Life, as we have discovered, is too difficult for us: it brings us so much pain, disappointment and hard work. In order to endure life, we cannot live without buffer measures: powerful diversion, which makes us ignore our suffering; alternative satisfaction, which alleviates our suffering; the method of intoxication, which makes us dull and numb to suffering.
Confusion is a motivator that inspires you to search and move forward. In the journey of life, those things that confuse you not only test your patience and disrupt your life, but also torture you physically and mentally. On the other hand, however, it is precisely because of the existence of confusion that you will be more interested in exploring life and exploring the world. When you finally get the answer, you can't help but be grateful for the confusion that has tormented you to death.
Confusion is not necessarily a bad thing, for a person with thinking power, it is the things that confuse him one by one, so that he can play his imagination again and again, actively seek, in order to make breakthroughs and realize the value and meaning of life. However, all positive results depend on your attitude and behavior in the face of confusion.
The same confusion, faced with different attitudes, the results will be very different. Take the familiar discovery of gravity, the apple fell on Newton's head, Newton scratched his head and thought, what happened to this apple, why must it fall down? And it just hit you on the head? For the second confusion, he quickly figured it out, because it was a complete coincidence that he was standing under the apple.
How can the first confusion be explained? Why does apples fall down, and why not go up? For ordinary people, they usually think that apples have weight, naturally they have to fall down, and it is not normal not to fall down! With this self-justifying answer, he smiled and ate the apple that hit him on the head. At the same time, the confusion is gone.
A great discovery of "gravity" just melted into a bubble with an apple. Therefore, human beings should be thankful that the apple is not only smashed on the heads of ordinary people, but also on the heads of Newton. Instead of eating the confused apple, he watched it fall into deep thought, and perhaps he would re-demonstrate it with the apple, and then replace the apple with other fruits and utensils, and the result was the same, all falling downwards.
"Gravity" is obtained in such a constant search. A trivial confusion, but a miracle in a genius. Knowing the "gravitational force", Newton began to think about how a person can get rid of the gravitational force of the earth, and what speed should be reached to escape this gravitational force. So the "first cosmic speed" also got the answer in his constant search.
Newton had enough reason to thank the "apple landing" for the fact that a small confusion had made a generation of physics masters. In the face of confusion, how do you do it? I believe that many people will choose to bypass the "confusion" and think why should they live with themselves! However, even if you get around too much confusion, many questions will still bother you, and you will naturally not be grateful for the confusion.
Unfortunately, until many years later, many people are still guarding the question that has puzzled them for a long time. You can't put your hopes on others to solve problems, because even as a sage, there are problems that can't be answered. Solving the puzzle requires you to constantly seek it out for yourself. Only by actively seeking out and looking for answers to things that confuse you can you gain greater revelation and discovery.
The things that confuse you are a motivator that inspires you to keep searching and moving forward. If you despise it and run away from it, then you will miss out on possible successes. That being the case, what reason do you have not to appreciate the things that confuse you?
For most people in reality, failure means a collapse, it is an extremely torturous thing, so they are reluctant to deal with "failure", and even full of fear and disgust for it. However, the truth is that everyone will inevitably meet with it unexpectedly, the most common such as the failure of further education, the failure of work, the failure of love, the failure of marriage and so on. So, how should we view failure? Whether it is complaining about avoidance or gratitude to greet, different choices will have different effects on a person's life.
In fact, failure or success is only a temporary state. And, for those who succeed, it is failure that makes him soberly aware of the wrong choices he made and the problems that exist now. From their failures, they suddenly woke up and had a more correct understanding of themselves and the outside world. Therefore, they are not afraid of failure, but are full of gratitude.
We should not think of failure as a pejorative term, because, more appropriately, failure is a proof. As for what is proved, it is related to everyone's cognition and mentality. Failure, some people feel hopeless, so pessimistic, give up; some people let go in time, change direction; some people find problems from it, learn from experience, and then get up and continue to move forward. For the latter two, awakening is the best gift they receive, and the fact of failure itself becomes a byproduct. When they joyfully accept the gift of failure, they will say "thank you" to it from the bottom of their hearts.
For those who excel, failure is often their greatest opportunity. When they fail, they suddenly wake up, and either find the key to the problem or realize the wisdom of survival. Every time failure comes, they are full of joy and extreme excitement. As it is called: fail and be happy.
Martial arts star Bruce Lee has been practicing martial arts since he was a child, and by the time he was 20 years old, he was already a stuntman. In a combative and combative competition, he has never tasted defeat, and there is no one around him to be his opponent, even Kimura of karate Sandan has no ability to fight back in front of him. It is naturally normal for around the age of 20 to have such a good job, and it is natural to have a mentality of arrogance, arrogance, and emptiness. He even felt that he was already the first master of no one to beat.
If it were not for the series of failures that followed, I am afraid that that arrogance and arrogance would accompany Bruce Lee throughout his life. The appearance of Okao Yamamoto, a Japanese karate master, has made the arrogant man suffer a lot. After a trick with Okao Yamamoto, Bruce Lee was dumbfounded, he couldn't hit, he couldn't kick, and his strengths were in front of him and he couldn't play it. Bruce Lee, who failed miserably, was very unconvinced, and went to the martial arts hall to find out, only to be stumped by an iron man. Allowing him to punch and kick, the Iron Man did not move at all, and as soon as Okao Yamamoto moved, the Iron Man lay on the ground.
Bruce Lee was again defeated by Okao Yamamoto. At this time, he suddenly woke up and clearly realized the gap between himself and a real master. His mind was no longer fanatical, and he finally knew how to calm down and think about the problem. From then on, he put aside his arrogance and immersed himself in learning martial arts from various masters.
Later, he had the idea of creating a new kind of boxing, that is, the Chinese kung fu "cut boxing" that later swept the world. In order to realize this ideal, he actively asked others for advice, even at the expense of playing a provocative sign of "willing to accept any challenge from anyone at any time, any place". Knowing that he would fail, he had to do so, and he was grateful for the opponent who could defeat him, which was Bruce Lee. It was with the mentality of competing and learning that in 1964, at the National Karate Competition in California, the 24-year-old swept all the players and won the championship.
It can be said that Bruce Lee's breakthrough in martial arts is inseparable from his awakening after two failures. It can be said that without these two lessons, there would be no achievements in martial arts in the future. Therefore, for these progress, he had to thank Okao Yamamoto, who made him lose again and again. It was the failure that made him suddenly wake up, know how to face the game with a normal mentality, and face the opponent with a peaceful attitude. At the same time, he also began to understand how to empty his mind of complacency and distractions during the game, and actively discover his own shortcomings and the strengths of others.
Therefore, failures in life are not necessarily bad things. Failure is like a rope, strong people can use it to climb to the peak; failure is like wind and rain, which will make people cultivate a strong physique and strong will in the wind and rain; failure is like a mirror, which can make people find their own shortcomings and make up for shortcomings.
Failure is also a harvest, but also a precious part of life. We often say that "failure is the mother of success", and if a person wants to achieve breakthroughs and success, he must first have the courage not to be afraid of failure, and even to be grateful for those who have experienced failures.
Failure is a test of a person's personality, and how much inner strength is there in a situation where everything except life has been lost? Do you have the courage to keep fighting? If a person thinks he has failed, then all his abilities will disappear. And only those who are not afraid, brave to move forward, and never give up their responsibilities will have great progress in their lives. Sometimes the environment can be changed, as long as you are not self-pity or dejected, but treat everything with tenacious faith, you can create a brilliant future for yourself.
Napoleon's life as a child was very hard. His father was a corsican aristocrat, and although he was later impoverished by the family's misfortune, his father was still arrogant as a nobleman, and still raised money from many sources to send Napoleon to an aristocratic school in Berlin to maintain the dignity of his family. But most of the students at that school were well-off and well-fed, and Napoleon himself was very poorly clothed and very poor, so he was often bullied and ridiculed by the children of the nobility.
At first, he reluctantly endured the arrogance of his classmates. But then he couldn't bear it, so he wrote a letter to his father, complaining about his suffering.
The letter said: "Because of poverty, I have been ridiculed and ridiculed by my classmates, and I really don't know how to deal with those arrogant classmates." In fact, they just have a few more stinky money than me, and in terms of ideology and morality, they are far inferior to me. Do I have to live a low-pitched life in front of these extravagant and arrogant idiots? ”
His father's reply was only two short sentences: "We are poor or poor, but you have to continue reading there." When you succeed, everything will change. ”
In this way, he continued to attend that school for 5 years until graduation. In these 5 years, he suffered all kinds of bullying and humiliation from his classmates, but every time he was bullied and humiliated, his morale increased by one point, and he was determined to show them the final victory.
Of course, achieving this goal is not easy, so what did Napoleon do?
He could only secretly plan in his heart, and decided to work hard and enrich himself so that he could gain power, wealth, and honor far above those stupid children in the future.
Soon, however, Napoleon suffered another serious blow: at the age of 20, his arrogant father died.
There were only two people left in the family, him and his mother. At that time, he was just a second lieutenant, and the salary he earned was only enough for the mother and son to make ends meet.
In the ranks, due to his weak physique and poor family, he was despised everywhere, not only his superiors were reluctant to promote him, but even his colleagues looked down on him.
Therefore, while his companions used their leisure time to entertain, he worked alone, putting all his energy on books, hoping to compete with them with knowledge. Fortunately, reading was as smooth as breathing for him, and he could borrow the reading materials he needed from the libraries without any cost, and obtain valuable knowledge from the books.
Napoleon's reading had a clear purpose, and he did not read ordinary and useless books to relieve his boredom, but concentrated on the books that would make him successful. His "study" was a stuffy and small burrow, where he studied tirelessly all year round.
In his loneliness, sweltering heat, and cold, he never stopped studying for several years, and the abstracts extracted from various books alone could be printed into a huge book of more than four thousand pages.
In addition, he regarded himself as the commander-in-chief who was commanding the battle on the front line, regarded Corsica as a place of contention between the two sides in a bloody battle, drew the most detailed map of the local area, used extremely accurate mathematical methods, calculated the distance between various places, and marked how a certain place should be defended, and how a certain place should be attacked.
This kind of practice greatly improved his military knowledge, and finally won the appreciation of his superiors, providing him with a path to promotion.
His superiors learned of his talents and promoted him to military instructor, specializing in various courses that required accurate calculations, and the results were very good.
From then on, he was gradually recognized until he attained the highest power in the country.
Truly great people don't mind the so-called successes and failures of the world. They do not rejoice in things, nor grieve with themselves. No matter how much disappointment such people face, they will never be discouraged, and they will eventually win the final victory.
Truly great people do not mind the so-called successes and failures of the world, and they do not like things or grieve for themselves. No matter how much disappointment such people face, they will never be discouraged, and they will eventually win the final victory.