When living with our elders, we can always hear the phrase "I have walked more roads than you have eaten rice". Indeed, because everyone's way of life is different, we can't go through every fork in the road, and thankfully, although many forks we can't step on, there are already elders who have walked the thorny road for us. Perhaps, because of the different times and the environment in which they live, their experiences do not necessarily apply to us, but their life experiences are worth learning and thinking about.
Just like the saying that "people are greedy for three things, their lives are busy in vain", which is full of the wisdom of the older generation and the advice to future generations.
belongings
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3" > greedy for money and disregarding relatives</h1>
The ancients "a gentleman loves money, there is a way to get it", money as an external thing, has always been a contradiction, so although we often admire people who "regard money as dung", we can't get around the dilemma of no money and difficult to walk.
In today's life, we always seem to be living in a lost way. On the one hand, in order to bring happiness to their families, many people desperately go out to work, but with the departure of young adults, can left-behind children and widows and the elderly really have happiness to speak of? And some people even quarrel with relatives and friends for money, and in the end both sides are not flattered, and finally end up with a desolate end.
In "The Case of Side Beauty", there is such a character as Chen Shimei.
Originally, Chen Shimei was born in poverty, and after marrying Qin Xianglian, although the two had a hard life, they also lived happily and harmoniously. As an ancient literati, Chen Shimei studied hard for ten years, and his wife did not abandon it, and has been running a life for her. After entering Beijing to take the exam, Chen Shimei was hand-picked by Song Renzong as a champion, but what he did not expect was that trouble also came.
It turned out that although Emperor Renzong of Song recruited Chen as a champion, he wanted him to become a donkey, and the princess could not marry as a concubine, so Chen Shimei could only lie that there was no marriage match. In the face of his wife and status, Chen Shimei decisively chose status. After becoming a pawn horse, he not only refused to recognize his wife and children, but also wanted to send someone to kill his wife and children. Under Chen Shimei's black box operation, his wife and children were exiled and almost died in the end of the world.
Fortunately, he was saved by Bao Zheng and Zhan Zhao, and after a struggle, Bao Zheng faced the power and struggled to obtain evidence of the crime, and under the obstruction of the princess and the empress, he forcibly sent Chen Shimei to the tiger head and returned Qin Xianglian's mother and son justice. In this way, Chen Shimei has become a typical example of abandoning his wife and son for the sake of money and status, and has been spurned by posterity.
Chen Shimei
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="10" > drunkards and ignore people</h1>
Since Shaokang brewed wine, wine has become an indispensable item in people's dietary life. At first, sake brewing was originally only used for sacrifice, but with the popularization of sake, sake has gradually become a favorite of people.
As early as the Shang and Zhou Dynasties, some ancients mentioned that since the appearance of alcohol, prison lawsuits began to become frequent. Nowadays, we often say that drinking is wrong, so people often advocate "drinking pleasantly, drinking heavily and hurting the body". Drinking alcohol is originally just a small thing, but getting drunk is a hidden danger.
Just as we often joke about the rule of "drinking and not driving, driving without drinking", it is not only a constraint on people's behavior, it is also a responsibility to the family. After all, once there is a disaster because of alcohol, then the saddest thing is not necessarily you, but the family that has always supported each other.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="14" > greedy</h1>
Confucius said that "a gentleman is lustful and not obscene", Mencius also said "food color, sex also", from the remarks of the two sages, we can also see the ancient people's attitude towards beauty. Being born as a human being, eating delicious food, and liking good-looking things are all perfectly normal, but you must restrain yourself a little and not indulge in sex.
And when it comes to lust, it is impossible not to mention Song Duzong Zhao Yu.
When Zhao Yu ascended the throne, the people of the Southern Song Dynasty were already suffering. However, this Southern Song Dynasty emperor was good, and after ascending the throne, he delegated all his power to the traitor jia Xiangdao, and hid in the harem all day, drunkenly dreaming of death in the beauty.
If Zhao Yu is in good health, it will be enough, but unfortunately, Zhao Yu was born and almost died, and he was weak and sickly since he was a child, and his intelligence was worse than that of ordinary people. But he was good, not only did he not rest his body, but his life became more and more absurd. Regarding his absurd experience, there is a passage in the "General Book of The Continuation of Zizhi" that records that "the emperor himself is the prince, to be good at hearing inside; to stand still, to be drunk." The story, the concubine enters the palace, the morning is the door of thanksgiving, and the lord writes his moon and day. And at the beginning of the emperor, there were more than thirty people who thanked the benevolent people in one day. ”
It is also very simple to understand, this Zhao official's family was not honest when he was the prince, and his reputation was far and wide. After he ascended the throne, he became even more unscrupulous, taking countless concubines, and even more than thirty palace women in one night.
It was also such a ridiculous experience that this Song Duzong was emperor for ten years and died at the age of 35. After his death, the Song Dynasty also perished within a few years, and although the hat of the subjugation of the country was not his, it had nothing to do with him.
Greed
Greed for money and disregard for relatives, greed for wine and disregard for people, greed for sex and disregard for the body is exactly what the older generation said about the three greeds in life, and this sentence is still applicable today. After all, the corresponding is what we often call "wine color wealth", in these four things, wine is intestinal poison, color is scraping bone steel knife, wealth is the downhill tiger, qi is the root of trouble.