Next door people live with an old man with Alzheimer's disease, a wall is not soundproof, every three to five can hear a man full of breath to him scolding: tell you not to go to the toilet alone, how can not remember, and fell again! Or: there is no urine, no urine, what are you doing here!
Forgive me for not hearing this on purpose, and forgive me for not doing anything after hearing this. A few times I wanted to knock on his door and tell my impatient son
Don't treat him like this, he didn't mean to make mistakes, he just couldn't remember what you said. He is your father, an old man whose life is about to die, not your pet, not your burden.
But sorry, I didn't do anything, there was nothing I could do about it.
The increasing aging of the population is a problem that every old man today and young people in the future must face, and in the book "Meet Tuesday", there is a dying old man who inquires about all things about life and death.
The author of the book is American Mitch, who, before he learned that his college teacher Morrie was ill, was busy doing media work every day, jumping around like a clown with his tired body, without knowing what the goal was.
When he accidentally learned of Morrie's physical condition and went to visit, and saw his teacher again sixteen years after graduation, he suddenly remembered that when he was in college, he regarded money as a sin, suits and ties as shackles, and he had vowed to live a free and beautiful ideal paradise life.
However, he has been going against the grain.
So the old professor became his mentor again, and the two of them discussed the meaning of life once a week, about Tuesday.
The elderly Morrie suffered from als, commonly known as "frostbite", and another person suffering from this disease that everyone is not unfamiliar with, is the genius physicist Hawking, who has passed away.
Like Hawking, Morrie's sober mind was imprisoned in a fragile sick body; like Hawking, Morrie knew that the days to come were short and worthless, and he wanted to deliver the wisdom he had experienced in his life before his life was over.
I couldn't help but think of the literature class that Mr. Mu Xin once held for a group of artistic youth, Chen Danqing said: The teacher taught me to no longer be afraid of the world. For Mickey, Morrie's fourteen life lessons also taught him to stop being afraid of the world.
On the first day of the reunion, Old Man Morrie discussed with him what death was all about.
death. What a terrible word, Chinese generally do not talk about this heavy topic, as if once they open their mouths, the secret god of death will be awakened by us and will stare at us.
The frail Morrie pointedly pointed out that everyone knew they were going to die, but no one wanted to believe this fact.
Why is it so hard to think about death? Because most people live in dreams, never really experience the world, just be in a state of confusion, doing self-righteous things.
Once listening to Mr. Wu Bofan's class, he said that when Jobs learned that he only had two years left, his eyes changed. In the few remaining moments of his life, he took time firmly into his own hands, creating the iPhone 4 and 4s, changing the world once again before the world took him.
Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.
This is not preaching, how can old Morrie, who even gasps and talk, have the kung fu to preach to people? He simply did his best to unfold his cerebral cortex and unabated emotions, like an ideal father, giving his children one last lesson.
For fourteen weeks, they talked about the world, self-pity, regret, death, family, feelings, fear of aging, money, the eternity of love, marriage, culture, forgiveness, a perfect day, and the last lesson: the funeral.
Regarding the concern for the world, Old Man Morrie said: It is precisely because I am suffering that it is easier to think of people who are more miserable than me. How to give love to others and to receive love is the most important thing in life.
Regarding money, he said: "We have established a false value, which creates a sense of disillusionment and loss in life.
On love and marriage, he said: Marriage requires respect, compromise, honesty and shared values. Not loving each other is like death.
Witty words flashed between the lines, standing face to face and staring at his death, and the humor of the old man could be seen everywhere.
I was touched by the old man's love and nostalgia for the human world, amazed by his bravery and transparency of death, and excited by his freedom to use himself as a classroom specimen, washing, dissecting, and explaining.
Of course, he would also cry bitterly because of the torment of illness and the increasingly restricted body, those times that did not belong to Tuesday, where the old professor was struggling to breathe in places where others could not see.
But only for a short time, Morrie said, "I only let myself be sad for a little while, to see the pain, to feel the pain, and then to be detached."
Don't listen to the sound of leaves beating through the forest, why not groan and walk slowly.
The old professor showed us an attitude towards the end of life, making us believe that everyone is a wave, and when the float is about to crash into the coast, it does not mean that it will be destroyed, but it will return to the mother's most primitive embrace.
The waves are part of the sea and we are part of nature.
When we cry for our lost loved ones, don't forget that there is one less person in the world who loves us, but we may as well continue to love them.
And when they are still alive and need our love and care, we must not miss this opportunity not to come back.
How to love, how to be loved, how to live, how to die, is the subject of everyone's life.
This lesson never ends.
Text/Old Wang Xie