Hello, welcome to read this article, I hope you can calm down and read this article seriously and maybe one day you can use it. Many times, when we say what love is, it's actually a mental game. So, first of all, we should strengthen our psychological resilience. In short, to be an emotionally resilient girl, as Obama's wife, Michelle, mentioned in a speech, the real strength is women who stand up like jelly Q bombs. These women have the following two characteristics. First of all, when contradictions and conflicts arise, they can use rational thinking to overcome perceptual thinking and reasonably express their ideas, so as to resolve the crisis. They often have friends or students around me crying and saying to me, look, he's always mad at me. If I don't argue with him, I'll feel wronged. If I argue with him, I'm afraid he'll leave me.
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What do you think I should do? In fact, this kind of thinking also reflects two extreme behaviors when we encounter contradictions. One is to see yourself as a princess, for whatever reason; the other is to think you're too modest and try to apologize for forgiveness. So, for many girls, emotions are either completely laissez-faire, uncontrolled, or very stressful, but in fact, flexible emotions can make it easier for you to deal with and resolve conflicts when you encounter them to the greatest extent possible. Illustrate it with a small thing in life. Xiao Liu and Xiao Wei are a couple. Once, when they went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, Xiao Liu had always been a boy who advocated conservation. Xiao Wei was more casual, bought a bunch of vegetables, as well as chicken, duck and fish, saw that Xiao Wei bought too heavy, Xiao Liu reminded Xiao Wei that meat can be bought less. Hot weather can easily turn bad. But Xiao Wei wanted to buy more. If you can't finish eating, you can put it in the refrigerator and freeze it.
At Xiao Wei's insistence, she bought a lot of pork. As a result, the next day the pork was really not eaten. When Xiao Liu saw this scene, he said, you don't believe you told you not to buy so much. It's good now. If you can't finish eating, you'll throw it away and waste more. At this point, girls without emotional flexibility usually have two ways of responding. First of all, people who are completely laissez-faire will say, I bought more meat, why are you so fussy? The second emotion is very tense. They'll say, I'm sorry. I shouldn't have bought that much. Don't get angry. Girls with strong psychological toughness and flexibility will keep their emotions in a gentle state, not only will not burn each other, but will make themselves feel comfortable. They'll say, honey, you have a particularly good habit of thrifting, and I agree with that too. This time it is indeed a place where I have not thought it through, but since I have bought it, I also hope that you will not always talk about me, the next time I will have experience, this is not to see how many portions we can eat, is it not? I remembered the intention you agreed to buy when I first bought it.
You see, such an answer doesn't make you feel wronged, but it also doesn't insist that you're completely right. Also gave the boyfriend a satisfactory answer and you will pay attention to your suggestions later. Second, you can joke in front of others and not take it seriously. Of course, you also hold each other, occasionally seriously and appropriately mobilizing the emotions of both sides. I'm sure a lot of girls have had this experience. Sometimes their favorite guy or boyfriend will joke about their behavior. For example, when chatting on WeChat, the other party sends you a very ugly meme, and then jokingly says to you, hey, you see this little girl is very similar to when you cry. At this time, girls with single thoughts are easily angry. They will think that the other person's behavior is a mockery of themselves, and then turn their faces to the other person. In fact, the other party just teases the atmosphere and does not treat you as a laughingstock at all.
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If you get angry easily, the other person won't dare to talk to you in a relaxed tone a second time. In this way, the future conversations between you will become very rigid and boring. Even guys don't want the desire to chat with you. On the contrary, girls who watch emotional Q bombs will naturally bring the relaxed atmosphere to the highest point when facing jokes, if you think you don't have enough humor cells, you can take the atmosphere to the highest point, or you have no adaptability to yourself, no confidence, you come to me, I help you do a specific analysis. Third, you have to break even emotionally. Feelings are like doing business. You can't spend more than you earn, otherwise, it's a losing deal. While this sounds cheesy, in real emotional life, many girls can easily lose themselves. More importantly, they feel that they are betraying each other and letting the other take charge of their own destiny.
When the other person is happy, he is also happy. When the other party was angry, he became cautious and did not dare to cross the thunder pool. Even if the other party says cruel things in front of him, he has been paying for the other party not to leave him. In short, the message I want to convey is that my mood is yours, my body is yours, and my whole being is yours. Whatever you use, I'll give you what you want. This is a completely passive state. All girls emotionally have to remember one principle. When you try but don't get any response from the other person, stop all giving behavior. However, very few girls can do this. Many girls are still used to giving too much emotionally, which is also staged around girls every day. They plan ahead and prepare birthday surprises for each other, but the other person doesn't even have a word of thanks, let alone a birthday to celebrate. The other side spoke loudly in front of him, but he did not dare to resist.
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Convince yourself that he is strict with me, but also for my own good. When you give to the people around you, you have to ask yourself, what am I getting? Have you gotten a positive response, for example, if you made a candlelit dinner for the other person, if the other person was so touched that he even praised your delicious cooking, said that he only liked your cooking, indicated that he could show you his craft next time, let you taste his craft, and so on. If you receive such a response, you can assume that the payout of the meal is positive. Of course, it is impossible for two people in a relationship to achieve complete balance and limitation. Even if you do give you a balance, you can't make it perfectly balanced without guaranteeing accuracy. We just think it's almost okay because then we don't show that we've given 80% of the energy to the other person, but the other person has only put 10% in us, and you'll feel better when you can reasonably mobilize your emotions and balance the emotions between you.
It will slowly enter a period of stability, but after a long period of love, many people will have doubts. What if they lose their passion for a long time? With such thoughts, they began to worry about gains and losses, entering a new round of uneasiness. In fact, it is very simple to rekindle your passion with a feeling as boring as water, and after having such an idea, you will worry about personal gains and losses. Start to enter a new round of uneasiness, in fact, let the plain as water feelings rekindle the passion is very simple, remember to come to me, let me help your feelings forever in the hot love period, no longer have to suffer from gain and loss let him spoil you into a little princess, remember that you can lose the whole world, but never lose yourself in front of love, how long to let love talk, you decide. Thank you for reading, and we look forward to more exciting content in the next issue.