Before writing about magic to defeat magic, we must first talk about Fang Zhanbo.
A male protagonist whose audience is not as fond of Ding Crab and Ding Xiao Crab is also drunk.
But the role of Fang Zhanbo, aside from his magic to defeat magic, his character and choice of love are very real. (Ding Crab and Ding Xiao Crab's view of love is too extreme, we will talk about it later)
In 1944, Zhang Ailing wrote a "Red Rose and White Rose", from a woman's point of view, she issued a sigh that "fish and bear paws can not be combined", and she concluded that no matter which one she chose, she would think of the other in her heart, without exception.
However, for men, what is so delicate and so complicated? Four words are enough to summarize -
"I want it all."
not...... It's not impossible. Truth be told.
But I'm actually happier to see Nguyen Mei and Long Jiwen together...
Psychologically, there is a Enneagram test, one of which is called "avoidant personality".
The so-called avoidant personality refers to "the avoidant behavior pattern that shows emotion and intimacy in intimate relationships."
Perhaps because of the trauma of his childhood, Fang Zhanbo did an apprentice in the electrical appliance shop, ran away from home and slept at the bottom of the overpass, he escaped from Sister Ling, stayed away from his three younger sisters, did not want to face everything in the past, and slept into a waster.
His rejection and alienation from family affection is actually a kind of "learned helplessness", closing himself off so as not to be hurt again, because "closeness" will evoke the deepest pain of his childhood. (Commonly known as tired and not loving)
This situation began to improve after he met Ruan Mei. (Some people say that after meeting Ye Tian, it is also true, when meeting Ye Tian, Zhan Bo is not only an improvement, it can be said that there has been a very big change)
I can understand why Zhan Bo gradually fell in love with Ruan Mei, and I also loved me.
Ruan Mei can catch all the emotions and machismo of Zhan Bo, she burns a good dish and saves a good hand of money, like a silk grass, will not put pressure on Zhan Bo, but she has never been far away.
Ruan Mei is not the daughter of a rich family, but when Zhan Bo needs money, she can also get the money, that money is her hard work and saving, spend it with peace of mind and rest assured; Ruan Mei is gentle and kind, speaking softly, laughing sweet and shy, she gave Zhan Bo the longest affectionate companionship, will not leave because of Zhan Bo's madness, nor will she be full of complaints because Zhan Bo is poor; do not question, do not complain, do not give orders, Zhan Bo has been there, zhan Bo does not need her silently disappeared...
The two are happy with each other, expensive and natural, and for the loose and habitual Zhanbo, there is too much need for such a person who can give him a complete sense of security. (Who doesn't need it?)
I love a soft woman like Ruan Mei, and I also like a girl as hot and enthusiastic as Long Jiwen.
Fang Zhanbo and Long Jiwen do not fight and do not know each other, from the perspective of the original family, they have a very similar childhood - the early death of the mother, the lack of a father, a teenager was sent to an apprentice to taste the warmth and coldness of human feelings, a teenager was driven out of the house with a lot of money to live his own life, selfish and rude boy bumped into a neurotic big miss, it can be said that it is a routine novel official with a male and female protagonist.
Fang Zhanbo's way of dealing with the shadows of childhood is to freeze his heart, and on the outside he seems to be so hanging and idle; Long Jiwen exposes the strong uneasiness in his heart to unstable emotions and hysteria.
From the beginning, the two of them were one on the run and the other in pursuit.
However, they can "go crazy" together at will, and the work of the partner is quite in tune.
She is his confidant with a red face, and a good girl who is willing to be wronged and help him for him in addition to Ruan Mei.
For the choice of love, many people feel that Fang Zhanbo is "scum", saying that he just enjoys the blessings of qi people, while marrying Ruan Mei as a wife, he is reluctant to let go of Long Jiwen.
But is the choice really that easy to make?
Fang Zhanbo did not mean it, he was destined to invest very little in love, and he did not have time to fall into the confusion of love. It's not so much that he doesn't know how to make a decision, but that he's looking for a dynamic balance in the process of "doing nothing."
Selfish? Very selfish. But Ruan Mei and Long Jiwen first met such a selfish Fang Zhanbo. (He didn't start acting selfless and responsible, and then vacillating to deceive these two women, he was this virtue from the beginning.) The reason why many scumbags are called scumbags is not that he has failed the hearts of women, but that scumbags are a liar by nature [sad])
Fang Zhanbo's selfishness is an instinctive reaction, loving this kind of thing is too luxurious for him, he doesn't even know how to love himself, how can he give Ruan Mei or Long Jiwen?
So many things themselves, from different perspectives, have different interpretations. This also just explains why Zhan Bo chose Ruan Mei in the end, because Ruan Mei's acceptance range ensures the dynamic balance.
Say that Fang Zhanbo has a heart for whom, or who has true feelings for whom, emmm... Thinking more, he loves stocks more.
Love accounts for a small proportion in a man's world, and can even be said to be a very small part. Men are a highly social animal, and love or family is nothing more than a place where they do not have to be defensive and can completely relax.
And just as men only think from a man's point of view, women tend to look at things with a woman-specific mindset. If women cannot understand the differences caused by gender differences, and cannot expand the degree of acceptance to the range of smooth and comfortable getting along with the two, then the outbreak of contradictions is inevitable.
If you can't accept it all and are struggling with pain, you may wish to try to treat the other party with the same practice of the other party. (Not that this will not lead to contradictions, of course, it is also possible to end up without a disease [dog's head])
However, if you are trapped in "self-grasping" and trap yourself, why bother?
At the end, Fang Zhanbo won the final showdown by "borrowing luck" from the three big men, a scene that many people ridiculed as "magic".
In fact, the so-called "borrowing luck" is that it took Fang Zhanbo a full 7 years to gradually recognize the gear driven by the times, and Ruan Mei, who may die of illness at any time, is the lead that prompted Fang Zhanbo to borrow power to fight in the way of gambling stud.
In this ending, Long Jiwen's father, Long Chengbang, died because he fell into the whole family to buy and fell, and he could not withstand the blow, and there is a clip that I don't know if everyone remembers:
Ji Wen called Ruan Mei, anxious and panicked: "The stock market has risen sharply! Abo asked my dad to buy the fall, do you know if he himself also bought the fall? What to do! ”
And Ruan Mei said that he did not know, but his heart was very determined: "Abo will not buy the fall, he will definitely buy the rise." ”
why? Why is it that The sister who is so timid and spends a dollar in half is so calm this time?
Because she knows Zhan Bo too well.
Even in the past when the mountains and rivers were exhausted and it was clearly expected that they would get rich by buying and falling, Zhan Bo did not do this.
The money to buy and get rich is bloody... Fang Jinxin would not allow his son to do this, and Fang Zhanbo would certainly not allow him to do so.
Ruan Mei found Zhan Bo on the stock exchange, and the two embraced each other and cried, she said: "I just know!" I know you're going to buy liters! ”
Long Jiwen looked at the two of them from a distance, extremely sad, and silently left...
The long review of the Hong Kong drama "Big Time" is also nearing the end, and the follow-up will update some side plots that everyone has mentioned many times in the comments (such as Xiaoting Love) from time to time.
The next no.1 "Big House Gate" that plans to comment on CCTV for a long time, there are fans who have seen it and like this drama, we must discuss it together
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