People often ask: What is home? What is a mother's home?
What is home? Home is the home of a person's soul, a harbor to rest after a person's wind and rain, and the most reliable dependence in a person's life.
What is a mother's home? The mother's family is that after the two get married, the woman returns to her parents' home, the place where she grew up with herself since birth, and the place where she is full of countless memories in her life.
As a girl, when I was a child, my home was in my mother's house, the place that used to shelter us from the wind and rain, and grew up with us together. After getting married, the real home is settled in the in-laws' house, where the baby has taken root, that is, the place where we have never met, and will eventually become the home that we will guard for a lifetime, and the mother's family will always become the home we remember.
Returning to the mother's house is a guest, staying in the in-laws' house is an outsider
Girls have been guests since they got married, and then they have been guests, which sounds uncomfortable, but this is the truth. Since it is the guest who talks and does things in accordance with the guest's standards, does not mix with the mother's family affairs and does not do things that make the mother's family embarrassed, in order not to add more trouble to the father and mother, returning to the mother's house can only be a small stay, even if the father and mother do not urge you to go, you must also have self-awareness, so you have to be careful when you go back to your mother's house.
Obviously it is his own home from childhood to adulthood, now he wants to live but can only live small, obviously his dearest relatives, but after marriage, he has become polite, and he obviously wants to let himself do whatever he wants, but he feels embarrassed because he did not buy gifts. Maybe this is the helplessness of a married woman!
On the side of the in-laws' family, it is okay not to live with the in-laws, and living with the in-laws is simply like sitting on a needle felt. Especially when a gentle daughter-in-law meets a grumpy mother-in-law, a family civil war can break out in minutes, and when she meets her husband who is better, she can at least balance the emotions of both sides, make a peace in the middle, and meet a husband who does not care about the attitude, that is really a called every day should not be called the earth.
I thought that as long as you work hard enough and pay wholeheartedly, one day you will touch the heart of your in-laws, and finally it turns out that no matter how hard you work, how much you have to dig your lungs, in the end you are always a foreigner, when there is a need for you, you are a piece of fragrant food, everyone revolves around you, and when you are not needed, you are the dog tail flower on the side of the road, even if it blooms in a gorgeous and colorful way, it is still a "rotten" tail flower that no one cares about.
Back at home, remember 6 words: talk less, do more
The place where the mother's family has a mother is home, and returning to the mother's house is to visit the father and mother, help the father and mother to do more things within their ability, neither mix and opinion on the family affairs of the father and mother, nor do they tell the truth about the life of the father and mother.
Do what you should do, manage your mouth, do your duty, and put yourself in the position you should put yourself in.
In case of trouble, you should contribute, you should pay for it
Only when you become a parent, you will understand the difficulty of being a parent, and you can experience all kinds of helplessness and bitterness. So whether we have sons or daughters, parents are people we have to support for a lifetime, taking care of parents is not only our responsibility, but also our obligation, without the original parents, there is no current us, so the parents' later life is the filial piety that each of us should do and the responsibility that must be borne.
Finally, I would like to say: May all married women understand the meaning of returning to their mother's home, the mother's family can go back, the mother's home can also live, but everything must be mastered to a good degree, not only do not add trouble to the father and mother, but also let the life of the father and mother not be affected, both to meet the obligations of taking care of the father and mother, but also to be able to achieve the joy and harmony of everyone together, and can always maintain such a state, then why not a kind of happiness?