Cai Kangyong will always have a calm appearance, and only after experiencing strong winds and waves can he achieve such a realm of not being happy with things and not being sad with himself.
In the past, Cai Kangyong was well known because of his status as a host, and now he has once again entered the public eye, perhaps a new Cai Kangyong, a new director who can talk and has high emotional intelligence.
04 The decency of adults is earned by themselves
When Cai Kangyong's short film was presented, the film critics and producers on the field expressed their views and opinions on it, with mixed praise and criticism, and Cai Kangyong accepted it all.
In the face of those praise speeches, Cai Kangyong did not conceit and arrogant, but humbly accepted, while expressing his shortcomings in the short film.
Even for the questions and suggestions of producers and film critics, Cai Kangyong accepted them all, did not make excuses for himself, and explained at the same time.
He not only expressed the original intention of his short film but also answered the other party's questions, but also let the other party understand and feel comfortable, and he also had a way to retreat.
Therefore, those film critics can be described as gentle to his comments, and even Li Chengru praised Cai Kangyong and even smiled at his high emotional intelligence reply.
People can persist, but not too stubborn, Cai Kangyong has achieved persistence and grasped stubbornness just right.
What is more precious is that Cai Kangyong knows his shortcomings and can accept his own shortcomings, a rare sober reason.
Most of the time, most people are not able to listen to the truth, because the truth is too harsh, and the rapid development of society has reduced the ability of too many people to resist pressure.
They can only listen to good words, but good words are too false.
Even so, these people who cannot recognize themselves are inevitably caught up in self-hypnosis and self-motivation, and are killed, destroyed, and buried.
Just as many directors have their own ideas, but unfortunately they always can't listen to the views of others, so they fight endlessly with the other party who are too stubborn, but in the end they lose both.
The cleverness of Cai Kangyong is that he knows what he wants and what the other party wants, so he leaves each other with the dignity of an adult in a self-deprecating and self-deprecating way.
Not to easily offend people is not to instigate, but to choose to take your own path wider.
However, it is not stupid to calculate the gains and losses, but sometimes turn a blind eye, and spare others and spare others, so that there will be less self-disturbance.
It is not necessary to compete with others for your superiority and inferiority, but to retreat appropriately and to share a sea and sky with each other.
It is always said that others have not given faces, but the dignity of adults is earned by themselves, not given by others.
Many times, quarrels are not the only point of the show, when a person treats the world in a gentle way, people get what they get from it and use it for life, which is still a flashpoint.