If you have a child, what kind of life do you want him to have? Reading thousands of books or traveling thousands of miles?
Do we want to study and enter a prestigious university as the only goal of 6 to 18 years old, as we did when we were young, or let him embrace the lovely and beautiful world around him as much as possible from an early age, contact enough people and things, broaden his horizons, and become a person with an interesting soul?
I believe that many young people will choose the latter now, because many potentials that were not explored when they were young, such as the perception of taste, the feeling of music, the feeling of beautiful scenery, etc., when they grow up, they may lose their ability to do this and become numb to everything (did you poke your heart?). ）。
Unlike most people who choose to give their children different interest classes to cultivate their abilities, Pan Tufeng from Shangrao, Jiangxi Province, chose a different growth path for his daughter Wenwen, hiking.
For Pan Tufeng, who accidentally fell in love with hiking, carrying a backpack to different places, contacting different people, and seeing different scenery is the biggest joy in life.
At around 10 a.m. on October 26, the temperature in Lhasa was 7 degrees Celsius.
In a youth hostel near the Liuwu overpass, Xiaowenwen wore only a T-shirt and was playing with her two brothers.
On the Internet, Wenwen is known as "China's smallest backpacker", because she has been hiking with her parents since she was 1 year old and 3 months old, and has now walked most of China. Compared with last year when she walked the Sichuan-Tibet line, although Wenwen's skin was still dark, her hair had grown, she had a small braid, and her appearance had become "ladylike". Yuan Duan, the mother, said that the older the daughter, the more she knows beauty. This year, Wenwen's family of four, together with her cousin, has just completed a trip to the Yunnan-Tibet Line.
As early as April 2012, from the seventh day of her daughter's birth, Pan Tufeng began to make her first effort for the strong wenwen's physique, carrying her into a basin filled with water, hoping that she would continue to familiarize herself with water after leaving the mother's body. A small man who has been practicing swimming in cold water until he is 7 months old.
When Wenwen can't walk but can only hold, Pan Tufeng will also carry a small backpack for her daughter. His purpose is self-evident, hoping that the child can become a backpacker from an early age and complete the dream of traveling the world with him.
In July 2013, when Wenwen was only one year and three months old and walking was not good, she began her first real hike in the sense of the word, and the destination was Pu'er, Yunnan.
His young Wenwen stopped and walked along the way, asking her parents for hugs from time to time. After walking to the village, the child actually started a fever, but fortunately Wenwen recovered after taking a pair of herbs caught for them by the Owner of the Hani village.
Although the first trip was not so smooth, pan Tufeng still firmly decided to choose when he saw the children's excited eyes along the way.
There is another reason for this determination, that is, Wenwen's brother. My brother was not in good health since he was a child, and sometimes he ate a candy in kindergarten, and when he came back, he would cough non-stop and could only go to the hospital for infusion. Looking at his son, who was brought too delicate, Pan Tufeng was determined to change this situation. Later, my brother also joined the hike.
▲ Wenwen and her brother
In just a few years, they have successively gone to Guangxi, Beijing, Shanghai, Shandong and other places, and spent most of the year on the road, eating wild vegetables, sleeping in tents, and walking on the road in the way of hiking + apprenticeship.
On June 13 last year, Wenwen and her father carried two backpacks, one large and one small, and began a two-month hiking tour of the Sichuan-Tibet Line.
How arduous the trip to the Sichuan-Tibet Line is, people who have been there must have been deeply touched. Mudslides, landslides, torrential rains, hail, and long walks are all extremely severe tests for adults, let alone a four-year-old child. Wen Wen's tender little feet can be bubbled, and it is common for two knees to accidentally fall!
Many people will question Pan Tufeng's parenting style, thinking that such a hiking trip is too cruel for a small child! However, looking at the tanned daughter who was strong and brave, independent and strong, Pan Tufeng knew that his choice was not wrong!
After MangKang joined his mother and brother, the family of four completed the Sichuan-Tibet Line tour half a month ahead of schedule. After arriving in Lhasa, seeing the two children having a lot of fun, the couple made another big decision - to go hiking in Nepal.
This kind of walk-and-go travel is all too familiar to Wenwen. In Pokhara, Nepal, Wenwen and her brother paraglided together, half an hour of gliding, the highest point is 1600 meters above the ground, which is the most memorable experience for 4-year-old Wenwen!
The biggest difficulty is taking the first step
Wenwen's family is from Shangrao, Jiangxi, his father Pan Tufeng only has high Chinese, he used to make money by doing physical store business to support his family, by chance, Pan Tufeng and a "donkey friend" embarked on a journey to build a Line between Yunnan and Tibet, and since then he has been out of control, at that time he began to reflect on his past way of life, and the education of his children, "In family life, the role of fathers is often missing, and children are affected, generation after generation, almost nothing has changed." Pan Tufeng wanted to change, he let her swim in the self-built small pool only 7 days after his daughter Wenwen was born, until Wenwen learned to walk and could take her to "go out", Pan Tufeng took Wenwen to run around, and specifically looked for a remote place. Let her feel the simple folk customs and harsh environment, exercise her will and physical strength.
After Wenwen's hike on the Sichuan-Tibet Line was reported by the media last year, a father in Hangzhou, Mr. Liu, contacted Pan Tufeng through the media. His daughter is about the same age as Wenwen and wants to be able to take her children out for an experience. The two agreed to meet in Kunming, and then went to South Asia, but the trip did not take place.
For the father's decision, Pan Tufeng expressed understanding, "They think about it more, and everyone's educational philosophy is different." For Pan Tufeng, his biggest expectation for his children is to be able to adapt to various harsh environments. On a map of China at home, there are many small red flags, which are where they have walked, in Lop Nur in southeastern Xinjiang, but with a circle. "The next stop we'll leave Lhasa is to go there." Lop Nur is known as the "Sea of Death", a Gobi no-man's land full of unknowns and dangers. This time, Pan Tufeng's plan was strongly opposed by relatives and friends. "The plateau has also gone, the seaside has also gone, the desert area has not been to go, I want them to see, adapt to the desert climate environment, but also let them feel the lack of water resources, know how to save water." Pan Tufeng was very determined, "We will do a full strategy, and we will not joke about the child's life." ”
Pan Tufeng said: "We want to influence more families through this kind of action of our family. Not to let all families be like us, but we do this, at least let other parents think about whether they need to change themselves, such as a healthy lifestyle; let the children also be self-reliant, such as eating and dressing themselves. ”
"The difficulties in life are not no money, no time, in fact, the biggest difficulty is to take the first step, there are gains and losses, the pace is slower, our hearts are strong enough, at this time you will find that the easiest solution is the problem of eating." 」 On this trip, Pan Tufeng also took out his 12-year-old nephew, who used to be pampered at home and learned a lot after coming out, "This trip down, I think learning is the easiest thing." The child said.
What we can give our children is the best
In the past, Pan Tufeng was bent on creating superior conditions for children, and now he thinks more - what is the best gift we can give to children? Mr. and Mrs. Pan Tufeng's answer to the reporter was: a grateful heart; the ability and confidence to adapt to the environment, accept new things, and do things; and the rules we should follow in society.
"Many people say that children are still so young that they will never remember where they went in the future. I feel that those beautiful landscapes can be perceived by them, and the fatigue of the journey can exercise their adaptability. Speaking of this, Pan Tufeng smiled.
Yuan Duan is also observing the changes in the children, "The body is getting better and better, will not cry and cry when encountering difficulties, will take the initiative to do housework, will also take the initiative to put the garbage on the road into the garbage bin, and when there are ants on the side of the road, it will remind passers-by not to step on it." On the way, he will go with his brother to clear the falling rocks on the road and will take the initiative to ask for help. The daughter is also very fast to accept new things, playing badminton, cooking, she is observing from the side, soon, learning to swim is also four or five days, four years old to learn to jump rope, the first day can jump 10, the third day can jump 30. ”
In April this year, in Laos, the family met three brothers who were studying alone in a remote county town, in addition to going to school, the 10-year-old brother washed and cooked to take care of the lives of the two younger brothers, "The house is wooden, there is no electricity, they cook their own food, go to school, very powerful." I couldn't understand what they said, but we had a lot of fun together, we were together for seven or eight days, we went to their rural home, and the motorcycle drove for a long time. 8-year-old Bai Ru described to reporters. On this trip to the Yunnan-Tibet Line, they got the help of many people, spending the night at the homes of local Tibetan compatriots, taking a ride on the road, and sending an extra dish to the boss during dinner... Bai Ru, who was in the third grade, wrote in his diary: "I will also be a loving person in the future." ”
In the past two years, there have been more times to travel and take leave, and after the leave of absence, Bai Ru has never been afraid: "Last semester, I went back to take a few days of classes to take the unit test, and the math test scored 99 points, and the Chinese test scored 89 points. "I didn't go to class in the first half of the semester, can I understand the content in the back?" "I quickly learned the previous lessons." The child's confidence and gratitude come from the heart, firm and sincere.
Why do you have such confidence? Pan Tufeng said that you can play as much as you want, and you must read carefully when reading. Pan Tufeng feels that children learn things efficiently; and the books and things come from life and nature, "They learn through their eyes and personal feelings, and the effect is definitely different." In July this year, when the family recorded the program "Opening the Door" on CCTV, the host asked Wenwen: "You go to so many places, don't you want to go home?" Wenwen replied, "Wherever you go is home." This surprised the couple that a 5-year-old child could say such a philosophical thing.
In daily life, Mr. and Mrs. Pan Tufeng will pay attention to cultivating their children's awareness of rules, such as crossing the road without running red lights, queuing up on the bus, and abiding by school regulations at school. Mr. and Mrs. Pan Tufeng believe that the children's ability to adapt to society will also be very strong.
Fame? Reject sponsors but do not exclude the media
For a long time, the "tiger father and tiger mother education" of Pan Tufeng and his wife has brought a lot of controversy. Pan Tufeng once took Wenwen to Beijing and Changsha to record TV programs, and some people began to question whether he used such an "extreme" way of education to make himself famous. Pan Tufeng does not shy away from the circle fan effect brought to him by Wenwen's title of "China's smallest backpacker", "The business is on fire." ”
For a year, at least half a year is "on the road", spending 7,000 yuan to 10,000 yuan per month, and at present, the family runs an online store that sells honey. "A year's income can basically provide us with hiking." Pan Tufeng also calculated the account for the reporter, "My son still has 10 years to adulthood, and my daughter has 13 years, and I believe that when they become adults, they can bring much more accumulation to themselves than we can leave them." So I only need to manage the expenses of the previous 10 or 13 years, we are still making money every year, I sold the house in the city as a backing, and it is enough for the family to settle in the old house. ”
After Wenwen became famous, some sponsors contacted them, "Outdoor sports, educational institutions, but I pushed it off." Pan Tufeng believes that although hiking needs financial support, once there is a sponsor, "it will restrict a lot of things, and it may not be like this, take them wherever you want." The first 'sponsorship' we received for so many years was this Trip to Yunnan, where a Tibetan grandfather in his 60s saw Wenwen and forced 5 yuan to her. We can't understand what the old man is saying, but we can see his sincerity. ”
However, Pan Tufeng does not reject media interviews, and he often forwards reports or comments about Wenwen in the circle of friends. "In fact, until now, we want to tell everyone through our own experience that many times, it is not that children can't, but adults don't give them a chance."
Here, I just want to say: "There is no best set of tutorials in education, and it is not necessarily that other people's lifestyles are suitable for you." But as long as you live happily according to your favorite lifestyle that suits you!
I thought: "Wenwen, who has traveled thousands of miles, will definitely have a deeper understanding and feeling when she sees the world depicted in the book in the future."
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