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Plato once said:
"When love taps on the shoulder, even a man who usually disdains poetry will become a poet."
If a man truly loves you, he will do everything in his power to be good to you, willing to give everything for you, and look forward to spending the rest of his life with you.
And a man who only takes you as a lover will only coax you when he needs you and perfunctory you when he dislikes you.
Whether a man treats you as a lover or a lover depends on whether he gives you these three things.
01. Expose his vulnerability
Everyone has a vulnerable side, and men are no exception.
The exception is that men don't easily reveal their vulnerability, especially in front of their lover.
For men, a lover is a pleasure at first sight, a show.
He will package himself as an omnipotent and perfect image, so as to gain the adoration and affection of his lover.
But the lover is completely different.
In the hearts of men, a lover is a long-term companion and a lifelong family.
In front of his lover, he will remove his guards and disguises and show his completely true self.
He will share happiness with his lover, and he will confide his sorrow to his lover; He will share his success with his lover and talk about his failure to his lover.
He is a man who stands tall in front of his lover, and he is also a fragile and helpless child.
He is always ready to shield his lover from the wind and rain, and often longs for his lover's understanding and care.
Just like Qian Zhongshu, when he was most helpless, he would confide in Yang Wei like a child.
He didn't mind revealing his truest side in front of Yang Wei, because he had no distance from Yang Wei's heart.
Very much agree with the sentence:
"Lover to man is exploitation; Lover to a man is trust; Lover to man is for a while, lover to a man is the rest of his life. ”
When a man is willing to share his heart with you, especially vulnerability, then you are not only his lover, but also someone he will cherish for the rest of his life.
02. Give his heart
In the TV series "Menghualu", poor scholar Ouyang Xu was rescued by Zhao Paner because he fell off the list many times and jumped into the river to commit suicide.
After that, Pan'er used the money he earned from opening a tea shop to fund him to participate in the imperial examination again, and the two became in love for a long time and made a private lifelong agreement.
Later, Ouyang Xu visited the flower in high school and wanted to marry the daughter of Gao Observer, and after Pan'er found out, he went to Tokyo and confronted him face to face.
After meeting, Ouyang Xu excused himself that he did not have a formal official body, so he could not marry her for the time being.
He also implied that Pan'er was once a pariah woman, and if she married a right wife, it would become a stain on her life.
Later, he stated that he had agreed to marry because he had offended Gao Observant.
This remark seemed "sincere", but it could not cover up the fact that Ouyang Xu had changed his heart.
Xi Murong once said:
"There is no fate of separation and aging in this world, only a heart that is willing to love and unwilling to love."
In Ouyang Xu's heart, Zhao Pan'er was just a life-saving straw he could hold on to when he was down, and when he had a better place to go, this straw would naturally not be remembered.
But the person who pays his heart is "from now on, I only think about you, and other passers-by are not even objects in my eyes." ”
This is a confession of Zhang Guangzheng to his beloved in the TV series "Welcome".
He is an ordinary doorman in a five-star hotel, clumsily and infatuated in love with the goddess Zheng Youen.
Despite being teased by the goddess and taunted by his brothers, he never flinched.
"People have so many feelings in their lives, I want to use them all on one person, squeezed dry, exhausted, even if there is only an empty shell."
Tagore once said:
"No matter how long the shadow of the tree drags on at dusk, it cannot leave the roots, and no matter how far you go, you cannot walk out of my heart."
True love for someone, that's probably it, if you want to give her your whole heart, how can you fail him?
03. Take the initiative to give you points
Yu Qiuyu said:
"I don't have time to participate in your past, and I will accompany you to the end in your future."
For a woman who is really in her heart, men will have a strong "sense of territory" and want to impatient to give her a name and marry her home.
Only in front of lovers do men never nominate points.
Because the lover will never have a place in a man's life plan, and naturally will not be responsible for her future.
Remember the actress Wu Peici, who gave birth to four children for her boyfriend?
At the age of 36, she gave birth to a daughter for her boyfriend, and in the next 6 years, she worked very hard to have three children, but her boyfriend was always just a boyfriend.
No matter how much she hides her disinterest in "fame" in public, the helplessness in her words cannot be whitewashed.
You know, how can a man who really loves you and identifies you bear to let you be a single mother?
He will generously acknowledge your relationship, bring you into his life, give you a clear identity, and give you enough security.
There is a line in the movie "Predecessor 3":
"How do you prove that a man loves you? One is to spend money for you, and the other is to be willing to marry you. ”
If a man really loves you, he will not hide this relationship, he wants to "bind" with you for a lifetime, accompany you to watch the flowers bloom and fall, and count the years of thin water.
When Zhao Pan'er was most frustrated, he met Gu Qianfan, the commander of the Imperial City Division, and he was deeply attracted by Pan'er's wisdom and kindness, and stated that he would marry her as a right wife.
Despite repeated obstructions from his father, who was the prime minister, Gu Qianfan did not waver in his heart in wanting to give Pan'er the title of wife.
For someone who has a heart, how can a man be satisfied with letting her be his temporary lover?
A man who loves you may be subtle, but it must be obvious that he doesn't love you.
After all, the truest appearance of love is one room, two people, three meals, four seasons, waking up in anticipation and falling asleep in peace of mind. '
04. Mei Niang said
A quote from Sanmao comes to mind:
"If what you give me is the same as what you give to others, then I don't want it."
True love is always the only one.
It's really obvious if a man has given you exact love.
Instead of suffering from the person who hurt you, it is better to bravely say goodbye to the wrong in order to meet the right.
For the rest of your life, may you meet the love of your life and the person who loves you all your life in this mortal world, and will not be afraid of the long years and vicissitudes of the years.
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