When you think of Jiang Youbai, what comes to mind?
Chiang Kai-shek's great-grandson, startup owner, Taiwan's TOP3 male god, spoiled wife for 15 years.
However, behind the winners of life, there are even people who set up a day of collapse: (Welcome to follow our Douyin account: Sydney those things or search for "mandage")
According to media exposure, in the past year, Jiang Youbai was captured by the real hammer - 15 times in marriage to cheat on female assistants.
And he also seems to have broken the jar and broken it, no longer caring about the image of a good man who had worked hard to manage before, but openly holding hands with the female assistant in and out of the hotel, without a trace of explanation and guilt for his wife and family.
Perhaps from the beginning, the "perfect husband" persona was a stepping stone to his career. When the value of his wife is squeezed out, he can finally take off his disguise and be a "prodigal son" with peace of mind.
Handsome and alienated face, impeccable figure, coupled with the identity of the aristocratic family, so that Jiang Youbai from birth to his own hardware, are women look forward to the boyfriend template.
No one expected that this TaiwanESE TOP3 male god, who claimed to be able to win all women in three days, planted his head in front of his wife Lin Jiaoyi.
This time it was he who "took the initiative" to lick the dog. After all, people are most enthusiastic about the story of the "prodigal son returning".
Lin Xiaoyi is a model who has starred in the traffic drama "Lavender Love" and is well-known in the entertainment industry. Her father is a Taiwanese medical saint, who is well-known in the industry and has countless connections.
Jiang Youbai first met Lin Jiaoyi, and in his words, it was "love at first sight".
Lin Jiaoyi, who is accustomed to seeing the sound and color dog Andma Vanity Fair, is different from the girl who Jiang Youbai once interacted with, and her whole body exudes a mud and not stained temperament.
However, the title of the "fourth generation of the Jiang family" did not impress Lin Jiaoyi, after all, Jiang Youbai was a famous prodigal son.
In order to pursue his beloved, Jiang Youbai adopted a dead-end model: in the first six months, he only won two opportunities to send her home, and then asked for the other party's mobile phone number, frequently sent flowers and gifts, and expressed his admiration.
Lin Went to Singapore to study music, so he put down his job and rented a house near the other party to "accompany the study".
Probably no girl could refuse this kind of affectionate attack, and a year later, Lin Xiaoyi finally agreed to communicate.
However, in addition to those labels and perseverance, does Jiang Youbai have any other shining points?
It is a pity that although Jiang Youbai kept the blood of the nobles, he fell to the nobles. When he first met Lin Xiaoyi, he had nothing but poverty.
After the decline of the Chiang family in Taiwan, Jiang Youbai's father and his family went to live in the United States. The sudden death of his father made Jiang Youbai's life falter, and there was little left of his savings.
Perhaps for Jiang Youbai at that time, the change of life made his sense of security and vanity plummet, and he needed to grasp a life-saving straw.
When the two were together, Jiang Youbai's monthly salary was about four thousand. During the cohabitation period, the rent was paid by Lin Jiaoyi, and the degree of eating and wearing was almost all paid by the woman.
There are no ceremonies or rings for even the proposal. And Jiang Youbai's explanation for this is that-
"I'm not a romantic person".
Jiang Youbai, who has an aura in the air, is now an "invisible phoenix man".
Love, perhaps, can only make up for his emptiness. And a well-off wife can comfort his uneasiness.
After getting married, Lin Xiaoyi knows how to perceive her husband's anxiety very well, she chose to take the initiative to fade out of the entertainment circle, teach her husband and children at home, and the whole family has 9 dogs, two cats and other animals are carefully cared for by her wife.
This dedication to the family is the same as that of a few years ago, when I accepted my lost husband, and wholeheartedly created a stable and reliable harbor for him, and did not expect anything in return.
We thought it would be a marriage that everyone envied. Lin Xiaoyi longs for a quiet and good life after her retreat, and does not want herself and her family to be disturbed by the outside world.
However, Jiang Youbai, who accused the media of consuming his wife, talked about his pet wife experience in the program.
In Jiang Youbai's mouth, he lives a two-point and one-line life between the company and his family every day.
He would strictly implement the plan on the schedule: every afternoon he would go home to spend time with his wife and children, and even on a business trip, he would fly back to Taiwan that night to accompany his family.
At the same time, his emotional intelligence is not generally high. In the face of a series of "survival questions" tests, the answers are always watertight and easy.
For example, Cai Kangyong quipped: If you get married, you can get a divorce. He patted his chest and said, "You can't leave when you're married!" ”
For example, when asked about ex-girlfriends, he hit the nail on the head:
"It's all wrong before marriage, it's the only thing after marriage."
"There are only two women in my life, one is a wife and the other is a daughter."
Men who are not connected with their predecessors are certainly valuable, but when the attitude reaches the point of paranoia or even deformity, it makes people wonder.
For me, ex-girlfriends are all.
Terrible, even women do not know how to respect the man, will really be a pampering wife, and responsible and responsible husband?
After all, it is not so easy to let the prodigal son who once spent a lot of time and wine and lights turn back.
Someone said, "No matter how nice a man is to you when he loves you, that's not character, it's him pleasing himself." After the passion, his face to you is his true character. ”
What is Jiang Youbai's "face" in marriage?
Answer: Businessman.
In that era when there was no concept of "human design", Jiang Youbai had already smelled a trace of business opportunities in his marriage. In an interview, he admitted frankly:
"Marriage is an investment."
For him, the girls he could chase in three days were low-cost, low-payoff games. Chasing a wife for a year is a high-cost, high-return business.
He was a vested interest in this investment, and the "good man" persona brought countless fame and fortune to his career and fame.
Gradually, his attitude toward his wife also changed subtly over time:
Jiang Youbai, who once said that "marriage is the coolest thing in life".
It didn't take long to change his mouth: "In fact, after six or seven years of this kind of life, it will be very tired." ”
More than ten years ago, nine out of ten sentences were inseparable from his wife and family. At that time, his career was just getting started, and the startup was also in the ascendant under the promotion of this wave of good men.
But now, when the dividends squeezed from his spoiled wife are trending towards a decreasing boundary, he doesn't even bother to act, and even breaks the jar.
When asked about the problem of marriage without a third party, he who once said that he had spent the rest of his life was Lin Jiayi, and finally told the truth: "Two points and one line of life, too busy to have time." ”
Ironically, the third party in this marriage is indeed a female assistant who is close at hand.
The so-called "businessmen value profits over separation", more or less.
In an interview with Forbes, the reporter asked Jiang Youbai:
"In college, you also lived a life of indulgence, what force made you change?"
Jiang Youbai replied: "When there are no resources, the background is invalid, the human feelings are no longer there, the patrons disappear, and they are about to sit and eat the mountains, people will change." ”
This sentence seems to be "truth", but it can be said in reverse:
If you have resources, an effective background, the same human feelings, and a prominent patron, does Jiang Youbai still need to bend the knee to play a "good man"?
Looking back at Jiang Youbai's Jedi's road to life, it is probably:
From a rich and powerful brother with a prominent background to a lonely nobleman who paralyzed himself with lights and wine, when Lin Jiayi pulled him out of the mud of life, she gave him tolerance and understanding, and accompanied him through the most uneasy time of his life.
The appearance of Lin Jiaoyi is actually a turning point in Jiang Youbai's life. But no one could have imagined that behind Jiang Youbai, who had countless auras, he was actually wrapped up in the soul of the "Phoenix Man".
After all, the mention of the three words "Phoenix Man" has allowed too many people to see the indifference of human nature:
Just like someone said on the zhihu -
The phoenix man thrives in the harsh bad situation, steps through thousands of troops and horses into the city, must have seen the ugliness you have not seen, experienced the suffering you have not experienced, all of which makes him a person with a very hard heart, a strong appearance and a sensitive heart, because for him, survival is the first.
So now I understand the tears he saved, the hard way he tried to be nice to you, the drama that he didn't marry and couldn't live without you, just because you can improve his living standards.
For thousands of Lin Sisters, since they chose to accept you in the first place, they are ready to accompany you through a long and hard life. Even self-sacrifice, even at the expense of self-denial, is not resigned.
However, when your career is "thriving" and I am "standing still" for the sake of my family and becoming the so-called "wife of chaff", you abandon me and betray me.
After all, Lin Jiayi, who is a "wife", is not a "pawn" of Jiang Youbai.
Unfortunately, there are too many such lessons around us:
Most wives get married and will find ways to be a "good wife". And too many men, after getting married, forget how to be a truly qualified "good husband".
Behind the 15 cheating female assistants, Jiang Youbai and Lin Jiayi's understanding of marriage is completely different.
One is an exquisite egoist, and the other is dead set at a distance from the hustle and bustle.
For Jiang Youbai: the initial dead love is actually three minutes of heat. The much-hyped sweet marriage is nothing more than a self-moving game. And the motivation to constantly establish the label of a good man puts the marriage that should be honest and honest in the chain of interests that will never be recovered.
Utilitarianism accelerates the internal friction of this marriage, and eventually makes the romantic love story a bubble of heroic shortness of breath.
What he didn't know was that marriage was actually a process of "building a tower.".
The moment you get married, it means that you need to get rid of those selfish intentions that are eager for quick success. Instead, with a reverential and sincere mentality, focusing on and sensitively maintaining each other, and finally completing a balanced, seamless, strong, and beautiful "lifetime".
To this day, Lin Has never appeared to respond to her husband's cheating.
Perhaps she is watching Jiang Youbai's self-directed self-directed self-performance lightly and dignifiedly, or she is calmly drinking a cup of tea and seeking a moment of tranquility.
After all, "tranquility and composure, no Fuck said" is probably the most complete disappointment of a woman for the person she once loved.