When I was a child, my family was considered a well-off family, and the family atmosphere was relatively harmonious. After junior high school, the family fell in the middle of the road, and my parents began to make a big fuss over some small things. The impatience of the parents also began to show, and the father would magnify the mistakes made by the mother and like to put the responsibility on the mother.
The mother's approach to the father is not to resist, but to choose tolerance, indirectly sprinkling anger on the child. Living in this environment, I became unconstrained, became very inferior, unwilling to open my mouth to communicate with others, unwilling to make friends. Many things are held in my heart, it is really uncomfortable, what should I do?
This is a long-term expression of a child living in a primitive family with negative energy bursting, and it can be seen from the words that the primitive family has brought a great impact to this child, and even has affected his normal life. The injury of the primitive family is really a childhood nightmare for many people, a shadow that cannot be shaken off in a lifetime, and to put it more seriously, it is a ruin to a healthy child.
When parents attach the misfortunes and negative emotions in life to their children, the children will grow up with the pain of their parents, and this pain will become the shackles of the child's body, and the negative impact will shackle their life and become a scar that they can never erase.
Professor Li Meijin, an education expert, once said that if the child does not form a good attachment relationship with the parents, it will cause great potential psychological problems to the child, and the child will have anxiety, tension, depression and other problems in adulthood and even life.
In the book "Don't Want to Grow Up", there is such a passage: The child's mind is much more delicate and sharp than we think, and we must not underestimate it.
Unhappy families not only do not raise happy children, but children will have more problems when they grow up. Children should not become victims of misfortune in the lives of their parents, and parents should not pass on this misfortune to their children, but should protect their children from the influence of this misfortune and create a warm family growth environment for their children.
As a parent, whether life is satisfactory or unsatisfactory, the first thing you should do is to create a harmonious family environment for your children, so that children can grow up in a sunny and warm environment. A good primitive family environment is very important for the growth of a child, which will have a positive impact on the child's psychological quality and personality formation.
Give your children more companionship in life, so that children can feel the love of their parents and the warmth of their families. Professor Li Meijin said: It is better to earn money for children than to give children more companionship.
Many parents habitually vent their dissatisfaction and negative emotions about life on their children, use their children as a tool to vent, do not treat their children as an independent person, as their own private goods, and scold them if they want to fight, which is not only very wrong, but also brings great psychological harm to children.
Although we are the parents of children, it does not mean that we can think of what we can do to children, we must learn to respect children, treat children equally, do things with respect as the premise, and regard children as an independent and complete individual.
There is a passage in the book "The Road Less People Walk" that says it very well: Parents who truly love their children understand that loving their children is to respect their children, to respect their wishes and feelings, and to respect their right to decide.
In short, in our daily lives, we must pay attention to our own words and deeds, do not spread negative emotions to our children, let alone pass them on to our children, but to be a qualified parent, a parent who loves children and will raise children. It is not difficult to be a qualified parent, as long as you do the right thing, you can't be a parent with negative energy.