Wilde said: "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." ”
Only by loving ourselves can we learn how to love others.
Only those who have the ability to control their own lives have the ability to love themselves and others.
A person's choice to love himself is a manifestation of being responsible for himself.
If a woman learns to love herself, she will find that everything around her is slowly becoming what she likes.
Loving oneself is a grand practice in a woman's life.
01. You don't love yourself, no one will love you
In the hit drama "Dear Myself", Zhang Zhizhi, who tolerates and wrongs herself everywhere, makes countless women who take care of work and family at the same time have a strong resonance.
She had a modest but stable administrative job, took on the responsibility of caring for the family after marriage, and focused her life on her husband and daughter.
She dedicates herself wholeheartedly, willing to spend money on her husband and children, but she is very critical of herself.
In order to save money, he never dressed himself well, wore cheap clothes, and even borrowed clothes from others when he went to the mother's group party.
Her husband bought a thermos cup for her, she was too expensive to take it and returned it, and turned around to buy a massager for her mother-in-law. Unexpectedly, I saw Xiao San holding an identical cup at the construction site, and was slapped by the scumbag under the quarrel...
She constantly lowers her needs, sacrifices herself, is sad and wronged, but she also has to try her best to restrain herself.
She always suffered alone in silence, thinking that as long as the home was still there, everything was worth it.
However, her forbearance and concession did not make her husband cherish her doubly, but more and more disliked her, and eventually cheated on her subordinates, and the two ended in a dismal divorce.
In real life, there are many women who have similar experiences with Zhang Zhizhi. He was clearly working hard to be a good wife and mother, but in the end he lost his family, until he did not understand what he had done wrong when he divorced.
In fact, the answer is very simple, while you love your family, you only forget to love yourself.
The most important thing in a person's life is to be kind to yourself first, love your husband, and there is nothing wrong with loving your children, but you must love yourself even more.
Because what men need is an attractive woman, not a yellow-faced woman who only knows how to wash and cook. What children need is a beautiful and confident mother, not a full-time nanny who will only bury her head in the work.
Only those who love themselves can be loved.
In marriage, your attitude toward yourself determines your partner's attitude toward you.
A woman's self-esteem, self-improvement, self-love, and self-reliance are actually the best love for herself.
And only those who love themselves can better love their families and get the feedback of their family's love.
02. Love yourself, life has a way out
Xu Zhimo's first wife, Zhang Youyi, initially married Xu Zhimo, and she has always been compromised and obedient.
Even if Xu Zhimo satirizes her: a rural bun. She would also pretend not to hear in order to take care of the feelings of her elders.
In this marriage she had no dignity, no bottoming, no self. It is also because of this lack of self that Xu Zhimo eventually left her.
It is gratifying that Zhang Youyi finally understood her own problems after experiencing pain, and she began to learn to love herself and learn to rely on herself.
She was determined to live for herself once.
After the divorce, Zhang Youyi went to Paris to join her second brother Zhang Junjie, and then went to Germany with her to study early childhood education at the Pestalozzi College.
After returning to China, she taught German at Soochow University while taking care of business.
Busy with work during the day, I can only study at night.
Later, she became the vice president of Shanghai Women's Commercial Bank, and with her excellent ability, she turned the tide and saved this commercial bank in a storm.
At the same time, her younger brother Zhang Yujiu opened a Yunsheng clothing company on Jing'an Temple Road, and Zhang Youyi became the company's general manager.
The little woman who once had a low eyebrow and a good eye and was obedient to the past has officially transformed into a strong woman who is fierce.
She is self-reliant and self-reliant, and in the male-dominated business world, she has done a good job.
Her changes even Xu Zhimo had to marvel: "A woman with ambition and courage has made a lot of progress in the past few years." ”
Out of the failed marriage, she repented, began to love herself, invested in herself, and finally reborn, successfully saved herself, and completed the counterattack of life.
Later, when she was more than half a hundred years old, she met the doctor Su Jizhi and stepped into the palace of marriage again, the difference is that this time she harvested a warm marriage.
Buffett once said: "Between husband and wife, if you really can't count on each other, then run yourself and be prepared to leave or be left." ”
As the saying goes: the mountain will fall, and everyone will run.
In this world, the only thing you can rely on is yourself.
Only when women learn to love themselves, strengthen themselves, have the ability to please themselves, have the courage to leave at any time, and have the courage to start over, can they gain a real sense of security.
I agree with the saying that if you want to live a sober life, or if you want to be happy, you have to love yourself.
Only when a woman loves herself enough can she have the courage to face difficulties and have more choices when things come, so as to control her own destiny.
Women who love themselves, even if they are in a desperate situation, can live their own style.
03. A woman who loves herself is brave
Women who truly love themselves are not afraid of marriage failure, because they love themselves, so they are brave.
Guo Jingjing married Huo Qigang, many people said that she climbed high, but Guo Jingjing said: "He is a rich man, I am still a diving champion, there are many rich people, but there are not many world champions." ”
Because she loves herself, even if she is said to climb high, she is full of confidence and knows her value.
Even if she lives a rich life, she still lives her ordinary life, buying more than a hundred affordable clothes and pants for her children, and buying daily necessities in the supermarket with her husband.
A woman who is so clear about her life, knows what she wants, and has the ability to pay for herself, even if there is a problem in her marriage, she is not afraid, because she has the ability to survive and knows how to live.
The point is that she loves herself enough, has confidence, and has courage.
A woman who loves herself usually doesn't go too far.
Because she knows how to be responsible for her own happiness, she will not put too many hopes and expectations on the child, and she will not put the focus entirely on the lover, but know how to find happiness in life, she will create happiness by herself.
A woman, when she knows how to love herself, she will live to be her own queen.
Writer Su Qian said: Loving the world and loving yourself are the two major issues in a woman's life. Loving the world is a kind of generosity that is good for the world; loving oneself is a kind of self-protection.
If a woman wants to live beautifully, she must have an independent soul and not pin her happiness on others.
Never give up on being strong, only when you are strong can you not be afraid of the future, not to bear yourself, not to be afraid of loss.
Only by running yourself well can you have the ability to love or be loved.
Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance, and it is also the beginning of your life getting better and better.
If you are experiencing grief, don't forget to love yourself, because this is your weapon to regain your confidence and courage;
If you are surrounded by happiness, you need to love yourself a little more. Because loving yourself is the top wisdom of a woman, and only a wise woman will be haunted by happiness for a lifetime.
Give it a thumbs up! May you and I have the ability to love ourselves and the strength to love others.